Does any one send "Thank You" cards/emails/texts anymore ??

KingsX

KingsX

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My only child died young, so all birthday and Christmas gifts [usually money] and eventually my estate go to my niece and nephew and their children. What bothers me is this... none of them will voluntarily send me back any notification the gifts have been received... much less a "thank you"... neither the children nor their parents. When I send a gift via Amazon, I will send an email alerting them to expect it and asking them to let me know it was received.... but no... they never send back an email to let me know it was received unless I send yet another email after the fact asking if it was received. In other words, my gifts all seem to go down a black hole of bad etiquette. So, to confirm they even received the gift, I have to follow up and ask. Frankly, I am getting tired and more than a little put off by it. When I was young and older relatives sent me or my child gift money in the mail, I always responded with a thank you note. If for no other reason, you'd think my relatives would want to encourage me to keep sending gifts [usually money]... which I am seriously considering NOT continuing to do in the future. I do have another adult nephew [single, no children] who I also used to send Christmas money [checks] to.... but after years of only getting a canceled check back in return, I stopped. It makes me want to rethink who will get my estate or if I will just spend it all on myself. Maybe one of my young grand nieces or nephews will prove themselves worthy [but I'm not holding my breath.]
 

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Last year my niece emailed me to say her young daughter was fund-raising for her school. So I mailed money to her.
But as usual, I never got a response. When I emailed to ask if the money was received, my niece said her daughter
was in the process of creating a hand-made thank you note... which sounded very nice, except I never received it.
 
Yes, some people do send thank yous. All of my grandchildren send thanks; their parents make sure of it.
 

A few but not many.

I always appreciate it when I get a thank you note but that is not why I make the gift.

I try not to ask about the gifts I give because when I was growing up I had an old spinster aunt that used to ask us about the gifts she gave us every time she saw us and eventually it became a tired old family joke, I don't want to go down in history as a family joke but I probably will anyway, LOL!!!

When it comes to your estate do what you feel is best. I wrestle with that and am not sure if I should leave whatever is left to individuals or to some sort of charity in memory of the people that raised me, I hope I get it right before it's too late.

Good luck!
 
I send thank you notes. When my kids were small and received a gift I always had them write out a thank you note. I remember sometimes it was like pulling teeth. Today I get written thank yous, thank you videos, or phone calls, from the Grand kids as well. I guess it paid off.
 
I always send thank you notes, I rarely receive any.

As far as your estate, it's YOURS. Enjoy it, do something you've always wanted to do. Treat yourself. Share it with your favorite charities. If concerned about relatives, you could always prepare your will and leave them each a box of thank you notes, a book of stamps and a blank address book.
 
Aunt Bea said:
A few but not many.

I always appreciate it when I get a thank you note but that is not why I make the gift.

I try not to ask about the gifts I give because when I was growing up I had an old spinster aunt that used to ask us about the gifts she gave us every time she saw us and eventually it became a tired old family joke, I don't want to go down in history as a family joke but I probably will anyway, LOL!!!

When it comes to your estate do what you feel is best. I wrestle with that and am not sure if I should leave whatever is left to individuals or to some sort of charity in memory of the people that raised me, I hope I get it right before it's too late.

Good luck!
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Call me old-fashioned, but when I send a gift in the mail... I want to know if it was received...
and I would also like to know if it was appreciated [apparently, I should already know it wasn't.]

If your "old spinster aunt" had known at the time, I'm sure she would have spent her money elsewhere.

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Ruth n Jersey said:
I send thank you notes. When my kids were small and received a gift I always had them write out a thank you note. I remember sometimes it was like pulling teeth. Today I get written thank yous, thank you videos, or phone calls, from the Grand kids as well. I guess it paid off.
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Excellent !

You taught your next two generations well !
 
dkay said:
I always send thank you notes, I rarely receive any.

As far as your estate, it's YOURS. Enjoy it, do something you've always wanted to do. Treat yourself. Share it with your favorite charities. If concerned about relatives, you could always prepare your will and leave them each a box of thank you notes, a book of stamps and a blank address book.
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LOL

I like how your mind works :)

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I make a thank you phone call or email when I receive a gift from family. My great-nephews who are in their teens always send me a thank you note by regular mail for my birthday gifts to them. It is nice to know that your gift was at least received, especially if you send cash, but that doesn't always happen.
 
I like to thank people personally so usually phone, but sometimes send a card or e mail to say Thank You and have brought my daughter up to do the same

I stopped sending birthday and Christmas gifts to my nieces and nephews because I didn’t receive any thanks or acknowledgements, I’d rather spend my money on people who appreciate it
 

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