Ever Sue Your Own kids ?

Davey Jones

Davey Jones

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I did 6 years ago when I LOANED $500 to my daughter and her husband for accumulated bills.
Showed the judge the cancelled check with the word "LOAN" written on it. Cost them $800 to give me my LOANED money back plus interest.
I thought I was being nice to give the money when they ask for it but they thought it was from "Daddy" so they didn't have to pay it back.
I wasn't being mean,her husband makes over $100,000 a year and they can't pay their own bills?

Why do our own kids ask for money and never think to pay it back?
 

Mine wouldn't dare!
i did lend my elder son some money when he was starting work after Uni, for a month.
after a month I got my money back, and a case of red, as interest. I appreciated that!
never a borrower or a lender be.....even to family.
 
I'm not suing them. Simply taking it out of the CD I have for them for when I die.

Won't THAT be a surprise?!
 

Good for you Davey, that is outrageous they would do that to you, especially if he makes that kind of $.

I don't have kids. But I know quite a few people that have that happen to them, lending money to relatives is problematic at best!

That's brilliant Falcon!
 
I can't think of any reason that I would ever even consider suing any of my children. If they needed help or money, and I had any money, I gladly gave them what I could to help, and never even aked them to pay it back. If they were in a position to pay it back later, that was fine, and if not, that was fine, too.
I think that going to court against my own child would cause a painful separation in our relationship, and there is nothing that I have that is worth more to me than my children mean to me. Everything else is just a replaceable object, my children are the center of my world.
 
Sad situation, Davey. Had to have been tough.

My girls have never asked me for $$$, probably because they know I don't have any....well, retirement $$, but I'm not touching that 'til I'm desperate.
 
Happyflowerlady said:
I can't think of any reason that I would ever even consider suing any of my children. If they needed help or money, and I had any money, I gladly gave them what I could to help, and never even aked them to pay it back. If they were in a position to pay it back later, that was fine, and if not, that was fine, too.
I think that going to court against my own child would cause a painful separation in our relationship, and there is nothing that I have that is worth more to me than my children mean to me. Everything else is just a replaceable object, my children are the center of my world.
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The thing is they ask for a loan and a loan is a commitment to pay it back. Isnt that what we teach our kids?
Had they ask "can you spare $500 to help us with our bills" I probably would give it to them AFTER I see all these bills FIRST.
MY son needed $9,000 as a down payment to buy my house that I owned 8 years ago and wanted to sell it to him.
I had no problem with writting a check for that amount since he's been a good kid to me and his Mom all of his 31 years.
 
Davey, I can surely see your point, that we need to teach our kids to be responsible, and keep their commitments. I just can't see the taking them to court part. Maybe, saying that his is a loan, and if you don't repay it, no more loans. Kind of like the "take out the garbage, and then you can have pie" kind of thing; like we did to teach them responsibility as a child.
And the house ....are you saying that you wrote him a check to buy the house from you, so the $9,000 down payment went back to you ??
 
We've helped both our sons quite a bit over the years when they were getting established, many thousands. Both now seem reasonably "comfortable" and we have never regarded any of the assistance as an official loan. Keeping our fingers crossed that they will repay in kind if/when we need it. The DILS are more likely to oblige in that regard (only kidding **).

** I think ;)
 
One more thing ..... both sons had accidents in our cars when they were younger and both paid for the damage. It was a definite condition of use and they complied. Neither has had an accident since (of which I am aware ;)).
 
Happyflowerlady said:
....are you saying that you wrote him a check to buy the house from you, so the $9,000 down payment went back to you ??
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NO, that was simply a gift from Father to son,my other daughter also ask for a bucks to tide her over because she was unemployed.
If she had show me some real effort to get a job instead of sitting around the house all day then I also would have giving her whatever she needed.
 
dbeyat45 said:
One more thing ..... both sons had accidents in our cars when they were younger and both paid for the damage. It was a definite condition of use and they complied. Neither has had an accident since (of which I am aware ;)).
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That a great idea,I must remember this when the 15 year old here get her real drivers liscense,she is now using a learners permit to drive my car WITH me in it.
 
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