Do any of you have family you just don't have any relationship with?
In this pandemic ...I am seeing my neighbor who is 80, tells me about getting more calls or Facetime ...or even family stopping by talking to her from probably 12 feet away ........ but before this she heard from some of these family members ......seldom or around holidays or some event.
I hope for her sake it continues after this has ended...... I doubt it.... looks from the outside like "remember me for the will " or social media posturing.
Do people feel need to connect to relate or is it like" my grandma/ aunt etc is older and I am checking in on her."..... or it looks good on a social media post.
This sudden burst of concern ....makes me think back to when local news anchors often really contorted themselves........ to somehow tie- in a local angle to a national or international story.
I have not spoken to a couple of sisters for a few years since our mother passed.....
I know why I have no interest in reaching out.................... as it is always the same ...Whoa is me story and asking for money........
I am just surprised as well they must need money more now but not a peep.
I often wonder if some day any of my nieces or nephews will try to look me up for whatever ...I guess you never know what their parent said about why we do not interact.
I also had my BF recently tell me how she had to do all these items for her elderly in-laws ........ in 20 plus years of friendship i never knew these people were alive.......BF and hubby have not had contact for decades i guess but as the only relatives they were contacted as both of the in-laws have serious issues and needed to be moved into assisted living......... and take care of a horrific mess of financial issues.
These folks have not spoken to their son or DIL in decades.... but now think they can order them around in taking care of items....
Is it just expected as people reach a certain age all past is forgotten and are supposed to re-connect ?
In this pandemic ...I am seeing my neighbor who is 80, tells me about getting more calls or Facetime ...or even family stopping by talking to her from probably 12 feet away ........ but before this she heard from some of these family members ......seldom or around holidays or some event.
I hope for her sake it continues after this has ended...... I doubt it.... looks from the outside like "remember me for the will " or social media posturing.
Do people feel need to connect to relate or is it like" my grandma/ aunt etc is older and I am checking in on her."..... or it looks good on a social media post.
This sudden burst of concern ....makes me think back to when local news anchors often really contorted themselves........ to somehow tie- in a local angle to a national or international story.
I have not spoken to a couple of sisters for a few years since our mother passed.....
I know why I have no interest in reaching out.................... as it is always the same ...Whoa is me story and asking for money........
I am just surprised as well they must need money more now but not a peep.
I often wonder if some day any of my nieces or nephews will try to look me up for whatever ...I guess you never know what their parent said about why we do not interact.
I also had my BF recently tell me how she had to do all these items for her elderly in-laws ........ in 20 plus years of friendship i never knew these people were alive.......BF and hubby have not had contact for decades i guess but as the only relatives they were contacted as both of the in-laws have serious issues and needed to be moved into assisted living......... and take care of a horrific mess of financial issues.
These folks have not spoken to their son or DIL in decades.... but now think they can order them around in taking care of items....
Is it just expected as people reach a certain age all past is forgotten and are supposed to re-connect ?
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