Forcing myself to socialize

[LoveTulips]

I just realize I can't do this anymore. No friends and not socializing at all with anyone except my husband for the last 3 years. I might end up strangling him. My husband doesn't socialize at all and doesn't care to. We also don't go anywhere or do anything (vacations, theatre, etc.).

I think I may go mad if I don't go out and talk to other people. So I have made myself a schedule and am going to the Seniors Centre. I'm not going with the attitude like I have to make friends. Also I'm going to not be so fussy about activities and/or people's personalities, I mean unless they are nasty to me. I just need other people to talk to about different things. Wish me luck. I'll let you know how it goes. This is what I have scheduled.

Wednesday: Crafts 1 - 3 pm
Monday: Carpet Bowling 1 - 3 pm
Tuesdays: Crafts 12:30 pm - 2:30 pm
Tuesdays: Artists Drop-In 3 - 5 pm
Fridays: Canasta 1 - 4 pm

 

[hollydolly]

I just realize I can't do this anymore. No friends and not socializing at all with anyone except my husband for the last 3 years. I might end up strangling him. My husband doesn't socialize at all and doesn't care to. We also don't go anywhere or do anything (vacations, theatre, etc.).

I think I may go mad if I don't go out and talk to other people. So I have made myself a schedule and am going to the Seniors Centre. I'm not going with the attitude like I have to make friends. Also I'm going to not be so fussy about activities and/or people's personalities, I mean unless they are nasty to me. I just need other people to talk to about different things. Wish me luck. I'll let you know how it goes. This is what I have scheduled.

Wednesday: Crafts 1 - 3 pm
Monday: Carpet Bowling 1 - 3 pm
Tuesdays: Crafts 12:30 pm - 2:30 pm
Tuesdays: Artists Drop-In 3 - 5 pm
Fridays: Canasta 1 - 4 pm

Good luck.... I know how you feel.... and I don't even have anyone here at all.

I wish there was a seniors centre near here...that has people under 90 in it..lol

 

[MaidMarian]

I just realize I can't do this anymore. No friends and not socializing at all with anyone except my husband for the last 3 years. I might end up strangling him. My husband doesn't socialize at all and doesn't care to. We also don't go anywhere or do anything (vacations, theatre, etc.).

I think I may go mad if I don't go out and talk to other people. So I have made myself a schedule and am going to the Seniors Centre. I'm not going with the attitude like I have to make friends. Also I'm going to not be so fussy about activities and/or people's personalities, I mean unless they are nasty to me. I just need other people to talk to about different things. Wish me luck. I'll let you know how it goes. This is what I have scheduled.

Wednesday: Crafts 1 - 3 pm
Monday: Carpet Bowling 1 - 3 pm
Tuesdays: Crafts 12:30 pm - 2:30 pm
Tuesdays: Artists Drop-In 3 - 5 pm
Fridays: Canasta 1 - 4 pm

I hope you have a fabulous time and make many new friends. I did this very thing about 10 years ago because my husband didn’t do anything either. It really worked out well. It may take a little time until people get to know you. Don’t give up.

 

[seadoug]

We used to have get-togethers in our neighborhood where each couple would host a "happy hour" in their home. When Covid hit, we had "movie nights" out in a grassy area out by the creek with a complete screen/sound setup. Sadly, many couples have moved to other cities/states and I only know a few people now and we never get together anymore.

I do miss the social aspect of it, but now I get my socialization by going to the grocery store, the gym or the pharmacy. Yes, it's brief but it's enough for me. I still have my hubby as well and we plan things to do together. I won't strangle him but I do notice he is more "present" since he quit working.

I hope you find satisfaction and socialization in the activities you've lined up. Sounds like fun!

 

[Vicky]

I defiantly need to socialize more. I am widowed and lonely. I need more companionship in my life.
Finding a place to socialize and meet new people in same age bracket is hard to do.
They seem to have senior centers, which cater to the activities that one is able to do in a chair. This is good, but I am not there yet.
Activities that engage in physical sports seems to be geared to the younger generations.
When I do find a group that I can share an interest in, it’s usually too far away.

 

[hollydolly]

I defiantly need to socialize more. I am widowed and lonely. I need more companionship in my life.
Finding a place to socialize and meet new people in same age bracket is hard to do.
They seem to have senior centers, which cater to the activities that one is able to do in a chair. This is good, but I am not there yet.
Activities that engage in physical sports seems to be geared to the younger generations.
When I do find a group that I can share an interest in, it’s usually too far away.

Same here... !