Does anyone else find comfort in designing their own funeral? I do; it eases my pain, soothes me, when I’m struggling. (Also, and importantly, it's a kindness to my family, to ease the burden of planning, allowing them to simply grieve, for the most part.)
I've looked around a little bit and haven't seen a thread specifically for this particular topic here so I thought I'd bring it up as it is of interest to me and I thought might be so to others, as well. Because it’s a thing that happens to literally everyone. Why not make it fun? And, if you do, the only way to do that is beforehand because of the being dead thing.
I have been looking at designs and examples for my funeral dress, which I would like to make for myself (I sew), but will resort to buying if necessary. It is going to be a long, hooded, long-sleeved, medieval-type dress and I will be lying in what will hopefully be a cardboard box, as I plan to be cremated, surrounded by Sunflowers and holding a bunch of them at my waist.
My hair will be pulled forward and my daughter will know how to apply my liquid moisturizer, mascara and eyeliner. I would like my fingernails to be painted a light shell pink and my toenails to match. No shoes and just the tips of my toenails showing beyond my dress.
Also I would like there to be no memorial service as I am reclusive and it would only be a pointless waste of money for my family and my one very close friend from childhood. They can have a little service at our house if they want to and actually, ---it’s just become part of my plan, now that I think of it. I’ve just incorporated it.
My only requirement (or wish I suppose is a better word) for the “after party” is the presence of enchiladas, good chocolate and excellent coffee.
I have researched funeral homes and crematoriums and put some information in a folder for my family so that they won't have too much to think/worry about and, importantly, won't have to spend too much money.
I actually found a cremation service that was having an urn sale, as in you get a free urn with your cremation. That cracked me up because we have always been very frugal and I would just love that; it would make my people laugh.
That's about as far as I've gotten, but as I say, it comforts me, the planning. I will die someday and when things are hard I find this exercise quieting.
I did see a thread (on a different site) about choosing funeral songs which is something I had not considered. I'll have to think about that because I think that's something nice that I would like to have at my little family memorial.
Anyone else do this?
Also, when lying in bed sometimes, does anyone else breathe out really slowly and pretend it’s their last breath? Or is that just me? -- That was a joke. I've been told I have a bit of a Wednesday Adams sense of humor so cut me some slack, but seriously, joking. Ha! I made an oxymoron.
I've looked around a little bit and haven't seen a thread specifically for this particular topic here so I thought I'd bring it up as it is of interest to me and I thought might be so to others, as well. Because it’s a thing that happens to literally everyone. Why not make it fun? And, if you do, the only way to do that is beforehand because of the being dead thing.
I have been looking at designs and examples for my funeral dress, which I would like to make for myself (I sew), but will resort to buying if necessary. It is going to be a long, hooded, long-sleeved, medieval-type dress and I will be lying in what will hopefully be a cardboard box, as I plan to be cremated, surrounded by Sunflowers and holding a bunch of them at my waist.
My hair will be pulled forward and my daughter will know how to apply my liquid moisturizer, mascara and eyeliner. I would like my fingernails to be painted a light shell pink and my toenails to match. No shoes and just the tips of my toenails showing beyond my dress.
Also I would like there to be no memorial service as I am reclusive and it would only be a pointless waste of money for my family and my one very close friend from childhood. They can have a little service at our house if they want to and actually, ---it’s just become part of my plan, now that I think of it. I’ve just incorporated it.
My only requirement (or wish I suppose is a better word) for the “after party” is the presence of enchiladas, good chocolate and excellent coffee.
I have researched funeral homes and crematoriums and put some information in a folder for my family so that they won't have too much to think/worry about and, importantly, won't have to spend too much money.
I actually found a cremation service that was having an urn sale, as in you get a free urn with your cremation. That cracked me up because we have always been very frugal and I would just love that; it would make my people laugh.
That's about as far as I've gotten, but as I say, it comforts me, the planning. I will die someday and when things are hard I find this exercise quieting.
I did see a thread (on a different site) about choosing funeral songs which is something I had not considered. I'll have to think about that because I think that's something nice that I would like to have at my little family memorial.
Anyone else do this?
Also, when lying in bed sometimes, does anyone else breathe out really slowly and pretend it’s their last breath? Or is that just me? -- That was a joke. I've been told I have a bit of a Wednesday Adams sense of humor so cut me some slack, but seriously, joking. Ha! I made an oxymoron.