Gee I am so great that I dont even like those who say they are great, (a thread on bragging too much)

grahamg

grahamg

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I can across this website and thought it might stimulate a conversation:
https://time.com/5095144/humblebrag-bragging/

|E.G? "I hate it that I look so young"!

Then there is this man who could boast a lot but back up his boasts too:
https://eu.usatoday.com/story/sports/boxing/2016/06/03/muhammad-ali-best-quotes-boxing/85370850/


Then there is this negative stuff:
https://www.heysigmund.com/toxic-people/comment-page-4/

You always …’ ‘You never …’ It’s hard to defend yourself against this form of manipulation. Toxic people have a way of drawing on the one time you didn’t or the one time you did as evidence of your shortcomings. Don’t buy into the argument. You won’t win. And you don’t need to.

They are judgemental.​

We all get it wrong sometimes but toxic people will make sure you know it. They’ll judge you and take a swipe at your self-esteem suggesting that you’re less than because you made a mistake. We’re all allowed to get it wrong now and then, but unless we’ve done something that affects them nobody has the right to stand in judgement.
Knowing the favourite go-to’s for toxic people will sharpen your radar, making the manipulations easier to spot and easier to name. More importantly, if you know the characteristic signs of a toxic person, you’ll have a better chance of catching yourself before you tie yourself in double knots trying to please them.

Some people can’t be pleased and some people won’t be good for you – and many times that will have nothing to do with you. You can always say no to unnecessary crazy. Be confident and own your own faults, your quirks and the things that make you shine. You don’t need anyone’s approval but remember if someone is working hard to manipulate, it’s probably because they need yours. You don’t always have to give it but if you do, don’t let the cost be too high."
 

I did not read your post or the other links you gave. I think you are great and the sooner you accept that the happier you will be. There is not a darn thing wrong with you other that you let others decide your value. Best wishes for a wonderful spring and summer!!
 
Teacher Terry said:
The great thing about getting older is that I don’t care what people think anymore. Wasted too many years with that crap. I also try not to be judgmental. People that brag are annoying.
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I had a very good friend once, a lady who had a varied career, running a bar for a couple of years, a hairdressers, and for many years her own care home for disabled people, (and organised a group to assist single people find love). She was an excellent businesswoman and wonderful carer, who used to state: "You're mistaking me for someone who gives a damn"!
Of course nothing could be further from the truth as far as caring goes.
It was true that she was not going to let what other people thought hold her back, as she was very strong and could be very competitive. Unfortunately she was "unlucky in love", (making the wrong choices and going for men who were a bit flash she said).
Whilst I agree we may care less what other people think as we get older, everything tells me it still matters to so many when it comes to it, or so I think. :)
 
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