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Horsedame

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Help with writing an email to let my adult grandson that we will not be gift giving this Christmas. He had his Mom call me and ask where his Christmas check was. Grrrrrr!!!!
 

Welcome to the forum, Horsedame.

If you'd care to share more details, I'm sure many members here would gladly discuss your predicament with you. Meanwhile, based on your "Grrrrr!!!!", I suggest you hold off writing until you've cooled down a bit.
 
Horsedame, your post is quite different from the usual forum introduction. Welcome. :)


What did you say to his mother?

Anyway, if you want to send him an email,
KEEP IT SHORT & TO THE POINT.

Dear (Grandson),

As you know - and requested - your mother called me to ask where your Christmas check was.

You are an adult. You're capable of communicating with me directly.

However, I won't be sending you a check. [Insert reason here if you want to]

Meanwhile you really need to work on your sense of entitlement.

Wishing you happiness and good health in the New Year.

Love,
Grandma (Grandpa)
 

Maybe this oldie will geminate a thought direction;

Son at college, mailing his dad

Dear Dad
No mon, no fun, your son


Dad's reply

Dear son
Too bad, so sad, your dad
 
Hi Horsedame, that question can better be answered in this Family section here. https://www.seniorforums.com/forumdisplay.php/10-Family-amp-Relationships

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Aunt Bea said:
Just let it go.

I would be more concerned about his mom for passing the question along.
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Re-thinking...
I'll leave my other post as is, but Aunt Bea has a very good point.

If son was complaining, mom should have told him "that's between you and your grandmother".
Just because grandson asked mom to call, she didn't have to.
Hmmm. Now I'm wondering if it was mom who was upset about the lack of a check. Why is she even getting in the middle of it? Something seems "off".

OP - you haven't responded or acknowledged replies.
 
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jujube said:
Welcome, Horsedame! In our family, the Christmas presents stop when you become an adult (graduate from college or strike out on your own). We concentrate on "the kids".

Just tell him that he has "aged out" of the Christmas present checks.
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Want to thank all of you for your input on this. My grandson did call me a few days later and I did explain to him that at the age of 21 we will not be sending gifts but will continue to see greeting cards and well wishes from here on out. He was not upset at this and we had a very nice conversation. This is a very uncomfortable situation but you know just waiting a few days (and I was going to email him with our reason) it turned out very well. Happy New Year to all.
 
Live in horse country Aiken SC. Did have horses in my younger years. Just love seeing them all around me. My love are the mini's.
There is one within walking distance from my house. So darn cute. He's about 36" high.
 
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