Gluing Together Your Self Respect

[fureverywhere]

Really, with this job search my ego is like this poor little goldfish pitched out of it's bowl, just laying on the counter waiting to suffocate or get eaten by the cat. I mean at our age we can spend a lot of time musing on how much we screwed up. If I could go back to twenty with what I know now. You know the feeling? However dwelling there too long can send you down the rabbit hole. So I'm trying to put my little fish back in the bowl. Just take it easy, you can grow into a Koi if you try. I just have to keep the bowl more secure

Today I re-typed a cover letter I didn't save on my flash drive. Normally it can be a hassle re-typing something lengthy. But you know it really made me feel remarkably better. I detailed my internship at an adult care facility. What I learned from that and fifteen years with my daughter. When I can get it down on paper more or less I realize hey I done good. No I don't belong working at McDonalds. I need to get these cover letters and personal references out there. I really am empathetic and compassionate, it's not just what they want to hear. I can spell, I can write big words...I can save my goldfish!!!!


I'm also suggesting it as an exercise for other folks. If you enjoy writing or typing. Compose something about what you really feel positive about, things you are really over the top great at doing. Then at the dark moments read it over a bunch of times. It can make such a big difference

 

[BlunderWoman]

I'm also suggesting it as an exercise for other folks. If you enjoy writing or typing. Compose something about what you really feel positive about, things you are really over the top great at doing. Then at the dark moments read it over a bunch of times. It can make such a big difference

That's really why I began that other thread about writing down how you see yourself & then asking family and friends. It was my daughters suggestion really because I beat myself up with guilt all the time. It did really help me.
Fur, job hunting can feel so discouraging and depressing. It's a shame people don't get hired like they did in the old days and it's all online mainly. I think that's not really bright of the employers either because you can't really get a complete sense of someone in type online. Please keep your chin up and I truly hope you do get a job you would like.

 

[Capt Lightning]

In the most curious job interview I had, I had a very informal chat with a manager who had been in the Royal Marines for 22 years. Actually he had been in Band of the Royal Marines, and he was interested to know about a dance hall that he fondly remembered. I knew the place he meant and we chatted about this for about 30 mins.
I got the job and some time later, I ventured to suggest that they simply interviewed suitably qualified applicants to see if they liked them. I was told that I was basically correct. You can't get a full picture from a page of writing.

Keep going and I'm sure you'll get what you want.

 

[Debby]

Blunderwoman, I think employers make a point of checking out folks on Facebook nowadays. In her last job, my daughter used to participate in the hiring and she made a point of doing that. You can tell a lot about a person if their FB comments are catty or kind, hints of violence or ? She also checked out her room mates that way and had good luck with both.

 

[Butterfly]

Fur, I'm hoping you can find something soon. With your background, you should be perfect for an adult day care facility or working with disabled folks in general.

I'm so glad I never had to struggle like you are in finding something. I worked as a paralegal forever, and went from one job to another just by hearing from colleagues that such and such firm was looking for a paralegal. I knew many, many people in the profession and had worked with many of them in one way or another and so didn't have any problem at all finding another job when I needed one. I don't think I ever went through a background check, as I always knew the people, and they knew me.

I can so understand how terrible all this is making you feel, and I truly hope you find something soon. Sending you hugs and good thoughts!

 

[Wrigley's]

That's a good post, fur. I'd hire someone just based on that attitude.

 

[jnos]

I don't know you or your background, but you sound ideal for any type care facility. Do you have any formal training or license? I'm only asking because I know a skilled teacher, unemployed after 15 years, who change careers. She took a CNA (Certified Nursing Assistant) course offered by a local career counseling service here. She paid around $700 for the course, but after completion did get a partial scholarship (most, if not all the students did). She completed the class in the evenings and and some Saturdays. She was quickly hired because, at least here, they are always looking for help in assisted living or nursing homes.

This was a local non-profit Career Center. Not sure if they have those in other areas or not. Best of luck on the job hunt.

 

[Underock1]

Yeah, looking for a job when you really need one is the worst. A solution always seems to arrive, but you can never see it coming until it gets here. I really feel for you, Furry. I'm glad to be out of it.