Got a letter from Rick's nursing home...doing a memorial for all who passed this year

[Marie5656]

So, I went to the grief group today, and had a good meeting. Got home to see a letter from the Nursing Home that Rick was at before he died. I guess every year they do a memorial service for all residents who have died in past year. Family and staff are invited to attend.
I am a but torn. I have not been to the nursing home since the day he died, when I went to pick up his belongings. I am not sure if this will open any wounds up. Kind of wish I had gotten the letter before going to my group, to get input.
I did "move up" in the group. My first few visits were for newcomers to group. I am now in the second step, for those who have been attending a while. I think it is good, because most of the folks there have had their loss for a year or more, so it is good to hear their perspectives on all the "first year" anniversaries".

 

[Aunt Bea]

That would be a tough call for me.

It might be nice to see some of the staff that took care of Rick during his stay.

The good news is that if it becomes uncomfortable you can quickly slip out and be on your way.

Good luck with your decision.

 

[RadishRose]

Agree, tough one. I like AB's thought about slipping out if it hurts. Maybe like just test the water with your toe. Good luck, my friend.

 

[Marie5656]

Thanks. I will probably go. I might ask a good friend of his, who visited him often, if he wants to meet me there,

 

[Ronni]

I was going to suggest attending with someone

Also a lot of suppprt groups have long time
Members who are available for a phone call if a newer member is in crisis or needs help. If your group offers this or even if it’s jist that you have contact info for a more seasoned member you might want to call and ask for some advice.

 

[Lc jones]

That would be like visiting the nursing home that my father was in when he passed away. I could never go back there it would rip my heart out of my chest. But I am the hypersensitive type. But it would be nice if you could thank the staff for caring for your dear husband perhaps maybe a gift to be sent to them I’d hate to see you suffer but then maybe it would be a little different for you. I wish you all the best

 

[SeaBreeze]

I think that would be a hard decision for me too Marie, it would be nice if you decided to go to have a friend there with you. I doubt I could ever handle the loss of my husband and being on my own as well as you have, I admire you and think of you often.....hugs.

 

[Ruth n Jersey]

If you find comfort in going then you should go. Only you must decide.