Greetings from New Guy in CA!

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Hi all,
just registered and feeling my way around here. I retired in August and I really wasn't prepared for the change. It's a full time job just trying to figure out what to do every day! So I'm here looking for ideas. About me: I'm engaged and we will be married in two weeks. I was single for twelve years and this is another big change! I'm lookin forward to hearing from all of you and making new "friends."
Jim in So. Cal.
 

Thanks, I'm wondering what other majors life changes I can think up.... :)
 

Thanks everyone!

I am trying to figure out retirement. It sounds crazy but although I have a lot to do, I'm bored. I think it's the absence of people around me. When you work you start every day saying good morning to an assortment of people and then you're interacting all day. In retirement, all those people are gone. This is probably what brought me to this forum. Anyone else out there experiencing anything like this?
 
Hello, welcome to the forum and, congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

I was single 14 years and stubbornly independent --- not an admirable trait in women of my generation - lol lol lol Point being, be very patient with your new roommate. 12 years by yourself is going to make even the smallest and most simple "intrusions" become an annoyance. We have been married 8 years and I still get annoyed but, most things aren't worth crowing about - lol lol

However, we do maintain separate TV's as we absolutely do not agree on what to watch and neither of us will concede - lol lol lol

Mr. TWH Rider still works because he is Hypertensive Type A and also wants to collect the max on his S.S. I retired at 64 because of some health issues that were keeping me from getting to work on time. I still have four horses to keep me busy; mukking stalls, getting them ready for turnout, then getting ready to be at work by 9:00 AM was starting to take a toll. Since the horses aren't going anywhere until it's time to send them to their ancestors, the part time job did - lol

If you can't get your brain to slow down to full retirement, you might consider a part time job either in your field of expertise or something totally different that you always thought you might like to try.

Volunteer work could take up some time, as well.

Maybe a sport that you never had time for, that won't kill you; that means NO football - lol

If you're a longtimer in your community, maybe even the headaches of running for a local government office.

There's plenty of options, just have to sit back and think outside the box, once you say your "I Do's" :)

What part of CA? I lived in SoCal five years, which is where I met my husband. We didn't get married until we reached Tennessee. I said if we didn't kill each other on the move (two Ryder trucks, him pulling the ancient Cheby, me pulling my horses, plus three dogs and a cat), then I'd marry him. We didn't, so I made good on my word - lol lol lol
 
Well that was dumb. I sat here and typed a reply, then hit the wrong button and lost it. :(

Thank you for your thoughtful message. I'm still transitioning. I've considered a part time lob and am looking into a couple of volunteer opportunities but not rushing into anything. I think the first thing to do is to build a social circle locally. I don't want us to have to rely on each other for entertainment 24/7!
howd you guys wind up in TN? That's a big move!
We are in Riverside. I'm a casualty of the housing crash and I'm just kinda stuck in this house.
What types of work are you and Mr. TWH involved in, or retired from?
Thanks again for the message. Keep in touch!
jim
 
jdatbs said:
Well that was dumb. I sat here and typed a reply, then hit the wrong button and lost it. :(

Thank you for your thoughtful message. I'm still transitioning. I've considered a part time lob and am looking into a couple of volunteer opportunities but not rushing into anything. I think the first thing to do is to build a social circle locally. I don't want us to have to rely on each other for entertainment 24/7!
howd you guys wind up in TN? That's a big move!
We are in Riverside. I'm a casualty of the housing crash and I'm just kinda stuck in this house.
What types of work are you and Mr. TWH involved in, or retired from?
Thanks again for the message. Keep in touch!
jim
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I have lost posts many times - lol lol I have learned to copy/paste before I hit the "send" button as I often hit something besides "send" and lose everything - lol

We lived in what I called "Upper Romoland". If you're in Riverside and ever ventured toward Sun City and/or Hemet, you know there's a part of Romoland that was barely safe to venture thru in the daytime - lol lol lol

Mr. TWH was already in SoCal for many years before I met him. I'm from the OH/PA border originally. I lost my job of 17 years and my 19 yr old son within a year of each other and just did not want to stay in the area anymore. I found a temporary job with the district office of the Long Beach postal service on a fluke, passed all the tests and security screenings, bought the house with 1.75 acres in Romoland (called a ranch out there, a mud paddock where I'm from:) and out I went. I bought right at the tail end of SoCal's mid-80's real estate collapse. We sold right at the peak, when it was a Seller's market, in 2003 because we could see how everything was going backward again.

Tennessee was my idea because I have Tennessee Walking Horses and fell in love with this area 22+ years ago. I knew back then I would retire here and thankfully Mr. TWHRider was all for that. We wanted four mild seasons without having to experience that gawrsh-awful bone-chilling cold north of the Mason-Dixon.

I was an engineering assistant for nuclear and mechanical engineers when I lived on the OH/PA border. The postal job was coming to an end, so I learned a whole new trade of being a Planner/Scheduler for a manufacturer of semi-conductor die in Temecula; it started out temporary but went to full time. I knew nothing about being a scheduler but I am a whiz-bang with software and quickly picked up on how to surf between their seven integrated programs. It sure helped the Senior Scheduler was a fantastic woman who was very willing to keep my learning curve as low as possible.

Mr. TWHRider has been with Ford his entire life and works full time for the dealership in our county. He is so Hypertensive Type A that he has to keep working - lol lol He keeps saying he is out of there when he hits 66 but I'm not sure he will mean that when the time comes - lol

We have 22 acres and my four horses, which keeps us really busy. We both did a lot of traveling in our younger days, so sittin' still up on this hill, just bushhoggin' and mukkin' stalls is actually quiet time for us - lol lol If I want conversation with someone besides the horses, I belong to several horse forums and this very nice Senior forum:)
 

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