With my hair, it is very fine and thin, and breaks easily. All started at a young age...I was born with very straight hair, in an era when my mom wanted a little "Shirley Temple" So, she took it upon herself to start perming my hair from the time I was 5 or 6!!! Really. It eventually damaged my hair beyond repair, and finally in my 20s I said no more perms. No color, no perms, no chemicals at all.
So now it is very thin, and I have some patchy spots. I keep it very short (as you see in my profile picture). It is to the point that I have been called "sir" by strangers. But, it is what I need to do to at least have it look OK. People have suggested getting extentions, or a wig. I am not comfortable with either option
I would love the freedom to try different styles, but I will have to take what nature, and circumstances have given me.
Marie, you're lucky because short hair looks good on you. There are a lot of reasons that people choose the length and style of hair that they do, as Wren said, it's a very personal decision. I've seen many beautiful women over the years with super short or long hair, the length of hair isn't what makes them beautiful, it's the whole package including their hearts and personalities.
My mother colored and had her hair done in the beauty parlor regularly but never had it long. When she became older, her hair thinned and she started having a bald spot at the top. That was the first time in her life that she grew her hair, just to pull it up in a braided bun to cover the spot, by this time she was completely gray.
When I was a kid, my mother gave me the simple Buster Brown haircut, short below the ear and bangs straight across. She gave me those Tonette perms at home too, luckily my hair was thick enough not to be permanently damaged from them. She also used thinning shears to thin my hair out.
When I became a teenager, I had the freedom to grow my hair, the longest I wanted it was down to the bottom of the shoulder blades, longer than that it looked ratty on the ends and not healthy from root to end and it just didn't feel good for me. I kept that length into my 20s and 30s. I was never a 'girly girl', didn't fuss with it, put it up, braid it or anything like that....although I did get a couple of perms in my adult years. I've always been a bit rugged, doing things outdoors, so I always let my hair dry naturally or sometimes blow dry it if needed, but with no particular styling. Most I'd do it put it in a rubberband if I was working outdoors.
Now, I wear it in a medium to long shag-like style, sometimes with bangs, sometimes without. My hair isn't curly or straight, there's a little natural wave to it, so I just let it do it's thing.