Know several people actually it seems you have to spell things out in detail. Literal only. No nuances or 'gist' of the conversation. No I know what you mean. Have to be extremely careful with choice of words. Some of these people were never mr or mrs personality but they are getting very picky about your language along with getting slower I guess. Maybe that's a good thing-people being much more formal or precise in their language. On the other people shouldn't need an owners manual or dictionary to converse.
Have to spell things out. Unhip or getting slower. No nuances.
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RadishRose
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Maybe people don't converse in person as much as before- where one can see a smile, etc and absorb the connotations?
That's a good point. Ironically these same people will give a very scorned look if you don't get it or agree with them. But a legal or process oriented conversation between to common folk now seems to require a handbook, a grammar specialists and arbitrator.
Geezerette
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I think it's related to people being less trusting than they used to be, a feeling that they have to worry being taken advantage of or not want to be taken the wrong way; so much polarization. Reminds me of an old classic cartoon. One man in an office saying "Good " Morning" and the one he's speaking to with a thought balloon over his head of "I wonder what he meant by that..."
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Hmm, it seems to me that your text is proving their point.
Roadwarrior
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Texting is another BAD communication venue. My g-daughter's husband & my daughter's(her aunt) SO were working on a project together. My D texted my GD to find out what was happening. I was there through the whole incident. After 2-3 texts (ea) a big fight started developing. To this day (5 years) my D & GD are on tenuous terms all over a simple text that was taken out of context. I personally despise texting! I tell my wife than when it gets to 3 texts back 'n forth it's time to call.
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It may depend on the age and background of the people involved in the conversation.
It's probably best to speak plainly and directly to avoid any misunderstandings.
It's probably best to speak plainly and directly to avoid any misunderstandings.
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It may depend on the age and background of the people involved in the conversation.
It's probably best to speak plainly and directly to avoid any misunderstandings.
I agree but one individual is just waiting to correct or admonish you like a teacher in a classroom. Another you cannot reference pop culture or use decades old sayings, euphemisms etc. At times both act the same.
Both are in their 80s and their behavior didn't change until their 80s. I don't know if it's age or maybe new situations and people have thrown them for a loop. Both have lost a lot of family over the last decade.
Geezerette
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When you say they're in their 80s & have had losses it sounds to me that this relatively new behavior is some sort of a lifeline for them because they are scared s-less of what's happening to them, trying to have some kind of control over an uncontrollable fate. If it were me I'd try to ignore it, and avoid spending much time with them.
Good point although both were always a bit hardline in their ways or opinion but they are much much more up front/blunt now.