Me too. I have a couple of friends with Cerebral Palsy (birth defect) who are my age who cherish each day as a gift - something I wouldn't put up with in their situation for very long.
Have you ever contemplated suicide?
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hypochondriac
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not mental illness then?
Lara
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When you go off some meds cold turkey on your own, like Prozac, without tapering off under the care of a physician, you might experience serious suicidal thoughts.
We've all lived a long time and everyone seems very smart here so everyone probably knows this already, however I feel compelled to mention it in case someone slipped through the cracks. It's important.
We've all lived a long time and everyone seems very smart here so everyone probably knows this already, however I feel compelled to mention it in case someone slipped through the cracks. It's important.
Yes. When my fiancée was killed by a drunken driver over four decades ago, I didn't have a lot to live for anymore. It was only when someone asked me had the situation been reversed what would I have wished for her that I realized I'd want for her to go on. Living in that belief enabled me to continue and gradually rebuild my life and assign new meaning to it. That doesn't mean that I haven't had the "what ifs" and thought of her every day, however...
I have investigated about 5 or 6 suicides. In the cases that I can recall, the suicides were achieved by overdose of pain pills or sleeping pills, two by gun and one by jumping into the river. As it is even in accidents, contacting the next of kin is extremely hard. The first question they ask is, "Why?" We tell them that we were hoping they would be able to tell us.
The worse part of any suicide for those they leave behind is when they do not leave any message. Not knowing seems to be very painful and makes the act that much more hurtful to their survivors.
One psychiatrist told us that suicide is a very cowardly and selfish act. Do you believe that? I would think someone would have to be pretty brave to take their own life, especially jumping off of a bridge or even putting a gun to one's own head. Taking pills and going to sleep, maybe not so much.
The worse part of any suicide for those they leave behind is when they do not leave any message. Not knowing seems to be very painful and makes the act that much more hurtful to their survivors.
One psychiatrist told us that suicide is a very cowardly and selfish act. Do you believe that? I would think someone would have to be pretty brave to take their own life, especially jumping off of a bridge or even putting a gun to one's own head. Taking pills and going to sleep, maybe not so much.
I have read that the thought crosses every mind at times of stress, I have had a lot of family stress, financial stress, and every type of stress you could think of and some were my own doing ( a finger pointing directly in my direction) but have always had persons in my life that need me so it is out of question, ( I think God put them there to keep me in line ) but when they say Norman it is time for you to get your Jammies you are going to the nursing home, Hell yes I would, but Sweeties mom spent 10 years in a nursing home and loved it. To her it was like a club...
Ronni
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I have.
During the very worst of the times with my ex when I had no hope of ever escaping, I thought about it constantly. The only thing that stopped me was that I would be leaving my kids with the monster.
Every night though I would go to bed and pray to a God i no longer believed in that I just would not wake up. Please don’t let me wake up. That way my kids couldn’t blame me for leaving them.
So grateful now that I didn’t have the courage then.
During the very worst of the times with my ex when I had no hope of ever escaping, I thought about it constantly. The only thing that stopped me was that I would be leaving my kids with the monster.
Every night though I would go to bed and pray to a God i no longer believed in that I just would not wake up. Please don’t let me wake up. That way my kids couldn’t blame me for leaving them.
So grateful now that I didn’t have the courage then.
No. According to reports, he had a condition called "Lewy Body Syndrome" - a neurological disorder. But, of course any physical illness can cause depression.
I don't know if Robin Williams had any drugs or alcohol in his system, but an illness that causes uncontrollable movements can be pretty devastating.
I do suspect one thing. The method & place he chose tells me he may have wanted to "get back" at his wife for something. He didn't go somewhere in private & do it where the police (who are accustomed to it) would find him; he did it where he knew his wife would find him.
Pappy
Living the Dream
No, never. Don’t know how I’ll feel if my wife goes before me, but right now, I would not consider it.
Leann
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I don't think I've ever spoken about this to anyone but yes, I thought about it two times in my life. Once when I was a teenager growing up in a hellish home where arguing, degrading comments and physical violence was the norm and then later when my then-husband pretty much created a similar environment in our marital home. I was too much of a coward to act on my thoughts but sometimes the pain was so deep, it seemed like the only way out was to die. I am a much-changed woman now, thankfully, but I do remember those very dark times.
Well, I had to LOL (even though it's not a funny topic). My sense of humor! You're right about a shotgun. If that's all I had, I'd go in the back yard & wrap myself up in a thick blanket to minimize the...........
You might check my post in:
Can You Love and Respect Your Parents and Not Have A Close Relationship With Them?
"And, parents who pass the abuse along into their own families (under the guise of "discipline" or "being strict") fail to realize the type of kids they're bringing up & what type of adults they will become.
I dated several women who had such parents - always expecting me to hurt them, always expecting the worst from me, regardless of how well I treated them or how much I respected them. My ex wife fit that perfectly - always accusing me or cheating, "looking," etc. Funny - SHE's the one who cheated & destroyed the marriage. And such women frequently choose men who are like their abusive parents because that's what they're accustomed to & abuse becomes "normal" in their minds. And an abusive childhood usually results in adults with low self esteem, so when their boyfriend/husband is abusive, they feel they deserve it....after all, they've had many years of thinking, "If I wasn't such a bad kid, my parents wouldn't have to be so mean to me."
Also when you go on some meds like Prozac one of the main side effects are suicidal thoughts. In fact many anti depressant drugs have suicidal thoughts as side effects. Just thought I’d mention that too.
They have added another word to the warning about suicidal thoughts. "Homicidal Thoughts."
Pecos
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No, but I have known people who did it and I still don' understand why even after reflecting at length on the adversities they were dealing with. Earlier this year I had to go through nine weeks of radiation treatment for prostrate cancer. At times the side effects were very unpleasant. One of the men going through the treatment dropped out which greatly saddened the rest of us. Who knows what else he was dealing with in his life. Our attempts to cheer him up failed.
You "don't understand why" they committed suicide because you probably don't have the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes. And, medical issues are not the same for everyone, even though they have the same name.