I understand where you are coming from, I just don't care to engage in a relationship. I enjoy the male company of friends, but these are people I have known all my life. They also were friends with my husband. I don't think anyone is desperate but it is a well known fact that a widower will remarry in a short time period because they are accustomed to having a wife to take care of the home, have a companion for outings etc.@Youngster, I don't want to get off topic into a discussion about relationships because that belongs in another thread. But I'm going to address what Blessed said and answer her question.
@Blessed, I can't and wouldn't presume to speak for other single, divorced, or widowed ladies. I'm aware that my needs and wants are different from those of others. You don't consider a love relationship or even a companion to be necessary or desirable. I recognize that your pets, son, and grandson provide you with satisfaction. If that works for you, that's wonderful.
Just to be clear, the desire for a companion or love interest doesn't mean that I don't value myself, my time, or my interests. Why would it? Yes, the game is different now, life changes, but that doesn't mean I have to sit on the bench. If the opportunity arises, I can choose to step up to the plate if I want to. If by chance I find a companion or love interest, I'm not going to disintegrate because of it.
I'd like to have a companion or partner, but that doesn't mean I'm desperate. I can certainly manage to live out the remainder of my days as they are. I'm neither gullible nor naive when it comes to trusting people. I'm not anyone's servant, cook, or fool. I'm not on the lookout for a prince, and I have no intention of kissing any frogs.
Any expectations I might have are grounded in reality.
Well, my friend, it's okay if you don't get it, I don't really expect you to.The fact that I understand it is what matters.
Bella
I am past the age that I do not need a romantic partner. I am not saying that applies to anyone else but we must admit there are a few on the board that have married and it has not gone well. The marriage usually is not about true romantic love but just the idea of having someone, so they are not alone. That is strange to me, I would/could not commit to any relationship that was not a love match.