Have you found lockdown a good excuse....

hollydolly

hollydolly

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..not to meet up with family members or people you'd really rather not spend time with but can usually not avoid ..?

Has it been a big relief not to have to deal with an irritable sister.. or niece.....or a toxic friend ?.. are you dreading the end of lockdown for that reason ?
 

On the contrary, assert yourself with those toxic types. When some awful, busy body made an impertinent remark I said: "I'm sure that respect and courtesy were meant for you, chances are, those two genes missed the mark at conception." That got me cold shouldered.

I really want to get out there and party.
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hollydolly said:
Has it been a big relief not to have to deal with an irritable sister.. or niece.....or a toxic friend ?.. are you dreading the end of lockdown for that reason ?
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No not at all. I was an only child so no siblings, nephews or nieces. People I'd rather not spend time with I already avoided before lockdown. Don't have anything to do with my exes or their families either. Miss seeing my children and grandchildren as often as I used to and when we do it's outdoors at two meters distance. Miss the little ones cuddles, only held my seven month old grandson about three times, first time when he was three months old. That hurts like hell.
 
Our lockdowns haven't been as stringent as in other parts of the world. When it did occur, I missed my best friends, but we kept in touch by phone, zoom etc. I have no trouble avoiding toxic people lockdown or no lockdown.
 
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We did have to cancel a trip to Montana last year to see husband's sister due to Covid. We never liked her but there was some business to attend to out there. She threw a fit because she doesn't believe in Covid and now won't talk to us. So something good did come out of this.

There was one club we belong to that had become pathetic due to a lack of attendance and members. I don't think it will survive and it doesn't break my heart.

Still want this to end so we can get together with people we like.
 
Definitely!
My nephew--who I've always treated like a son because he didn't have much of a father--turned on me. When my sister & I both got colds, he accused me of giving her my cold because I'm "Reckless." He also yelled at his mother because she had her hair & nails done. Ridiculous, because he goes to work & his wife goes shopping.
I think the Covid (along with his antidepressant medications) have messed up his brain. I'm delighted he is too scared to visit me & I doubt I'll ever speak to him again.
 
Well, I'm disabled, in a wheelchair, so that cramps my socializing to begin with. But I want this just to end. God, I want it over. I live out in the sticks, so when it snows hard, there's no way to get to my home. For a time, the nearest plowed road and help is a half mile away. When I look down my driveway, and into my neighbors' places, it's all snow, snow, snow. I used to be afraid that if I had a heart attack, they would need a helicopter to get me out. It's hard to describe, but that's the same kind of feeling I get from being locked up.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
Well, I'm disabled, in a wheelchair, so that cramps my socializing to begin with. But I wan this just to end. God, I want it over. I live out in the sticks, so when it snows hard, there's no way to get to my home. For a time, the nearest plowed road and help is a half mile away. When I look down my driveway, and into my neighbors' places, it's all snow, snow, snow. I used to be afraid that if I had a heart attack, they would need a helicopter to get me out. It's hard to describe, but that's the same kind of feeling I get from being locked up.
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Do you think that this is a lesson learned for many people, in that realising they're in a situation such as you, that they may decide to move into town or village when this is all calmed down..
 
win231 said:
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My nephew--who I've always treated like a son because he didn't have much of a father--turned on me. When my sister & I both got colds, he accused me of giving her my cold because I'm "Reckless." He also yelled at his mother because she had her hair & nails done. Ridiculous, because he goes to work & his wife goes shopping.
I think the Covid (along with his antidepressant medications) have messed up his brain. I'm delighted he is too scared to visit me & I doubt I'll ever speak to him again.
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It's hard to engage with someone ,who has mental issues. I worked in a mental institution for years, and never met a patient, who didn't burn all his bridges.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
It's hard to engage with someone ,who has mental issues. I worked in a mental institution for years, and never met a patient, who didn't burn all his bridges.
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I don't think he's mentally ill. When he was around 8, he realized his parents didn't like each other & when they divorced a couple of years later, he started acting up. His mother took him to a doctor & (of course) he prescribed Paxil & other drugs, which I think made him worse.
 
The lock-down really hasn't had an impact on my social life, which has always been centered around family. My sons and I still visit each other but I don't see my daughter and her family very often bc they live about 600mi away. My grandkids visit, and the younger ones take turns spending weekends here. My former foster son does, too, a few times a month. And my lady friend and I spend time together whenever we can (she works).

As for toxic people, there are a few in my family but we avoided each other before lock-down. The only change is that me and neighbors who are good friends chat outside from a reasonable distance and don't go inside each other's apartments anymore.
 
hollydolly said:
..not to meet up with family members or people you'd really rather not spend time with but can usually not avoid ..?

Has it been a big relief not to have to deal with an irritable sister.. or niece.....or a toxic friend ?.. are you dreading the end of lockdown for that reason ?
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I've been kind of a lone wolf since getting out of the Army. What I mean by "lone wolf" is that I really am not interested in having buddies and hanging out. I prefer my own counsel, don't allow others to influence me beyond what I myself desire. I am a homebody, and am married to a woman who also enjoys staying close to the abode. So, the lockdown only has a limited effect on me, I do look forward to going out to my favorite restaurants again. I have to say though, the lockdown is a 'built in' excuse NOT to travel, which I do not enjoy. My daughter moved to St.Thomas VI a couple years ago, I would love to see her but would not enjoy the travel down there.
 
No, on the contrary, I miss my entire family very much... especially my two g-nieces (ages 3 yrs. old and 22 month old). I can't wait to see my family as I haven't seen them since November 2019.
 
hollydolly said:
..not to meet up with family members or people you'd really rather not spend time with but can usually not avoid ..?

Has it been a big relief not to have to deal with an irritable sister.. or niece.....or a toxic friend ?.. are you dreading the end of lockdown for that reason ?
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As an extremely introverted person the isolation is a blessing for me. I work remotely and on occasion I am summoned to a site. I loathe getting dressed & leaving the house & having to communicate with other beings.
 
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