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I'm Elaine, I retired a little over a year ago. It's been terrible for me, I'm looking for a room to rent to get away from my kids who treat me like the help n nanny. Yes I take responsibility for allowing this to happen.

I did what a lot of parents did, raised them from guilt. But I've had enough to where I'm willing to sleep in my car if I can't find a place to live? I hear there are long waiting list for low income housing. Yes, it's that bad, my health is ok, if I don't move that will change.

I know now there are a lot of you out there, I've heard the stories. Would like to hear from those who've made the change. And any sites that can give me help with low income housing or house sharing? Thanks
 

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Hello and welcome Elaine.

If you own the house, and your kids are able-bodied adults, why can't you give them formal written notice to leave? i'll be damned if I'd sleep in my car or look for low income housing while freeloading kids took over the house. No way, no how.
 
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Hi Pat. Forgive me but I'm not sure what you meant when you said "I raised them from guilt" about your children.

Some people love being a part of a family and I'm sorry it's not that way for you. I wish you luck in finding alternate housing.
 
Hi Elaine, I don't know if you have HUD in your state but it's worth looking into. Rent is a lot lower with them. I don't have them but may change to them one day. HUD=Housing and Urban Development. You can look it up online for your state and county.

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Patnono said:
I'm Elaine, I retired a little over a year ago. It's been terrible for me, I'm looking for a room to rent to get away from my kids who treat me like the help n nanny. Yes I take responsibility for allowing this to happen.

I did what a lot of parents did, raised them from guilt. But I've had enough to where I'm willing to sleep in my car if I can't find a place to live? I hear there are long waiting list for low income housing. Yes, it's that bad, my health is ok, if I don't move that will change.

I know now there are a lot of you out there, I've heard the stories. Would like to hear from those who've made the change. And any sites that can give me help with low income housing or house sharing? Thanks
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:wave: Hello Elaine and welcome! Sorry things are not working out for you in your retirement.

Is the house you live in your house, or is it your children's house? If it's yours, escort them out. If it's theirs, then you are right to be looking for another place to live. I don't know anything about agencies in your area of CA, but a lot can be found by googling and making phone calls. Good luck to you.
 
welcome-to-the-group-smileys-graphic.jpg Elaine.... I can't help you with your housing query because I don't live in your country... but I'm presuming maybe wrongly...that you currently live in a rented property, because I'm sure you'd ask your kids to leave rather than move out yourself.

However, there's going to be lots of people here, who will be knowledgeable enough to give you some advice.

I wish you luck.
 
Thanks for your reply, so Happy I found this site, felt alone in this? I don't own my place, gave it up in the divorce. I said my car, that was a bit dramatic, but that's how Bad I don't want to be here, she walks around here like its her place. There a constant battle. Just found out I have diabetes so the Stress is going to make it worse. So gotta take care of ME. I just don't know where to live? I've been looking for a room to rent. Tomorrow a friend of mines is taking me to get an application for low income housing. Thing is there's a waiting list, like 2 years. So I'll cross my fingers.
 
Oh it does sound like you're living with a lot of stress Elaine...so you're right to start thinking about yourself when the stress is impacting your health.

I hope you can find something very soon...
 
Thank you for your kind words. You are correct I do rent. I'm glad I found this site. I need to move to save the relationship, I could die and she'll have to figure it out anyway. I want to Not feel trapped anymore, which is how I feel. I pay All the bills, sleep on a futon and have No voice. My mom long ago just upped and moved out leaving my brother, sister and grandchildren. I througt How could she do that? Now I know, she was pushed to the wall putting up with the same things. So I'll do what I have to do.
 
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Thank you for your kind words. You are correct I do rent. I'm glad I found this site. I need to move to save the relationship, I could die and she'll have to figure it out anyway. I want to Not feel trapped anymore, which is how I feel. I pay All the bills, sleep on a futon and have No voice. My mom long ago just upped and moved out leaving my brother, sister and grandchildren. I througt How could she do that? Now I know, she was pushed to the wall putting up with the same things. So I'll do what I have to do.
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Who is "she"?
 
Thank you, as a matter of fact a friend of mines is taking me to get an application for senior low income housing. Unfortunately there is a waiting list, maybe 2 years? In the meantime I've been looking for a room to rent
 
Hi as a matter of fact a friend of mines is taking me to get an application for senior housing. I think it is HUD? The downside is there is a waiting list, maybe 2 years or longer? So I'll cross my fingers.
 
Thank you, I'm excited to be on this site and hopefully get some knowledge. I was in NC Raleigh last year beautiful place. My boyfriends daughter lives there. I live in California, VERY expensive place to live. I might have to move out of state to survive?
 
What I mean by guilt is that I feel guilty for my relationship with their dad didn't work out. He was verbally abusive to us. Just took the clothes on our backs pretty much. Sorry for staying there as long as I did. But in time before things turned physical, which I feel was coming soon. Their grown now but being disrespectful to me. So I'm looking for a room to rent before our relationship goes Real Bad?
 

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