How are you doing this Christmas season? What's happening with you?

Ruthanne

Ruthanne

Caregiver
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Just a thread for those of us having a hard time or not during this season that is so drawn out it's ridiculous.

I am dealing with doctors, pet problems and life in general every day. I have postponed finding out more about my illnesses until after New Year. I don't want bad news now. This holiday is tuff enough.

My dog is having some problem with jumping up on things. I help her up. Going to take her to the Vet after New Year to see if she needs anything.

So, what's happening for you during this Holiday season; be it good or bad.
 

My daughter is coming home several days to spend what is likely the last Christmas for my husband. He’s having Chemo two days prior to Christmas which means he’s going to be really ill. We will make the best of it for his sake. :sorrow:
 
Sounds like it's a very sad time there. I hope you all have a very memorable time together. People are living longer with chemo now aren't they? I guess that depends on the situation. I know you will make the best of it. Hug*
 

Personally I feel oppressed this Xmas season. It's not my favorite time of year anyway. Too much pressure to be happy whether you are or not, to do too much whether you can or not. I had a bad news from a family member on Saturday and it actually made me dizzy and sick. I'm doing too much. Time to set some boundaries and not allow Madison Ave, to control me because Dec 25 is coming.
 
chic said:
Personally I feel oppressed this Xmas season. It's not my favorite time of year anyway. Too much pressure to be happy whether you are or not, to do too much whether you can or not. I had a bad news from a family member on Saturday and it actually made me dizzy and sick. I'm doing too much. Time to set some boundaries and not allow Madison Ave, to control me because Dec 25 is coming.
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Hugs. ❤️
 
debbie in seattle said:
My daughter is coming home several days to spend what is likely the last Christmas for my husband. He’s having Chemo two days prior to Christmas which means he’s going to be really ill. We will make the best of it for his sake. :sorrow:
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Thinking of you and wishing you the best.
 
chic said:
Personally I feel oppressed this Xmas season. It's not my favorite time of year anyway. Too much pressure to be happy whether you are or not, to do too much whether you can or not. I had a bad news from a family member on Saturday and it actually made me dizzy and sick. I'm doing too much. Time to set some boundaries and not allow Madison Ave, to control me because Dec 25 is coming.
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We do what we can. :wave:
Blessings.
 
chic said:
Personally I feel oppressed this Xmas season. It's not my favorite time of year anyway. Too much pressure to be happy whether you are or not, to do too much whether you can or not. I had a bad news from a family member on Saturday and it actually made me dizzy and sick. I'm doing too much. Time to set some boundaries and not allow Madison Ave, to control me because Dec 25 is coming.
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I think I know how you feel. I felt pressured this season, too. I'm tired of how it is dragged out and the object seems to be for spending money. I can't spend this year, just don't have it. I'm sorry you had bad news. Best wishes for you in setting those boundaries. I think there is way too much focus on material things for the holiday. Just being with friends and family could be better without all the pressure. hug*
 
Very excited and happy here. Nothing to do with Christmas, but my granddaughter is getting married New Year's Eve! The whole family is flying down to Texas for the wedding, from every corner of the country. I can't wait!
 
Very excited and happy as well. Like some of the Christmas's we've had together since meeting in 2000, spending a little to much money on gifts. But, then again, my wife has made, and is making, a nice/descent salary (for her age/next month 70) and both of us are getting SS. We know the gifts we are getting, because we always shop together. Have Christmas décor inside our apartment and out in front of it. 7 1/2 foot tree up in living room and fully decorated. Our Christmas Dinner will be the same as was our Thanksgiving Dinner........made at home with left-over turkey.

It will be just her and I and that is fine with us. IOW, her family, like mine (or what's left of mine) just isn't that close anymore. We send gifts to her family in So Calif., so that makes us happy. We are the only ones in the family who owns a power boat, which costs money for storage and upkeep.

Sorry to hear how Christmas will be for some of you. One thing for sure, I'm sure glad I'm married again now. Spent 21 years being divorced/single and not celebrating Christmas.
 
Ruthanne said:
I think I know how you feel. I felt pressured this season, too. I'm tired of how it is dragged out and the object seems to be for spending money. I can't spend this year, just don't have it. I'm sorry you had bad news. Best wishes for you in setting those boundaries. I think there is way too much focus on material things for the holiday. Just being with friends and family could be better without all the pressure. hug*
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I'm in the same situation which does diminish one's feelings of contentment and happiness at this season. Christmas is so material. I'm not going to let it control me or make me feel less satisfied with the life choices I've made. I hope your Christmas will be better than you expect Ruthanne. You're a dear friend and deserving of the best life has to offer.
 
Sunny said:
Very excited and happy here. Nothing to do with Christmas, but my granddaughter is getting married New Year's Eve! The whole family is flying down to Texas for the wedding, from every corner of the country. I can't wait!
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Congrats to your granddaughter! Sounds like a fun, festive time for all the family. Our family has had some weddings like that, too, many years ago. It is exciting that's for sure.
 
ClassicRockr said:
Very excited and happy as well. Like some of the Christmas's we've had together since meeting in 2000, spending a little to much money on gifts. But, then again, my wife has made, and is making, a nice/descent salary (for her age/next month 70) and both of us are getting SS. We know the gifts we are getting, because we always shop together. Have Christmas décor inside our apartment and out in front of it. 7 1/2 foot tree up in living room and fully decorated. Our Christmas Dinner will be the same as was our Thanksgiving Dinner........made at home with left-over turkey.

It will be just her and I and that is fine with us. IOW, her family, like mine (or what's left of mine) just isn't that close anymore. We send gifts to her family in So Calif., so that makes us happy. We are the only ones in the family who owns a power boat, which costs money for storage and upkeep.

Sorry to hear how Christmas will be for some of you. One thing for sure, I'm sure glad I'm married again now. Spent 21 years being divorced/single and not celebrating Christmas.
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I'm glad you are now having a good time and it's different than when you were divorced/single. Enjoy!
 
chic said:
I'm in the same situation which does diminish one's feelings of contentment and happiness at this season. Christmas is so material. I'm not going to let it control me or make me feel less satisfied with the life choices I've made. I hope your Christmas will be better than you expect Ruthanne. You're a dear friend and deserving of the best life has to offer.
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Thank you chic, you are a dear friend to me, too. Maybe both our Christmases will be better, I hope so. I like the way you look at it not controlling you and am going to try to do that, too. You deserve all the best, too! Doesn't have to be in material things but maybe something else. Peace and love to you.
 
chic said:
Personally I feel oppressed this Xmas season. It's not my favorite time of year anyway. Too much pressure to be happy whether you are or not, to do too much whether you can or not.
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Party invitations can be difficult. I can't predict I'll be in a party kind of mood on Saturday at 8:00 o'clock, and too many of them can feel downright oppressive.
 
Hi everyone...I'm not here often.. I do have 2 friends here from another forum....I want to wish everyone a very Happy Holiday...Merry Christmas and a very Happy and Healthy New Year...
 
I'm stress free at Christmas and have been for awhile now. My family is great and not much is expected of me although I do get the grandsons something.

As you know, I'll be heading to my daughter's on Wednesday and will stay at least week if not more.

Last year I went to my son's in Illinois and that was probably a little more fun for me...mainly because it snowed and the grandsons are younger there and get more excited about Christmas. Also got to do more Christmasy things there like cookie decorating party, etc.

At my daughter's it's more of an adult type Christmas.

Hope you have an enjoyable Christmas also, Ruthanne. :)

Even if I was home alone with just Pickles I think I would be happy, I'm a kid at heart and LOVE Christmas.
 
peppermint said:
Hi everyone...I'm not here often.. I do have 2 friends here from another forum....I want to wish everyone a very Happy Holiday...Merry Christmas and a very Happy and Healthy New Year...
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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you, too! Nice to see you here!

CeeCee said:
I'm stress free at Christmas and have been for awhile now. My family is great and not much is expected of me although I do get the grandsons something.

As you know, I'll be heading to my daughter's on Wednesday and will stay at least week if not more.

Last year I went to my son's in Illinois and that was probably a little more fun for me...mainly because it snowed and the grandsons are younger there and get more excited about Christmas. Also got to do more Christmasy things there like cookie decorating party, etc.

At my daughter's it's more of an adult type Christmas.

Hope you have an enjoyable Christmas also, Ruthanne. :)

Even if I was home alone with just Pickles I think I would be happy, I'm a kid at heart and LOVE Christmas.
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I'm glad Christmas is not hard on you. Sounds like you will have a good time of it. Thank you for the wishes to me. I feel bad I couldn't get anyone anything but hopefully they will understand. I hope your Christmas goes real well and you enjoy your time with your in laws! hug*
 
I discovered this quote many years ago that express my exact thoughts better than I ever could have:

"I sometimes think we expect too much of Christmas Day. We try to crowd into it the long arrears of kindliness and humanity of the whole year. As for me, I like to take my Christmas a little at a time, all through the year. And thus I drift along into the holidays - let them overtake me unexpectedly - waking up some fine morning and suddenly saying to myself: "Why, this is Christmas Day!" ~David Grayson

Thinking of you Ruthanne and wishing all the best to you and your critter family this holiday season and for the year to come.




 
deesierra said:
I discovered this quote many years ago that express my exact thoughts better than I ever could have:

"I sometimes think we expect too much of Christmas Day. We try to crowd into it the long arrears of kindliness and humanity of the whole year. As for me, I like to take my Christmas a little at a time, all through the year. And thus I drift along into the holidays - let them overtake me unexpectedly - waking up some fine morning and suddenly saying to myself: "Why, this is Christmas Day!" ~David Grayson

Thinking of you Ruthanne and wishing all the best to you and your critter family this holiday season and for the year to come.
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Thank you. Merry Christmas to you.
 

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