mathjak107
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Still five years on look backs
Nursing homes are as much of a home as a prison. No one gives a rats ass about you. You have no friends there. You have no relatives there. Everyone there is a stranger. "Welcome Home!" Not hardly.
MIL lived in Assisted Living for years, then was forced to go to SNF for the rest of her years (almost 9), so its not always a clear cut choice. We found that out. Thought she would lie in the AL facility, but nope, not like that.My mother and FIL both lived out the last bits of their lives in Assisted Living and the costs were far lower than SNFs. For at least several months before passing each needed assistance with bathing, dressing, transferring and toileting. When they reached the ends of their lives, hospice care provided care in their AL apartments.
These beautiful, modern AL facilities were professional, caring, modern communities, much more akin to a cruise ship than a hospital. If unable to remain in our home, AL would be DH & my choice for our last days,
NINE YEARS IN A NURSING HOME? Wow! That's a scary long time. What was her health condition, Liberty?MIL lived in Assisted Living for years, then was forced to go to SNF for the rest of her years (almost 9), so its not always a clear cut choice. We found that out. Thought she would lie in the AL facility, but nope, not like that.
Hard to pinpoint her condition that put her there except she did have osteoporosis "bone on bone" in her shoulder and knee I think. Was adverse to doing basic exercise of any kind for as long as I knew her, and finally couldn't do those magic few steps after being in the hospital for a bowel operation. The criteria was the patient had to navigate the steps or they went to the SNC and not back in Assisted Living.NINE YEARS IN A NURSING HOME? Wow! That's a scary long time. What was her health condition, Liberty?
Oh my. What a nightmare for all concerned.Hard to pinpoint her condition that put her there except she did have osteoporosis "bone on bone" in her shoulder and knee I think. Was adverse to doing basic exercise of any kind for as long as I knew her, and finally couldn't do those magic few steps after being in the hospital for a bowel operation. The criteria was the patient had to navigate the steps or they went to the SNC and not back in Assisted Living.
She was in her right mind, but had sundowner's syndrome in the hospital for days as they had put her "too far under" with the anesthesia - always best to be put lightly under. She had golden DNA. Not what I sure call living, though. She died in her mid 90's.
Thank God for the good nursing home she was in. So strange, the administrator "Shannon" came when MIL got admitted and left 9 years later when she died. Good karma?Oh my. What a nightmare for all concerned.