I don't know whether to be insulted

[Georgiagranny]

or have hurt feelings. A couple of weeks ago, DD, DGD and I were all in DD's car, and I said something about driving. DD said "I'd let DGD drive before I'd let you behind the wheel." What? Whenever DD's or DSIL's car has to go to a shop for work and is ready to be picked up, she has me go along to drive one car back home.

Yesterday, DD, DGD (26 years old) and I were getting ready to run some errands. DD was kinda dragging her feet, and I jokingly said "We're gonna leave without you."

DGD piped up and said "I don't drive, remember?" I replied with "So? I do." Her response? "Oh, no, you don't. You're too told for that kind of thing."

Whaaaat? I am old, but I'm also in complete command of all my faculties, and although I don't drive anymore, I still have a driver's license.

Maybe I'm just too thin-skinned.

Oh...let me add that 26-year-old DGD doesn't drive because it makes her "anxious."

 

[George1959]

Yes, in my opinion this is insulting.

 

[Knight]

Did you ask them about their comments at the time they said what they said or did you stay quiet & stew over what they said? You can still ask them if you didn't at the time.

 

[IrishEyes]

I have heard that when I offer to pick a family member to go someplace since I am out of the way to where we are going.
They have laughed and said... I can get to you and be back this way faster than the way you drive> my answer is Really?
Wonder how that can be since I go the speed limit?

 

[Georgiagranny]

I didn't say anything at the time and probably should have. When DD commented, I should have reminded her that I'm her fall-back driver to fetch a car, but kept my mouth shut. When DGD was so snarky yesterday, I didn't say anything because she's Mommy's Little Princess, and it would have started WWIII.

If there's a next time, I'm gonna give a strongly-worded rebuttal rather than let it eat at me.

 

[IrishEyes]

I didn't say anything at the time and probably should have. When DD commented, I should have reminded her that I'm her fall-back driver to fetch a car, but kept my mouth shut. When DGD was so snarky yesterday, I didn't say anything because she's Mommy's Little Princess, and it would have started WWIII.

If there's a next time, I'm gonna give a strongly-worded rebuttal rather than let it eat at me.

At the price of gas you may be better off, let them foot the bill and save yours.

 

[Georgiagranny]

@IrishEyes No problem with gas because I gave my car away years ago. Decided that when I turned 80, I'd get rid of the car and only drive DD's when necessary.

 

[gruntlabor]

Some people's kids! I don't know why their vicious unkindnesses are tolerated.
Your state of the union says you are competent to drive. That should have been good enough.
EDIT:
If I were you, I'd rent a car from now on.

 

[astralcat]

I don’t think the remark was meant to be insulting but it is thoughtless.

 

[Georgiagranny]

I don’t think the remark was meant to be insulting but it is thoughtless.

Thoughtless! That's the word. Thoughtless. As in "engage brain before speaking."

As for DGD, someone who won't get a license because of anxiety problems has no business saying anything at all .

As for DD, someone who needs a back-up driver needs a filter when speaking to said back-up driver.

 

[hawkdon]

meh. a grain of salt......

 

[Babs2u]

They would change their tune if they needed your help. It's obvious that you are one sharp individual. I believe I am older than you and people clamor for rides everyday. They need me.

 

[gruntlabor]

I don’t think the remark was meant to be insulting but it is thoughtless.

A loving and concerned daughter would speak kindly, privately to her mother about any safe-driving concerns.

 

[debodun]

The next time DD needs a ride home from someplace and asks you, say,"Sorry, I'm busy that day." Then find something to do and you won't be lying.