I don't know whether to be insulted

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Georgiagranny

Georgiagranny

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or have hurt feelings. A couple of weeks ago, DD, DGD and I were all in DD's car, and I said something about driving. DD said "I'd let DGD drive before I'd let you behind the wheel." What? Whenever DD's or DSIL's car has to go to a shop for work and is ready to be picked up, she has me go along to drive one car back home.

Yesterday, DD, DGD (26 years old) and I were getting ready to run some errands. DD was kinda dragging her feet, and I jokingly said "We're gonna leave without you."

DGD piped up and said "I don't drive, remember?" I replied with "So? I do." Her response? "Oh, no, you don't. You're too told for that kind of thing."

Whaaaat? I am old, but I'm also in complete command of all my faculties, and although I don't drive anymore, I still have a driver's license:mad::(.

Maybe I'm just too thin-skinned.

Oh...let me add that 26-year-old DGD doesn't drive because it makes her "anxious."
 
I have heard that when I offer to pick a family member to go someplace since I am out of the way to where we are going.
They have laughed and said... I can get to you and be back this way faster than the way you drive> my answer is Really?
Wonder how that can be since I go the speed limit?
 
I didn't say anything at the time and probably should have. When DD commented, I should have reminded her that I'm her fall-back driver to fetch a car, but kept my mouth shut. When DGD was so snarky yesterday, I didn't say anything because she's Mommy's Little Princess, and it would have started WWIII.

If there's a next time, I'm gonna give a strongly-worded rebuttal rather than let it eat at me.
 
Georgiagranny said:
I didn't say anything at the time and probably should have. When DD commented, I should have reminded her that I'm her fall-back driver to fetch a car, but kept my mouth shut. When DGD was so snarky yesterday, I didn't say anything because she's Mommy's Little Princess, and it would have started WWIII.

If there's a next time, I'm gonna give a strongly-worded rebuttal rather than let it eat at me.
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At the price of gas you may be better off, let them foot the bill and save yours.:ROFLMAO:
 
astralcat said:
I don’t think the remark was meant to be insulting but it is thoughtless.
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Thoughtless! That's the word. Thoughtless. As in "engage brain before speaking."

As for DGD, someone who won't get a license because of anxiety problems has no business saying anything at all :mad:.

As for DD, someone who needs a back-up driver needs a filter when speaking to said back-up driver:mad:.
 
Although I can understand you viewing their comments as insulting and feeling hurt (rightly so), maybe it wasn't personal. I think many, many young-uns assume that once people get a certain age, they should no longer drive. Sometimes those assumptions are correct, sometimes not. Your DD must trust you to a degree if she asks you to be the one to drive the second car back home. I don't think you should stay silent about your feelings GG. Clear the air.
 
I recently happened to mention to my brother that I had never had a ticket, but I had been pulled over a few times. He said "What for?" and I told him going too slow in a residential neighborhood when no one else was around and going around the block too many times in Dayton Ohio which has one way streets everywhere and is a living nightmare. I digress.

My brother then gave me a big lecture about how slow drivers cause so many accidents, blah blah blah, from the speeding ticket king.

My bone surgeon has real life pictures on the wall of some of his very unfortunate patients under the words "Speed Kills." I'll just keep going the speed limit and anyone who doesn't like it can take a cab.
 
If in that situation I'd be hurt AND insulted.

After I cooled off, I'd ask DD & DGD for the specific reasons behind their remarks.

Perhaps they're being ageist and need to be made aware of how unfair, hurtful and ridiculous that is.

Perhaps they're seeing a decline in your driving abilities and are trying to gently (if incredibly clumsily) break the news that they don't think your behind the wheel skills are what they were or should be.

The only way to know what they're thinking is to ask them directly.
 
DaveA said:
Oh man!! I can't believe the amount of horsesh*t created by this subject. Must be a thin-skinned group here. i'd hate to have you folks in our family as we exchange insults regarding anything from driving to dish washing and beyond.

Lighten up and, take the jokes/comments/etc. and run with them.
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@Georgiagranny has a robust sense of humor, as seen in many of her posts. Pretty sure she'd know if her daughter and granddaughter were ribbing her.
 
You know we spend our whole lives biting our tongues to avoid hurt feelings but honestly I would've felt insulted too. And I think at our age we should be able to speak frankly instead of feeling the need to keep things bottled up anymore. I feel older people have earned the right to tell it like it is and not just be expected to take it on the chin.
 
@StarSong They can't have seen a decline in my driving ability since I rarely drive, only when DD needs me to help her ferry cars if one of theirs in is the shop. The last time she needed my help, it was just fine. I do, though, decline to drive DSIL's SUV because it's new-ish...all bright and shiny...and drive DD's instead, which is more than 10 years old with 200K miles on it.

@MarciKS I agree. I'm tired of keeping my mouth shut!

@C50 If I dared to make a snarky comment, I'd be starting an all-out war. Trust me on this!

@DaveA Thin-skinned? I think not. They are, though, which is why I don't respond.
 
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