If you could move to your dream retirement location at the cost of leaving family and friends, would you do it?

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This is one of our key considerations as my wife and I consider moving out of state. What are your thoughts?
 

We're living our "dream retirement" - - whatever that is. 4 kids and large group of grandkids and greatgrands, all close by. They are our friends and companions and they are very social amongst themselves. As our kids are all in their 60's, it's not like socializing with children.

We all get only one life to live and we're living it, where we want and with whom.
 
I am in the same quandary - my sons live over seas, daughter lives 40 miles away. I know moving closer to her will be logical.

I have been in this house 40 years and love the neighbourhood - quiet street, near public transportation and shopping, great neighbours and great neighbourhood. I have a "basement suite" that is rented to University student. My plan is to move into the suite when I am unable to manage the stairs and have grocery and/or prepared meal delivery.
 
I live in my dream location, one lives nearby but sadly my other children live far away. DH and myself got used to not having family around, now that he is gone it can get lonely but this is the choice I made to stay put and enjoy whatever life I have left.
It cannot be an easy decision when one has lived close to family for a long time, why not take an extended vacation say 6 months in your dream location and see how you feel that way you have not cut ties completely. Good luck.
 
No. And my dream location is someplace we could move to if we really wanted to since it is only 5 hours away driving. It is a bit south so we would only get 3 or 4 months of winter instead of 5 or 6 months. In this location they get 50's and 60's this week. We get highs in the 30's (degrees F).

We see our grandkids about once or twice a week now. And most of the kids live within 1 hour and one within 3 1/2 hours driving.
 
I've lived much of my life far from family. I figured they could visit me if they wanted (I often lived in beautiful or interesting locations). Only my daughter came.

When I chose to live near my daughter, we didn't see each other often, so I decided that was pointless.

My "dream retirement location" would include an active social life. So yes, I'd choose that over living in a boring city near my relatives.

I did live on a beautiful island near 2 of my siblings, so that was the best of both worlds. I had to leave there, for reasons that had nothing to do with any dreams.
 
I have lived in 5 states and moved many times for my career. Now I have lived here for 26 years and have many friends and my oldest son and his wife live here. Relationships are the most important thing in my life so I wouldn’t consider moving.
 
I love where I live already though it is kind of expensive for me. I used to have super close relationships with all of my family members but have been through so much grief these past three years I could leave everyone in a heartbeat and not miss a thing. It's sort of sad. But true. :coffee::confused:
 

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