In Matters Of Romance, Do (Did) You Lead With Your Heart Or Head?

Both! I was smart enough to recognize what a fantastic young man I was getting (at my age of 17 and his age of 19)! We were married June 10, 1957 and I was just graduated from high school, he was in the Navy. We are in our 80's now and to our surprise we are both still alive. We are still together and he is still a fantastic man! I am so glad every day, that I still have him!
About the same here, mrstime. We met in the summer of 1953, she was 17 and I was 19. Married in Feb. 1956 and here we are today, still walking along together but at a somewhat slower pace. And I was in the Coast Guard rather than the Navy. :)
 

0-2 years after my divorce, I did not engage in dating or any romantic activities. I was a mess.
In the 2-5 years after the divorce I let my heart run with things. That did not turn out that well.
At 5 years an more, my heart point the direction and my head figures out if I can get there in some reasonable way. So far that has worked well. I"m still single. Not sure if that means things are working well or I blew it. There was one gal who was "the one that got away". My heart says I could have done better and she would have been the one for me. My head says, things happened beyond my control, and I was powerless to do anything about it. Both agree I can be a real jughead at times.
 
The old adage that "Love is blind" has earned itself blue ribbons in every decade of societal courtship. When emotions are allowed to stampede and trample the common sense of an otherwise sensible person, the result can leave one helpless. Often, we don't see things that should have been obvious to us from the very start. I have been there, and paid the price.

I am more cautious these days, and I try to remove the "love goggles" from time to time so I can make sure I'm not just seeing what I want to see. It can be hard to be objective when the perfume of love has you intoxicated. Fortunately for us seniors, we have a bit of experience under our belt, assuming we have done an autopsy on past failed relationships. Plus it has given us more time to get to know ourselves much better, and what we really want and value in life. I have admonished my heart (Emotions) to be sure and check with my head more often. We'll see if it actually works.
Bob...all you replied is so profoundly true! Do you write? I mean seriously write? I love what you do with words, so if you don't, I think you should. :)
 
Bob...all you replied is so profoundly true! Do you write? I mean seriously write? I love what you do with words, so if you don't, I think you should. :)
That's very sweet of you to say. I haven't really thought about it. I write a few things once in a while, probably like most people. I guess I just like conversation and dialogue that's interesting and meaningful.
 

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