Interests you and your significant other share, and interests do you not share.

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i_am_Lois

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No two people are exactly alike. It's good to have many common interests when in a relationship, but there will always be several differences.

My husband & I both love eating out at seafood restaurants, keeping our home tidy and in good repair, shopping thoughtfully for the best products, adoring our pets, classic rock music, enjoying retirement, friends, driving along the coast and being involved in our hobbies.

How our interests differ:
He likes golf, gardening, and drinking beer. I don't.
I like drinking coffee, watching Judge Judy, and cooking 'gourmet' meals. He doesn't

How about everybody else out there? How do you click and how do you differ from your partner?
 

My husband and I enjoy being outdoors in nature, camping, hiking, etc. We also shop together when buying a big ticket item. We both love and cherish our pets, enjoy retirement and classic and newer alternative rock music. We love soaking in the beauty of scenic drives, watching wildlife and enjoying the night sky when we're in remote places. We both like the same kinds of foods, and enjoy having a beer together also. We both like good stand-up comedy. He likes sci-fi, history, etc. He won't watch Judge Judy, Dr. Phil, DWTS or American Idol, but I will. I also liked the TV sitcoms, but lately they are not worth watching, IMO.
 

Hubby and I are..well..how do I put this delicately? We are..best friends. And only best friends. We divorced about 10 years ago but never moved out of the house to go out separate ways. After many years of fighting, him drinking, me falling out of love with him, him getting sober but it was too late by then, we found we were better as best friends instead of being married and all that "marriage" pertains to. Then he got very sick and almost died, worried about the vultures coming to get what little he had and me not having any say, so we remarried. In name only. He has his own room. I have mine. We share the same house. He has his fav tv shows, I have mine.Neither of us like the same thing. He is like my brother...and I adore him. I am like his sister and he adores me. But that is all we have in common any more. Just that, and trust.

It works for us.:)
 
Brooke and I both love gardening and the outdoors. We like living here where we can watch a variety of wildlife. We like the same foods, both old favorites and trying new recipes. We take share cooking with her doing most days and me once or twice a week. Eating out we rarely do, unless traveling away from home.

We play cards or some game almost daily.

She constantly worries about gaining a pound while I worry about getting enough to eat.



We don't like many of the same movies or tv programs so we watch in separate rooms. At our age and different schedules we find we sleep better in separate rooms too, but our bedroom doors are not locked.
 
Apart from liking one or two of the same TV programmes my husband and I have no interests in common apart from our children and grandchildren, we have always done our own thing. As we have been married for nearly 45 years it must work for us.
 
Justme said:
Apart from liking one or two of the same TV programmes my husband and I have no interests in common apart from our children and grandchildren, we have always done our own thing. As we have been married for nearly 45 years it must work for us.
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Thats what I always say "to each his/her own".
Whats rules of marriages say we have to like what he/she likes.
 
We have always had similar interests with just enough different to keep things interesting. He has always been very into sports-in the early days I spent lots of time watching his games and most of my friends were the wives of the other players. Many of them are still close friends today-although the guys haven`t played in years. Now he plays golf-and I tried,I really did-but aside from loving being ON the golf course (most of them are very beautiful),I just did not enjoy the game. I do like to go along on occasion and reading a book in the cart but for the most part,he plays with the grandsons nowadays. (Thanks,boys :) I always enjoyed shopping,he hates it. But now where we live there is no shopping (to speak of) and I don`t like it enough to drive two hours to do it. Trying to cut down on the "stuff" in my life anyway. We both love taking walks in the state park nearby,"date nights"(dinner out and usually a movie-always at least a once a week thing for us),road trips,"camping" (in a cabin lol),swimmimg,boating.He likes to watch sports on TV-I love to watch the San Francisco Giants and the San Francisco 49er`s but that`s it. All in all,it`s a pretty good balance.
 
We've been married almost 41 years, so we must get along OK with most things. We enjoy holidays, walking, going away in our motorhome, gardening - lots of things.
I suppose the main difference is in what we like to watch on TV.
 
It's darn near scary, how many interests wife and I share. We tell each other that at times. Our boat doesn't go on the water unless she is on it with me. I don't go to the shooting range unless she goes with me. She has her own rifle and handgun AND knows how to use both! She makes great potato salad, spaghetti, french toast and pancakes, but, for the rest of the cooking, the kitchen belongs to ME! We both love watching PGA, NFL, American Idol, America's Got Talent, Sunday Morning and Cake Boss. She likes watching Property Bros and Love It or List It while I'm messing around on the old computer. I don't have any "buddies" that I do anything with and she doesn't have any girlfriends. Just the way it is, for now anyways. We just plainly LOVE being with each other and doing lots together. Even though we don't know any right now, someday we hope to meet some married couples around our age........ones that have the same interest we have, which has been VERY HARD for us to fine. is very hard to find.
We do most shopping together, as well.
 
I see these posts are from years ago. I'm new to this and hope some are still responding. I'm finding it difficult to adjust to the differences that have developed between us in the last 3 years or so. My husband (76) had a mild stroke that left him with balance issues. He sits on the couch most of the day reading, doesn't drive anymore and doesn't really want to leave the house. I just retired (68), still run 3 miles several times a week, walk to shops like to eat out and see local attractions, take classes, etc. i can do these things with friends or by myself, but i miss having my husband as a companion. We do eat most meals together and watch many of the same tv shows in the evening.......and we still share the same bed.
 
Sorry to hear your husband had a stroke Ejwo, was he as active as you before that? You seem to be very active, and taking classes, good for you! :) I stopped running years ago because it's hard on my knees, although I have no real knee problems. When I was going to the gym I did do a jog on the treadmill though.

My husband and I take walks everyday with the dog, and still go out camping and hiking together. I thought I would learn to paint or draw and do things like that when I retired, but it never happened. Seems I get up, have coffee, go to the park, do some chores in the house or yard, do some food shopping, come home, make supper (or hubby makes it), clean up, watch a little TV and the day is gone. I know it must be hard not having your husband do things with you anymore.
 
We are more different than we are alike. He loves hunting & fishing & WW2 stuff . He builds models of planes ,watches war movies , loves history.

Me ? I love my crafts , going to petting zoos , trying new foods , and watching nature shows on tv. As different as we are, we are best buddies and have 44 years of marriage to prove it :)
 
ejwo, you are more observant than I am, I read all the first page and didn't even notice it was from 2014.

We both are conservative as far as money goes, we both are involved in getting rid of years accumulation of crap in our house and shop, sheds etc. We like sitting outside and looking at the stars almost every evening. We love our dogs and we both like our outdoor cats. We both like to read. We are both writing our memoirs for our grandchildren (separately, we are not writing together). We both like to keep up on what's going on in the world.

He likes fishing and camping, working on classic cars, messing around in his shop, visiting with people and will sit around and talk with his friends for hours. About all he does on the computer is check the fishing report or look for car items on Craigslist.

I like my own company and don't like to be around large groups of people. I paint, research subjects I'm interested in a the moment, I read a lot, I love to play cards or games but seldom find anyone who will play with me. I'm getting back into playing piano, which I neglected for many years. I spend a few hours most days on the computer.

I'm sure as soon as I hit post, I'll think of more I've forgotten.
 
What got us together in the first place was our love for country music. We went to Nashville several times,the hubby would bring home a new album most every week on his way home from work. We went to all the concerts in our area. Our love for animals. Our pets were our children.I'm sure our friends were pretty sick of hearing about them. Then came the kids, having our house built. Now the kids are grown and gone as well as our beloved pets.We have Grand kids now who are our new interest. At this stage of our lives we enjoy our own space. He has his recliner and TV and enjoys the car races. I have my daughters room with my computer and large area to spread out any project I want to work on. The hubby is 7 years older than me and I'm more active than he is.I still garden, love to hike,and still love to rip the house apart to paint and redecorate. He isn't interested in any of that. He does love to travel and I'd rather stay home. Somehow it all works though.
 
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