It won’t matter once we’re gone.

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GP44

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Wife and I met the guys who were supposed to set our headstone at the cemetery.
We had bought the plot along the road and beside a tree several years ago.
At least that was what we thought.
When the guys arrived with the stone we told them where we thought we were supposed to be and they told us that if that was right that the cement base hadn’t been poured yet.
So they called the guys who manage the cemetery and we were told that we were five rows back and 30 yards to the side amongst a bunch of other new markers.
The wife didn’t like that and insisted that we were in the plot that we were shown when we bought it.
The cemetery people took us to an office and showed us a map of where everyone’s plots are located.
Looks like someone had bought 6 or 8 plots all together where we thought ours was.
That’s when I understood why we had been moved.
I don’t mind being moved as long as it’s for a good cause such as keeping some family all together in one place.
But they should have told us that before we drove 40 miles to the cemetery and had the memorial people on the way.
We finally consented to the plot that they had moved us to.
By that time the guys with our headstone had left.
Not much we can do about it anyway and after all - it won’t matter that much after we’re gone.
So we spent a half of a very warm and humid day at the cemetery.
It was so warm and humid out I told the wife that I felt like I was already spending eternity at the cemetery.
 

Laws are different everywhere but here in Australia after you are buried you are only given a 25 year lease ( now days ) …..unless you have family to pay a yearly fee to extend the lease…. you are dug up and in some cases human bones have been found at the rubbish dump in South Aust after graves were revamped at a large cemetery .

Our neighbours have just renewed a lease on her fathers grave which also contains their still born daughter born 30 years ago it’s costing them $450 a year
 

Fritz said:
I understand @GP44 and you're right, it won't matter when you're gone. Nothing will. At least you have a plot. My mother sold mine so I can't be with the family. Nice of her right? I have nothing set up in the event that I should pass.
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Do some checking with the cemetery before you give up.

I’m being cremated and in my cemetery up to five cremations can be placed in a single grave.

This policy allows me to be buried in our old family plot.

I ordered and have installed a very simple flush to the ground granite marker at the foot of my grandparents graves.

The cemetery will still charge a fee to bury my ashes but it has been prepaid along with my other funeral expenses.

If for some reason my ashes don’t make it I really don’t care as long as they add my death date to the stone.
 
Kadee said:
Laws are different everywhere but here in Australia after you are buried you are only given a 25 year lease ( now days ) …..unless you have family to pay a yearly fee to extend the lease…. you are dug up and in some cases human bones have been found at the rubbish dump in South Aust after graves were revamped at a large cemetery .

Our neighbours have just renewed a lease on her fathers grave which also contains their still born daughter born 30 years ago it’s costing them $450 a year
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That’s very interesting to me!

Years ago we had an old German cemetery dug up to build a new supermarket!

The stones were destroyed, buried in the site, and the remains were all buried in a mass grave at another local cemetery.

Very strange and sad going’s on if you ask me.

German Ancestors of Syracuse/Onondaga, NY
 
There was a story on the news in South Aust ,where I live …..some time back they dug up children's graves in a churchyard on a very busy arterial road in the city …of Adelaide ..they were proud as punch to say the 100 year dead children’s skeletons were still complete …and went on to explain how many cavities in thier teeth the children’s skeletons ….. had ……at the time I was outraged ..how dare they disturb the dear little children after 100 years .
that area is now all concrete and tar :cry::cry::cry:
@Aunt Bea
 
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Kadee said:
There was a story on the news in South Aust ,where I live …..some time back they dug up children's graves in a churchyard on a very busy arterial road in the city …of Adelaide ..they were proud as punch to say the 100 year dead children’s skeletons were still complete …and went on to explain how many cavities in thier teeth the children’s had ……at the time I was outraged ..how dare they disturb the dear little children
that area is now all concrete and tar :cry::cry::cry:
@Aunt Bea
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Eminent domain means they got a right to toss you out of your throne and onto a plastic incased blacktop street.
Stopping this crap means planting ancient artifacts with our relatives. The state must honor them. Have tons of research done.
I know, I know, the crookd at the funeral home will steal them too. There's no honesty among thieves.
 
papa tiger said:
I would tell the cemetery to go get screwed,
sell the plots, get cremated and the relatives
can have your ashes for eternity.
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A little late for that we already have the headstone and like I said it won’t matter that much in the end. We at least want to be in the same cemetery as our parents.
Hers is an older family from the area and mine moved there in mid 60s.
Her parents are on one side of the cemetery and mine are clear over on the other side.
We will make it into a lopsided triangle.
 
Kadee said:
Laws are different everywhere but here in Australia after you are buried you are only given a 25 year lease ( now days ) …..unless you have family to pay a yearly fee to extend the lease…. you are dug up and in some cases human bones have been found at the rubbish dump in South Aust after graves were revamped at a large cemetery .

Our neighbours have just renewed a lease on her fathers grave which also contains their still born daughter born 30 years ago it’s costing them $450 a year
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I wouldn’t be surprised if they don’t start that here too.
 
GP44 said:
Wife and I met the guys who were supposed to set our headstone at the cemetery.
We had bought the plot along the road and beside a tree several years ago.
At least that was what we thought.
When the guys arrived with the stone we told them where we thought we were supposed to be and they told us that if that was right that the cement base hadn’t been poured yet.
So they called the guys who manage the cemetery and we were told that we were five rows back and 30 yards to the side amongst a bunch of other new markers.
The wife didn’t like that and insisted that we were in the plot that we were shown when we bought it.
The cemetery people took us to an office and showed us a map of where everyone’s plots are located.
Looks like someone had bought 6 or 8 plots all together where we thought ours was.
That’s when I understood why we had been moved.
I don’t mind being moved as long as it’s for a good cause such as keeping some family all together in one place.
But they should have told us that before we drove 40 miles to the cemetery and had the memorial people on the way.
We finally consented to the plot that they had moved us to.
By that time the guys with our headstone had left.
Not much we can do about it anyway and after all - it won’t matter that much after we’re gone.
So we spent a half of a very warm and humid day at the cemetery.
It was so warm and humid out I told the wife that I felt like I was already spending eternity at the cemetery.
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If you are now further off the road, that's a good thing. I wouldn't want to be too close to a road. Things change and you might get moved back anyway if they ever widen it. But, I am sorry you were not asked or told about it.
 
GP44 said:
Wife and I met the guys who were supposed to set our headstone at the cemetery.
We had bought the plot along the road and beside a tree several years ago.
At least that was what we thought.
When the guys arrived with the stone we told them where we thought we were supposed to be and they told us that if that was right that the cement base hadn’t been poured yet.
So they called the guys who manage the cemetery and we were told that we were five rows back and 30 yards to the side amongst a bunch of other new markers.
The wife didn’t like that and insisted that we were in the plot that we were shown when we bought it.
The cemetery people took us to an office and showed us a map of where everyone’s plots are located.
Looks like someone had bought 6 or 8 plots all together where we thought ours was.
That’s when I understood why we had been moved.
I don’t mind being moved as long as it’s for a good cause such as keeping some family all together in one place.
But they should have told us that before we drove 40 miles to the cemetery and had the memorial people on the way.
We finally consented to the plot that they had moved us to.
By that time the guys with our headstone had left.
Not much we can do about it anyway and after all - it won’t matter that much after we’re gone.
So we spent a half of a very warm and humid day at the cemetery.
It was so warm and humid out I told the wife that I felt like I was already spending eternity at the cemetery.
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When my grandmother died, we were standing at the grave site. The site had a large 'family' tombstone with the names of the family buried in the family plot- no individual gravestones. My mom and her sisters began to wonder if so & so was here, then so & so had to be there, but things didn't add up. Turns out, the cemetery put a body and a tombstone over the remains of a relative in the family plot. They said it was a mistake.
 
We went to my BIL's funeral last month in his home town in Iowa. Nice service, huge turnout. We then went to the cemetery for the burial. Right at the end of the ceremony, the funeral director went up to my sister and told her they had dug the wrong plot and he couldn't be buried that day. They would have to take him back to the funeral home, dig a new grave the next day and bury him after. Talk about a screw up. Of course my sister was extremely upset. A couple hours later the funeral director called my sister and advised that they made arrangements so BIL was finally buried in that spot and she has the plot reserved next to him for her.
 
Reading this thread. my reaction was "why spend money on a grave "? Cremation and a small urn are my wishes. As a young 20 something in the 60's I worked for a night standby body removal service here in Toronto. We got $5 an hour to be on "standby " over night 6 pm to 6 AM. If we were actually sent out to pick up a deceased person, the 2 of us got $30 each. Most nights we slept right through to morning, still earning $60 for sleeping. A five day week earned me $300 even if we never went on a call.

The Funeral business is one type of business that uses shame tactics, to up sell the customers. The entire process is slanted to get the maximum amount of money from the family . JIMB.
 
I have a deed to our lots which names the specific spaces and lot number, which are further identified on a recorded map, to eliminate any uncertainty.

At the top, it's titled "Certificate of Ownership" and has the deed number and control number. In the body of the document, among other language, it states that "the recorded map or plot(s) have been recorded in the Platt records of [name of my County here] in the State of Texas."

Near the bottom of the agreement it states, "This agreement shall not be assigned or transferred without the written consent of the Grantor and the owner, or owner's successors or assigns."

I like having a recorded document, but shouldn't ever need it, since my wife is already buried in her space, and there's a double marker already set with both our names on it.
 
I can understand some people just don't like the thought of cremation. But for me I know that no one would ever want to visit my grave so therefore I'm not about to waste the money on such.

I hope to have someone who would honor my wishes to be cremated poured around the base of certain trees in the area and left to rot or be absorbed into the ground.
 
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