Its a great life if you don't weaken, (often said words but much meaning)

[grahamg]

My parents used the saying "Its a great life if you don't weaken" very often, (it had resonances particularly for my mother who had breakdowns occasionally, starting shorty after she married).

However, these days, with the two royal princes in the UK making public their own issues following the tragic death of their mother etc., these things are bring spoken of openly much more often nowadays, (my mother being fond of reminding me of Churchill's depressions that he called his "Black dog" periods, though telling me this wasn't as helpful as she intended it to be!).

As you may have guessed, given the subject of this thread I've had a "mixed day", (though much helped by falling asleep on a mates farm drive layby, on the way home from Leek cattle market in Staffordshire!).

The " mixed" bit really is a reference to the lack of "real life" friendships, so you feel like a "spare part" when turning up at these "so called mates" farms, (someone once told me "It was better to have no friends than bad friends" but I'd suggest it is a close call !).

Anyway, no one having lived to the age where they become eligible to join a forum such as this one, can have lived without having "off days", if not worse than that, or seen those close to them experience depressions.

I think I'm strong these days, " robust even", but a better home life, more reliable and entertaining friends, and "a few more breaks" would certainly come in handy!

 

[palides2021]

@grahamg, just remember that every day is different. I also have "mixed days" and not all my friends are real. Some, I've had to let go over time, while making new friends. I hope SF can be a springboard to share your thoughts and to feel connected. It has helped me cope, particularly these days during the pandemic.

 

[CindyLouWho]

My parents used the saying "Its a great life if you don't weaken" very often, (it had resonances particularly for my mother who had breakdowns occasionally, starting shorty after she married).

However, these days, with the two royal princes in the UK making public their own issues following the tragic death of their mother etc., these things are bring spoken of openly much more often nowadays, (my mother being fond of reminding me of Churchill's depressions that he called his "Black dog" periods, though telling me this wasn't as helpful as she intended it to be!).

As you may have guessed, given the subject of this thread I've had a "mixed day", (though much helped by falling asleep on a mates farm drive layby, on the way home from Leek cattle market in Staffordshire!).

The " mixed" bit really is a reference to the lack of "real life" friendships, so you feel like a "spare part" when turning up at these "so called mates" farms, (someone once told me "It was better to have no friends than bad friends" but I'd suggest it is a close call !).

Anyway, no one having lived to the age where they become eligible to join a forum such as this one, can have lived without having "off days", if not worse than that, or seen those close to them experience depressions.

I think I'm strong these days, " robust even", but a better home life, more reliable and entertaining friends, and "a few more breaks" would certainly come in handy!

Grahamg -

As of late I can certainly relate to your "mixed day" feelings....so I do empathize with you, you are not alone.

I recently moved to a different state and am struggling with not wanting to be here, loneliness, etc.

I am being challenged, to say the least, and hope I can overcome and conquer this.

Best to you.

 

[Pepper]

The " mixed" bit really is a reference to the lack of "real life" friendships, so you feel like a "spare part" when turning up at these "so called mates" farms, (someone once told me "It was better to have no friends than bad friends" but I'd suggest it is a close call !).

You called me a simpleton. If that is how you treat people in your "real life" then you answered your own thread. In fact, you've insulted me a number of times always in a sarcastic, superior way. I'm not sure I would like to sit in a pub with you, unless you speak differently than you write.

 

[Knight]

Here's hoping you have fewer off days. If it helps any I enjoy the various threads you start. I don't always respond but do like the thought provoking content. To bad the pond separates us I think you would be a good person to have as a real life friend.

 

[Irwin]

Some of the Buddhist and stoic philosophies help me get through tough times, and when I see homeless people around town, it reminds me that things could be a lot worse. Things could be a lot better, but they could also be worse. If we dwell on the negative, it reinforces negative emotions and negative thinking. Sometimes we just have to accept things for the way they are and try to make the most of the good in life, like a good movie or book, and the fact that we have SFs to post our thoughts.

 

[grahamg]

You called me a simpleton. If that is how you treat people in your "real life" then you answered your own thread. In fact, you've insulted me a number of times always in a sarcastic, superior way. I'm not sure I would like to sit in a pub with you, unless you speak differently than you write.

You'll have to forgive me, or perhaps you'll consider trying anyway, (not sure whether I'd necessarily be great company in a bar in all honesty, as I do go off on all kinds of subjects, though I justify it to myself by believing I'm just speaking my mind, and holding nothing back!).

 

[grahamg]

@grahamg, just remember that every day is different. I also have "mixed days" and not all my friends are real. Some, I've had to let go over time, while making new friends. I hope SF can be a springboard to share your thoughts and to feel connected. It has helped me cope, particularly these days during the pandemic.

Perfect post in my view, and I do find much reward in reading others views on forums such as this one, even where we're inadvertently suggested someone isn't "the full shilling",..., (don't think I used the term mentioned but may have referred to someone's argument as being at the same level as someone using a "pygmy intellect"!).

 

[Pepper]

You'll have to forgive me, or perhaps you'll consider trying anyway, (not sure whether I'd necessarily be great company in a bar in all honesty, as I do go off on all kinds of subjects, though I justify it to myself by believing I'm just speaking my mind, and holding nothing back!).

I don't have to forgive you, but of course I will! I think you have the ability to be great fun and I love all kinds of subjects in rapid succession. Cheers.