Just a thought about posting

[Georgiagranny]

Please don't just post a random statement that makes us wonder or worry without a brief explanation.

There's a member on another board, too, who makes those kinds of posts and then gets annoyed when others try to get the poster to explain what's so awful that it can't be addressed. That member is an attention hog who can fill up pages with all the "reasons" why it isn't to be discussed. Should it happen that the subject gets changed, the poster redirects attention to the anger/distress/unhappiness post, often doing a c/p of the original post in response to others' queries or concern.

Not a good day? Say so and let it go at that. Remember Mama telling us that it's not what we say but how we say it?

 

[CallMeKate]

I've seen it done... and relatively recently. Sometimes it's "attention hog" but sometimes people just get butt hurt over some stupid little thing and do that to see how many will "check up" on them. It's often people you wouldn't expect it from, too. Juvenile... but it is what it is.

 

[Georgiagranny]

Thanks for that @CallMeKate. I hesitated to post that because I thought maybe it was just me being "insensitive."

 

[dilettante]

Geeze. I hate it when everybody is talking about me.

 

[Pepper]

She needs a job to keep her busy......

 

[hollydolly]

Please don't just post a random statement that makes us wonder or worry without a brief explanation.

There's a member on another board, too, who makes those kinds of posts and then gets annoyed when others try to get the poster to explain what's so awful that it can't be addressed. That member is an attention hog who can fill up pages with all the "reasons" why it isn't to be discussed. Should it happen that the subject gets changed, the poster redirects attention to the anger/distress/unhappiness post, often doing a c/p of the original post in response to others' queries or concern.

Not a good day? Say so and let it go at that. Remember Mama telling us that it's not what we say but how we say it?

This is why @Matrix always insists on clear thread headings. He always says if he has to click on a thread to find out out what's about, then it's not an acceptable title...

 

[George1959]

Holly is right. We are no thought puzzle players nor mentalists. Thus we need to know what about it is. Otherwise it would be mere babble (in Germany we use the same term but with an 'r' in it: Gebrabbel = noun, brabbeln = verb) without any sense. So please use a concise title of the thread.

And if there is not a good day (which may happen) and the need to vent one's anger, I remember a special thread for this purpose. Perhaps such members should use it.
Fed up? Feel free to vent here, and get it off your chest!

 

[dilettante]

I think I gefigured that one out.

 

[Aging Audra]

Posts are not meant to be vague. They are meant to be have the ability for all other members to engage in whatever that said post is mentioning. If a member doesn't want to fully explain what they are saying in a public post for whatever reason, there is always the private message option that I imagine many members would be willing to listen to whatever to situation might be.

 

[George1959]

I think I gefigured that one out.

I didn't mean you. Dou you feel guilty? I don't hope so

 

[George1959]

I didn't mean you. Dou you feel guilty? I don't hope so

Must be "Do you ..." Typing too fast ...

 

[hearlady]

So there is an ambiguous thread. I'll be damned.

 

[Della]

IRL these are the people who shun you all day and when you ask what's wrong they say, "If you don't know I'm not going to tell you."

 

[horseless carriage]

Geeze. I hate it when everybody is talking about me.

What is the only thing in the world worse than being talked about? Not being talked about!

 

[hearlady]

Geeze. I hate it when everybody is talking about me.

I told you.....everything is not about you!

 

[Della]

When I was a self-conscious teen, my father told me, "You wouldn't worry so much about what people think of you, if you knew how rarely they did."

 

[jujube]

"Vagueposting".

I have a relative who vagueposts on Facebook often. His posts will read, "Oh, well, maybe tomorrow will be better" or "I can't take another day like this" or "It happened again". Nothing else in the post.

Then 16 people will post things like, "What happened?" or "Are you Ok?" or "What's wrong???" After a while, he'll answer. Usually nothing serious.

Wouldn't you think after several times, they'd realize what's going on?

 

[CallMeKate]

Wouldn't you think after several times, they'd realize what's going on?

Exactly! People do that on forums as well as social media... get bent out of shape, post something indicating displeasure, and then disappear while lurking in the background to see who's asking about them. And yes, there seem to be repeat offenders.

 

[MarkinPhx]

When I was a self-conscious teen, my father told me, "You wouldn't worry so much about what people think of you, if you knew how rarely they did."

Kind of reminds me of the saying "what people think of you is none of your business".

 

[PeppermintPatty]

Kind of reminds me of the saying "what people think of you is none of your business".

I love that saying; it’s sooo true.

 

[Marie5656]

This idea is behind why I tend to "like" or give other emoticon responses to show my feelings towards a post. And my actual posts are few and far between. It is too easy to just say "I agree/disagree" without explaining why.

 

[jujube]

Exactly! People do that on forums as well as social media... get bent out of shape, post something indicating displeasure, and then disappear while lurking in the background to see who's asking about them. And yes, there seem to be repeat offenders.

That's the YAGE (Yet Another Great Exit), where they stomp off in a great furor, swearing NEVER to come back to anywhere that they have been.treated.so.badly.and.nobody.understands.them. They stay away for a short period and then slink back, posting like nothing has ever happened, hoping that nobody remembers they YAGE'd. And they do it again and again.