Knowledge of an Associate Cheating

[TabbyAnn]

When should you share knowledge about a long time associate cheating on his wife and on the other women he has affairs with?? Or is it better to stay out of it and keep the knowledge to yourself?? I've thought about ending the professional business relationship just so I won't have knowledge of this.

 

[That Lady in PA]

Do you know the wife?

 

[DebraMae]

I would not share something like that. If it is really upsetting you it might be time to look for another job.

 

[Rakaia]

$AUD 0.02...
Have you met his wife, if so are you friendly with her?
Do you know whether they are in an open marriage?
If you want to say something, the first person you should talk to is your associate.

 

[Kadee]

I noticed / seen a man cheating on his wife , but never said anything to the wife who I knew ….

It just so happened I walked into his rather large shop one day to get a part for my DH motor bike ( BMW)
his GF was snuggling/ kissing him while they were both standing at the counter of the shop, the shop was a spare parts / shop for specialised fixtures and fittings for cars / motor bikes ( Holdens and BMW)

He was found out eventually …. he divorced his wife and now happily married to the other woman
They lived close to us when we lived in Adelaide

 

[PeppermintPatty]

I’d keep my nose out of other peoples business. You never know what arrangements other people have.

 

[Deya]

I’d keep my nose out of other peoples business. You never know what arrangements other people have.

Ditto! Trying to be helpful always back fires.

 

[MACKTEXAS]

The OP says, "cheating on his wife and on the other women he has affairs with."

So he's not just cheating on the wife with the other woman, but the wife and the other women, which means at the very least, he's making it with 3 women.

Wonder who you would share the knowledge with, all 3?

Sounds like a dangerous situation to step into, and if he's that big of a cheat, the wife probably already knows anyway.

[ P.S. ->I don't tell personal secrets. I've learned it's not good.]

 

[TabbyAnn]

Ditto! Trying to be helpful always back fires.

So true. I think it's better to end the association and keep the knowledge to myself.

 

[seadoug]

I would definitely keep that in confidence. Not my business.

I had a co-worker that I'm still close to confide in me that one of her 3 sons was not her husband's and he wasn't aware of it. They were long since divorced at the time but her secret will go to the grave with me. I just felt flattered that she would trust me enough to tell me.

 

[TabbyAnn]

Sounds like a dangerous situation to step into, and if he's that big of a cheat, the wife probably already knows anyway.

Yes. But the other women are hurt too because they don't know he's married. The live in another state and met him on a singles dating site. But I agree I should distance myself from it.

 

[MrPants]

 

[Olivia]

No, because l would be getting only one side of the story from each of them. It's their marriage so let them work
it out. And each of them likely already knows all about it and ln the end when they make up they both will likely
end up disliking and even blaming the "busy body"

There, see what l mean? l don't even know these hypothetical people, and l've already got them all figured out.

 

[TabbyAnn]

No, because l would be getting one side of the story from each of them. It's their marriage so let them work
it out. And each of them likely already knows all about it and ln the end when they make up they both will likely end up disliking and even blaming the "busy body".

I think you're right but there are more than 2 people involved. The women he's having affairs will be hurt too. They don't know he's married.

 

[Gardenlover]

Being judge and jury quickly becomes quite the quagmire.

 

[Rakaia]

Ditto! Trying to be helpful always back fires.

As they say, no good deed goes unpunished.

 

[Fritz]

I wouldn't say anything cuz my job is more important than what that associate is doing. It's not my business and I would likely ignore it. After all it's his life. If he wants to screw it up that's his problem.

 

[Olivia]

I think you're right but there are more than 2 people involved. The women he's having affairs will be hurt too. They don't know he's married.

l don't want to sound cold, but it's their problem. And how do we know they even care?

 

[Gardenlover]

I recently read that divorce doesn't "have" to be all about hating your ex, sometimes it's just the evolution of the relationship.

 

[Olivia]

They likely knew from the get-go.

 

[seadoug]

I've watched too many episodes of Sex & Murder to think this will end well.

 

[Fritz]

I'm sure she suspects it.

 

[LoveTulips]

Nope, keep it to yourself and the wife could very well know about it and is looking the other way.

 

[Kadee]

I believe some have “open“ marriages now days so ‘ the wife” may be fully aware of the other women

 

[DaveA]

As others have mentioned. Keep it to yourself, as others may have different types of marriage.