Late night text from DIL

[IrishEyes]

My recently divorced DIL text me late last night asking if she could stop by on her way home from work.
I didn't see until I woke up.
I know why she wants to stop by, she heard my son just had his first date since the divorce.
She knows I will not discuss my son's life with her now, that is between them and if they want the other
to be privy to changes. I don't like it when people try to get me mixed into their problems with other people.
I was quite disappointed to see the timing of this text. I got in a not so nice mood right off.
2 cups of coffee later my mood is better as I re-read some posts on here and distracted my thoughts.
You all help in ways you have no idea you do, so just letting you know.
Who knows , maybe she will avoid asking and has something else on her mind or text and say she can't make it.
Positive thoughts here, self strengthening thoughts here, I will remain to be true to me and be pleased with my day when it's over.

 

[hearlady]

Maybe she has something you gave her that she doesn't want and thinks you might like to have it back. Wishful thinking?

 

[RadishRose]

Hope the visit isn't difficult. You're very wise not to get involved in their personal issues.

 

[hollydolly]

My recently divorced DIL text me late last night asking if she could stop by on her way home from work.
I didn't see until I woke up.
I know why she wants to stop by, she heard my son just had his first date since the divorce.
She knows I will not discuss my son's life with her now, that is between them and if they want the other
to be privy to changes. I don't like it when people try to get me mixed into their problems with other people.
I was quite disappointed to see the timing of this text. I got in a not so nice mood right off.
2 cups of coffee later my mood is better as I re-read some posts on here and distracted my thoughts.
You all help in ways you have no idea you do, so just letting you know.
Who knows , maybe she will avoid asking and has something else on her mind or text and say she can't make it.
Positive thoughts here, self strengthening thoughts here, I will remain to be true to me and be pleased with my day when it's over.

I had a similar thing when my daughter finished with a guy she'd been dating only for about 6 months... she was well in her 20's and had her own home.. but he thought if he came to my house and spoke to me I would be able to talk her round. I was very pleasant to him, but I didn't let him come into the house, so right from the start he knew if he wasn't in a relationship with dd.. he wasn't welcome at my house either.. even tho' I was being polite to him and sympathising, I just felt he needed to know that her decision was hers only.. and he couldn't get me to change that..

 

[IrishEyes]

Hope the visit isn't difficult. You're very wise not to get involved in their personal issues.

A bad habit my mom had that I learned NOT to do. I never had my sons become estranged from me and I do not intend it to begin now.

 

[Oldeagle66]

That's one meet up I wouldn't let happen. Let her handle her own personal business or problems. I would just nice about saying 'no'.

 

[IrishEyes]

That's one meet up I wouldn't let happen. Let her handle her own personal business or problems. I would just nice about saying 'no'.

The grandkids are still connected to all this, I am hoping it has something to do with one of them. Like inviting me to see my grandson in some Special Olympic event. He is 31, lives with her and been in S.O. since he was 8 years old.