Loving living alone.

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Maia

Maia

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Aw, you don't REALLY want to hear about me, do you? Well, if you insist.

61, still fully functioning female. (Imagine that.)

Hubby went to the happy hubby ground in the sky a couple of years ago. Good for him. Actually, good for me, too. Long story.

I've been in conscious pursuit of making solitary living a wonderful thing. And succeeding. For me it's also a process of self-reclamation, as true self was shoved into a closet for a long time. Also succeeding in that. It's a team effort, though.

I'm interested in the idea that living alone can be a real improvement, not only because of escaping a bad situation, but because of consciously making solitary good, even better, in all aspects of life. Yes, I mean all of them, and I mean better, and be completely healthy and happy in mind, body, soul and relationships. So far, so good for me. You?

More than enough about me for now. Warm greetings to all. Ta-ta, toodles, enjoy your noodles.
 

Thanks, hd. Northeast NY, Lake Champlain area.
 

Hey from Arkansas! I've spent the majority of my adult life living alone. Its preferable to having a 'boss' who can't get his own beer even though YOU worked all day too.
 
Welcome! Little story about my nephew: Wife left him 2 weeks before 25th. anniversary. He was devastated, had 3 sons, youngest 16, who became more morose than his father. Dan & Dan Jr., Danny. A few years later, Dan, preparing to retire comfortably from Southwestern Bell Telephone, answered an ad placed by a lady seeking companionship. They married. Dan went in with my wife & I, buying a 300 acre place in Missouri Ozarks. We all moved there, his new wife getting everything she asked for. He had told me when he met her, she's dirt poor. Not anymore!

After agreeing to spend retirement with him on the new farm, living there only 3 months, she announced they must return to Kansas, where her children are. Forlorn and dismayed, Dan went back to Kansas, put the MO property up for sale.

Sorry so long & drawn out, the intro was needed: Now, 15 years later, Dan's wife has spent them into serious financial straits. He told me all about it, I told him what he should do; he explained he is frightened to death of BEING ALONE! I cannot help him. imp
 
He should find a woman who already has her own property, like my hubby did. Then he proceeded to lose that property for me. Then I "lost" him and bought another farm. The end.
 
Hi Maia! I've lived with my husband for around forty years now, and would be devastated if he passed. It's been a long time since I lived alone, and I'm sure I'd do okay, but would miss my long time partner. Years back I saw my friend's elderly mother who was recently widowed, she was very happy about finally being on her own after all those years with him. She was taking planes and traveling around, doing whatever she wanted and when she wanted, she was glowing. :)

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3horsefarm said:
Its preferable to having a 'boss' who can't get his own beer even though YOU worked all day too.
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Thanks for your welcome to the party, Arkansas.

Beer? What's that? I don't think we have that around here. Upload one. And then get back to work, slave!
 
Thank you, Ameriscot, Glinda (love your sig, snapped it right up for a future group post), Lon. See you 'round the pixels and mouse holes.
 
imp said:
... he is frightened to death of BEING ALONE! I cannot help him. imp
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There's no doubt whatsoever in my mind (and experience) that some people have very understandable causes for that kind of fear. It is one of the challenges to choosing to live alone. I think even more people have understandably great fear of living with someone.

Best wishes to Dan and the friends helping him ... still worth trying to help, I hope.
 
3horsefarm said:
He should find a woman who already has her own property, like my hubby did. Then he proceeded to lose that property for me. Then I "lost" him and bought another farm. The end.
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I guess that ultimately I should not say this, but: LOL!

I lost my way to a better life.
 
SeaBreeze said:
I've lived with my husband for around forty years now, and would be devastated if he passed.
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Hi SeaBreeze. Thanks for the artful welcome!

When my mother died, it broke my father in half, and for infinitely good reason. She was the half that went away, and the better half (though he was wonderful, too).
 
I live alone and like it that way.

Unfortunately my 53yo single son would like to move back home into my house with his dog and one cat. I am trying to figure out how to stop this from happening.

Oh by the way welcome to the forum.
 
Lenore, maybe if you insist on the following conditions-


Aside from monthly rent paid in advance, son is responsible for all housework, dishes, yard work, errands, carwashing and maintainence, window washing, grocery shopping and anything else you need done. Let it be known the only thing you'll be doing is your OWN laundry and cooking, unless you'd enjoy cooking for your son but then he must clean up the dishes and kitchen.

If he accepts and you still don't want him, he can move in with me.:)
 
~Lenore said:
I live alone and like it that way.

Unfortunately my 53yo single son would like to move back home into my house with his dog and one cat. I am trying to figure out how to stop this from happening.

Oh by the way welcome to the forum.
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I have a surefire method but it requires steeling yourself to revealing this. It requires a little white lie. Tell your son he can move in but warn him you have a very active "romantic" life and are very vocal during those trysts. As a son myself, I guarantee it will work.
 
AZ Jim said:
I have a surefire method but it requires steeling yourself to revealing this. It requires a little white lie. Tell your son he can move in but warn him you have a very active "romantic" life and are very vocal during those trysts. As a son myself, I guarantee it will work.
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Good idea!
 
~Lenore said:
I live alone and like it that way.

Unfortunately my 53yo single son would like to move back home into my house with his dog and one cat. I am trying to figure out how to stop this from happening.

Oh by the way welcome to the forum.
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Tell him there isn't enough room for him & his pets and your pending new male relationship with his dog.
 
:welcome: Maia

I’ve always loved living alone. Had roommates in college, of course and again for a few months when starting out, but once I got a place of my own (at age 21) I loved it.

Had a house-sharing situation for about a year in 2005 and I really HATED it. uuuggghhh

Living alone allows me to do what I want when I want.
- No space sharing (except with my cat, who is as territorial about space as I am).
- No rules (unspoken or otherwise).
- No noise, not worrying about disturbing the other person.
- No explaining why I don’t want to talk, or listen, or why I’m laughing, or where I’m going or where I’ve been. (In the house-sharing situation I mentioned there was an unpleasant exchange because I got sick and tired of being asked "What are you gonna do today?", “Going out?”, and “Where ya been?” :mad:) Being nice about it didn't work.
- No waiting to use the bathroom (or kitchen).
- The only mess I have to clean up is my own.

The advantages outweigh the disadvantages, BY FAR. (For me)

When I hear someone (usually a woman) get all giddy and say “We’re talking about moving in together” I have to concentrate on not looking at her as if she has three heads. Seriously.

It works for ME. :) :banana: :pepper:
 

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