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Knight

Knight

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Email from my 56 year old son. He & his wife will be visiting us for Fathers day. Good communication started for as long as I can remember. When it came to "those talks" & other important milestones other parents don't seem to have.

Mon, Jun 12 at 11:02 PM

Dad
I got to thinking about what you said to me. I can understand frustration having memories of being physically capable of doing anything you wanted to, to age related restrictions especially with your arm and now limitations due to what just happened. But I want you to think about something.

I really value our conversations and your intelligence and you have an amazing way of remembering things especially still at your age and while you may not be able to contribute as much physically that doesn't take away all the things you've done physically in past and the type of help that you've given to me and others.

There are many people much younger than you don't have the mental capacity you do and at your age. To retain that even if it's not that of your youth it's still pretty amazing. I enjoy being able to help and I have no problems doing it and if I had to make a decision between you not being there mentally or physically not being able to do things you used to be able to do I would choose the mental. Conversations always, because there are so many people that no longer can communicate with their parents because of an illness that has struck the brain and while they could physically do things, they are no longer are connected to life.

Anyway I just wanted to share that and I didn't want to forget to tell you.

Love Rick
 

Knight said:
Email from my 56 year old son. He & his wife will be visiting us for Fathers day. Good communication started for as long as I can remember. When it came to "those talks" & other important milestones other parents don't seem to have.

Mon, Jun 12 at 11:02 PM

Dad
I got to thinking about what you said to me. I can understand frustration having memories of being physically capable of doing anything you wanted to, to age related restrictions especially with your arm and now limitations due to what just happened. But I want you to think about something.

I really value our conversations and your intelligence and you have an amazing way of remembering things especially still at your age and while you may not be able to contribute as much physically that doesn't take away all the things you've done physically in past and the type of help that you've given to me and others.

There are many people much younger than you don't have the mental capacity you do and at your age. To retain that even if it's not that of your youth it's still pretty amazing. I enjoy being able to help and I have no problems doing it and if I had to make a decision between you not being there mentally or physically not being able to do things you used to be able to do I would choose the mental. Conversations always, because there are so many people that no longer can communicate with their parents because of an illness that has struck the brain and while they could physically do things, they are no longer are connected to life.

Anyway I just wanted to share that and I didn't want to forget to tell you.

Love Rick
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That is so lovely, you did well in raising him.
 

That was so sweet!! My mil died suddenly and unexpectedly at 67 and her funeral was packed with people telling wonderful stories about her and how much they loved her. I remember thinking it would have been so much better to say these things when she was alive.

I decided that I needed to tell my mom how I felt about her and sent her a email. She was really appreciative that I told her how I felt. It was too late to tell my dad but I am sure he knew because we were close too.
 
What a wonderful tribute to you. It really speaks to the way you raised him.
 

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