Men in one room - women in the other

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debodun

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Does this happen at any party you've attended, holiday or other, that after a while the men and women separate? It always happened at my family party. After food is served and eaten, the men go into the living room and watch sports on the TV and the women stay in the dining room or kitchen and talk. Always wondered why this happened.
 

You pointed out after a while the men and women separate. Once the usual small talk is done with, it's becomes about sharing common interests.
 
Not in our family, for the most part. We just had a gathering of 29 on Thanksgiving Day - just offspring of my wife and I. There's a mix and match all day long as the different families catch up with their siblings and cousins. Our 4 kids, their mates, 11 out of the 13 grandkids, some with mates, and the 7 great grands. All ages men, women, boys, girls, and babies. A constant flow throughout the duration of the gathering.
 

I don't go to many parties, but I have noticed that at Thanksgiving dinners, usually after eating the men will go into the family room and watch holiday football, but usually a couple of women who follow the game join them. I think it's pretty natural in most families.
 
Debodun,
Remove the TV, or the plug from the cable
then no sport will be able to be watched.
Or just make it a rule: No TV!

Mike.
 
I don't have large gatherings at my home anymore but when I did the same thing happened. Women at the table still talking or cleaning up and men in the living room. Not so much for TV and sports but to take a nap. One snoring louder than the other. A few years back I did host a baby shower. Two of the ladies were a bit put out because the husbands went into the next room while the shower was going on. They made it a point to tell me husbands aren't excluded at showers these days. My hubby played host to the men and I made sure they had food and drinks to keep them happy. I thought it was ridiculous for them to be included and wondered what men would really be interested anyway.
 
Knight said:
You pointed out after a while the men and women separate. Once the usual small talk is done with, it's becomes about sharing common interests.
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As Randy Travis sings in Forever and Ever Amen: "As long as old men sit and talk about the weather, as long as old women sit and talk about old men."


Laurie said:
It's called a mosque.
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Or a Jewish Orthodox wedding. My late husband and I attended one many years ago at a hotel. Not only did we not get to sit together in the same part of the room, we didn't even get to ride up in the same elevator. The women danced with the women, the men danced with the men. The bride and groom didn't even get to sit together......well, they did sit side-by-side but there was a velvet rope between them. Frankly, I had a great time and didn't miss him at all......
 
jujube said:
As Randy Travis sings in Forever and Ever Amen: "As long as old men sit and talk about the weather, as long as old women sit and talk about old men."
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It's pretty much a guarantee a man wrote those lyrics. I've been in a lot of rooms like that and I've never heard the women talk about the men.

I looked it up. The lyrics were written by two men, Paul Overstreet and Don Schlitz.
 
From when I was a kid things were that way. After eating the men would go watch sports. I didn't mind it when I was young and now to be truthful I look forward to them leaving the room. The women can have a good conversation and the men are happy. I think it's great.
 
I've never watched sports. When my father watched football (which thankfully wasn't often), I'd go to my room or go down to the basement or outside. I don't think that people ever watched sports at our family gatherings, at least, not those that I recall. My uncle was wont to have a baseball game on the radio at home, but I don't believe that he ever watched it on television. He said that it was pleasantly boring. His behavior seemed compatible with being a gentleman. I never attended a sporting event nor participated in any sport. My wife's family shared my views.

I was talking to my neighbor a while back. We somehow got to the topic of what a gentleman's sport would be. I suggested croquet; he agreed. I've often wondered how many successful politicians of all parties and ideologies who attend sporting events are bored senseless, but believe that they must allow the Great Unwashed to somehow identify with them.

I've read about brawls and riots after games in Great Britain. I don't know what sport is involved, but it reminds me of the aftermath of the chariot races in Constantinople over a thousand years ago. The chariot teams were called the Blues and the Greens; people died regularly in the riots.

Croquet and archery have always seemed to be activities enjoyed by both sexes. Small bore rifles, pistols, and even shotguns have a place as well. Poker dice is always pleasant during inclement weather.
 
Camper6 said:
Thats discrimination of the worst kind. Holiday football is a tradition. There's nothing to stop others joining. If you pull the plug tell me before and I will stay home.
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I'm pretty sure being deprived of a silly football game doesn't fall within the definition of discrimination.
 
Camper6 said:
Thats discrimination of the worst kind. Holiday football is a tradition. There's nothing to stop others joining. If you pull the plug tell me before and I will stay home.
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Sorry Camper6, I am not aware of your customs
in North America.

Any parties that I have are in the evening and no
TV is on, I normally have background music and we
all chat then depending on how much drink is taken
people get up and dance with each other.

I meant no offence, I compared the situation with
my own experiences.

Mike.
 
Mike said:
Sorry Camper6, I am not aware of your customs
in North America.

Any parties that I have are in the evening and no
TV is on, I normally have background music and we
all chat then depending on how much drink is taken
people get up and dance with each other.

I meant no offence, I compared the situation with
my own experiences.

Mike.
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What if World Cup football was on?

Evening parties are fun. We are talking about a Holiday like New Years Day. It lasts all day.
 
What men and women have in common isn't even close. Women are more easily upset than men. Take for instance cleaning dog crap off the bottom on a sneaker. Everyone knows that cleaning the groves is easier when done using a tooth brush. Using your wifes or girfriends brush puts women into a panic. Men not so much, just rinse and it's good to go.


When it comes to food. Men have 2 motivations: hunger and hanky panky, and they can't tell them apart. If you see a gleam in his eyes, make him a sandwich.
 
debodun said:
Does this happen at any party you've attended, holiday or other, that after a while the men and women separate? It always happened at my family party. After food is served and eaten, the men go into the living room and watch sports on the TV and the women stay in the dining room or kitchen and talk. Always wondered why this happened.
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No, not with my family and/or friends get-togethers, but I think that such is normal.

Common interests.
 

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