My 50-something friend just lost her partner of 10 years

dseag2

dseag2

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I have a friend who is in her early 50's. We worked together many years ago and became close. She was always very intelligent and hard-working. Almost 20 years ago, she was in an emotionally abusive marriage. She divorced her husband and let him keep the house, so my partner and I asked her to come live with us until she got back on her feet. She did, and we used to carpool to work together. Her ex-husband had destroyed her self-esteem. At the same time, her fairly young father had a stroke and was wheelchair-bound. She was such an emotional wreck that she drank during the day. After she moved out and into an apartment, I called her closest friend to do an "intervention" and she did.

Fast forward, and she became a very accomplished and self-confident woman. 10 years ago, she met a man similar in age and they spent some very happy years together. He was also accomplished, along with being a wonderful person. She just posted on Facebook that he passed away today. I am beyond devastated. I just don't understand why some truly wonderful people have so much to cope with in their lives. :cry:

Thanks for letting me share.
 

{{{{@dseag2}}}} I'm so sorry your friend has lost her partner. It's devastating for her. She's been through so much. You've been a good friend to her by sticking by her and helping her to get back on her feet again with understanding and love. Then sharing in her successful recovery and joy when she found love and happiness with a good man.

Most of us have suffered the loss of someone we dearly love. I know your heart is breaking for her. I wish I had profound words of wisdom as to why things happen the way they do, but I've wondered about that many times myself. It's unfair for her to have to deal with this. All you can really do is what you've done before. Tell her you love her, support her, and are always there for her, even though she already knows that.

Bella ❤️
 
My condolences to your friend, you and all who loved him. May he rest peacefully. Your friend must be extremely saddened. Hugs.

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It’s always painful to lose someone close. It makes us wonder sometimes how God chooses who he calls home. I am also mourning the loss of two friends now myself. One to Covid and one, who is only 54 and died suddenly without warning. His wife heard a loud noise, which is when he fell down the steps. They originally thought he either had a heart attack or broke his neck. The autopsy showed he had a hole in his heart. He lived 54 years with a hole in his heart. I am still scratching my head over that one. They have six children together and that family is full of love.
 
I feel your sadness @dseag2 - it comes through in your writing. I believe that without the genuine concern, love and help you and your partner showed her, she likely would not have met the wonderful man that came into her life. Often times when I feel sad, I remind myself of this quote which is attributed to Dr. Seuss but others disagree. That part doesn't matter to me.

Here is a version of the quote:

"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened".

I hope your friend finds deep, abiding comfort in the memories of the relationship she had with this man and that she smiles because it happened.

xo
 
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