debodun
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My mom's been gone 17 years (Nov 25th)
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debodun
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Myquest55
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My mother dropped dead in 1987. I still miss her - sometimes for no particular reason. She was warm, fun, creative and encouraging. I wish my boys had gotten to know her. There are so many questions I would have liked to ask her - some that didn't occur to me until I had grown up children and was much older. Darn.
dobielvr
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Going on 20 yrs that both my mom and dad have been gone. They passed 2 mos apart.
I get so sad when I want to call my mom up to ask her something, then remember I can't.
She and I are very much alike. In fact, a couple of weeks ago, as I was looking in the mirror first thing in the morning, I jumped back a little...I could of sworn it was her staring back at me lol.
I get so sad when I want to call my mom up to ask her something, then remember I can't.
She and I are very much alike. In fact, a couple of weeks ago, as I was looking in the mirror first thing in the morning, I jumped back a little...I could of sworn it was her staring back at me lol.
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Same. My mother had a stroke and went into a coma right before Thanksgiving in 1987 and died a week later. We lived far apart then and didn't get to see each other very often, even phone calls were expensive then. I envy people today who can talk to their mothers every day.
Holidays are when I miss her most as I pull out recipes in her handwriting and do things the same way she did them.
horseless carriage
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It both saddens me, yet gladdens me to read of the loss of a beloved mother. Sad at the passing yet glad at how mother's cherished memories remain.
My mother died nine weeks before her 34th birthday, leaving Dad with four children to raise alone. I was the eldest and just coming up to my tenth birthday. All that was back in 1956, it was a tough life, but we pulled through. We had a very special, caring father. He raised us, cared for us and made us the adults we all became. Dad went on to live until he was 92. He was certainly one of a kind. I miss him still and whenever I have done something of which I should be ashamed I can hear my mother's voice admonishing me. Never once did either of our parents threaten us with a raised hand. My mother's icy stare and wagging index finger was enough to get the bowel working. For most parts though she was all hugs and kisses.
My mother died nine weeks before her 34th birthday, leaving Dad with four children to raise alone. I was the eldest and just coming up to my tenth birthday. All that was back in 1956, it was a tough life, but we pulled through. We had a very special, caring father. He raised us, cared for us and made us the adults we all became. Dad went on to live until he was 92. He was certainly one of a kind. I miss him still and whenever I have done something of which I should be ashamed I can hear my mother's voice admonishing me. Never once did either of our parents threaten us with a raised hand. My mother's icy stare and wagging index finger was enough to get the bowel working. For most parts though she was all hugs and kisses.
hollydolly
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absolutely not the only one...I miss my mum still, and think of her often..always remember her birthday and the date she died ..and she's been gone 50 years
I didn't grow up in an affectionate home so never developed a loving relationship with my parents. My dad died right after I graduated highschool and my mom was kind of reborn, long story but she was finally able to be herself and we developed a close relationship. I did everything I could to create a happier life for her and like to think the last twenty years of her life were good ones.
The way she was with my kids, a loving and affectionate grandma, was very different than she was when I was a kid. I didn't hold my childhood against her, she was a victim of circumstances. She died in 1998, I may not miss my childhood mother but I do miss that loving grandma my kids had.
The way she was with my kids, a loving and affectionate grandma, was very different than she was when I was a kid. I didn't hold my childhood against her, she was a victim of circumstances. She died in 1998, I may not miss my childhood mother but I do miss that loving grandma my kids had.
hollydolly
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My mum wasn't a loving mother either,.. the closest she came to being loving was to say to me that she liked me better than the rest of her kids because I was her first born... but she was as you said about your mother... a victim of her circumstances which was growing up in an orphanage with evil nuns then marrying my father the Devils' Spawn, so she never received love or knew how to give it, and she beat me several times for invented reasons.., but she was under stress....... so .. I forgive her, and she will always be my mum even tho; she died at 38....
My father ITOH...I know what year he died.. if I work it out ... but I have deliberately forgotten the date.. and I try never to think of him...
Being raised that way is a burden you carry your entire life, it took me many years to understand how it affected me, I bet it was the same for you, and the same for any kid raised in an unloving home.