Need Advice About A Bad Behaving Dog

Lee

Lee

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I never thought a dog could break up a perfect romance but it's happening.
My guy had no business adopting a dog. I told him point blank he should have got a goldfish.
He works and the dog was left alone for up to 10 hours a day. And then weekend time was doggie playtime, followed by another week of mostly solitude.

So I didn't meet a puppy, I met a two year old dog.

A dog that barks continuously and is a jumper. I came home the one weekend with 27 bruises on legs and arms. My friends think something kinky is going on with the boyfriend 😄

When we go for a ride in the golf cart the dog makes these weird EEP eep eep sounds and people turn around thinking I am hurting the dog


He refuses to try tranquilizers, a slap with a newspaper, obedience training, keeps saying she will outgrow it.

The final straw was 2:30 in the morning and she comes to me to take her out. Raining of course, couldn't find the perfect spot, finally went in and all I heard was the sound of peaceful snoring and that just made things worse. I sat on the couch, dog of course wants to be near me, I push wet dog away, back again, harder push and the finally I shoved her away hard. And that's when she snapped at me.

The next morning I said I wanted to go home. Ride home was over an hour in silence.

So he wants us to make a life together, advice?
 

Lee said:
So I didn't meet a puppy, I met a two year old dog.
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I don't understand that statement, did he tell you he got a puppy?

What kind of dog is it?

My mom had a dog that started out very annoying (for the first year or so, gosh I hate baby teeth and nipping), but she taught her a 'settle' command to lie down and be quiet. That dog was annoyingly dominant but she was awesome at learning tricks. After a couple years she was a nice dog to handle and deal with, but my mom probably put in a lot of time and consistency.

I wasn't at all successful at training my Sheltie, she was a sweetheart and gentle, but too clueless to even learn to shake. I don't remember attempting to train my 5 lb Chihuahua, but he was by nature cute and playful (unless he was cozy on my lap and my daughter tried to come near!).

I don't think tranquilizing or slapping with a newspaper would do anything but make the problem worse. Maybe you can get your guy interested in dog training shows/videos.

And I would consider it totally reasonable if the dog needs to go out in the middle of the night, to wake up the dog's owner to do it.
 
Hi Honey Nut, I never knew him when he got the puppy, and the dog likes me a lot

I can only compare the owner to one of those parents with a kid throwing a temper tantrum in public and the parent smiles and thinks it cute.

Frustration made me think about the newspaper, and since the owner agrees with you about it being a bad idea I suggested that every time he allows the bad behaviour I get to smack him with the newspaper instead of the dog.

Squirting water accomplishing nothing
 

It's obvious that the dog is the Alpha in your trio; she runs the show and has no respect whatsoever for either of you.
I believe this behaviour will continue until someone puts her in her place. She is obviously high-strung and high-energy.

She needs long walks by you or your partner's side and not in front of you, never in front of you.
She needs to be corrected on the spot, not allowed on the furniture and preferably in a crate at night.

I have always had farm dogs ( Kelpies, blue cattle and border collies), which are high-energy

Never back down when she has done wrong continue to correct her until she submits.
Submission will be when she rolls over to show her belly or lies down with her ears back and head low.

I certainly would not hit her, just a gentle tap on her hind legs and a point to where you want her to go.
(Continue to gain her space by walking her down, use a sound like clicking your finger and pointing )

The thing is that once you start her training, you can't give up or ignore her; it's repetition over and over again.

I don't believe in tranquilisers for a dog as it does nothing to correct a serious behavioural problem.

I wish you both luck, truly I do.
 
Lee said:
The final straw was 2:30 in the morning and she comes to me to take her out. Raining of course, couldn't find the perfect spot, finally went in and all I heard was the sound of peaceful snoring and that just made things worse.

So he wants us to make a life together, advice?
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Train your guy. His choice to get a dog comes with the responsibility to take care of it. It might be difficult to do but if he loves you he will do it to please you.
 
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Lee said:
I never thought a dog could break up a perfect romance but it's happening.
My guy had no business adopting a dog. I told him point blank he should have got a goldfish.
He works and the dog was left alone for up to 10 hours a day. And then weekend time was doggie playtime, followed by another week of mostly solitude.

So I didn't meet a puppy, I met a two year old dog.

A dog that barks continuously and is a jumper. I came home the one weekend with 27 bruises on legs and arms. My friends think something kinky is going on with the boyfriend 😄

When we go for a ride in the golf cart the dog makes these weird EEP eep eep sounds and people turn around thinking I am hurting the dog


He refuses to try tranquilizers, a slap with a newspaper, obedience training, keeps saying she will outgrow it.

The final straw was 2:30 in the morning and she comes to me to take her out. Raining of course, couldn't find the perfect spot, finally went in and all I heard was the sound of peaceful snoring and that just made things worse. I sat on the couch, dog of course wants to be near me, I push wet dog away, back again, harder push and the finally I shoved her away hard. And that's when she snapped at me.

The next morning I said I wanted to go home. Ride home was over an hour in silence.

So he wants us to make a life together, advice?
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Insist that either he (or you, if you prefer) take the dog to obedience classes that use positive training methods. Start with the puppy class, and talk to the trainer beforehand. Also check if there are any dog clubs in your area that are associated with the AKC. Some offer obedience classes.

I'd wager the dog needs a different owner. The dog doesn't get enough attention, and hasn't been taught manners. She needs a responsible owner who loves dogs. Loving dogs is not nearly enough. I've met a lot of dogs and their owners. I felt sorry for the dogs, even though their owners insisted they loved their dogs. That's when I decided that if someone insists that they love anything, the insisting is a red flag. This is because I do not incite the insisting. I am a watch and learn from people's actions person, not some old grouch who barks "it's obvious your dog doesn't feel loved".
 
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I agree he should have taken her out but it was my choice. Poor guy had worked hard all week in the blistering heat and I just wanted him to get some much deserved rest.

Great ideas here, thanks everyone
 
WheatenLover said:
Insist that either he (or you, if you prefer) take the dog to obedience classes that use positive training methods. Start with the puppy class, and talk to the trainer beforehand if you can. Also check if there are any dog clubs in your area that are associated with the AKC. Some offer obedience classes.
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I had my German Shepherd trained with me by USAF military police. Did an outstanding job, could walk him without a leash and he won't leave my side for anything. Also never pulled if he was on a leash. Dogs who pull while being walked aren't trained properly. That was years ago though and he's no longer around.
 
That's a hard one, Lee. I believe two people have to be in sync with each other on things. It won't be on all matters, but definitely needs to be on the ones that will make or break a relationship.

He needs to train the dog to behave herself with the guidance of a trainer. No animal will outgrow that behavior unless they are trained.
 

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