Need some help from you all !

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Officiant1000

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Hello!
My name is Tony Brender and to make a long story short- I could use your help!

About a week ago, my older brother asked me to officiate his wedding next month on July 14th. As much as I hate public speaking, I couldn’t say no. He said to me “just do your thing, just talk about love.” What do I know about love?! But then I had an idea. Why not ask for some help? That's where you come into play. I thought it would be a fun idea to get some intel from the people who know love best- the older and wiser- and incorporate it into the ceremony. I’m sure you guys have some beautiful stories that you would love to share, as well as some funny ones! Anything and everything is greatly appreciated and please don't hold back - get as inappropriate as you want! It will definitely be the right crowd for that!

Here is a small questionnaire if you are interested in helping out—

What does love mean to you?

Do you have any stories from the night of your wedding that you would like to share? Or any story you would like to share?

Do you have any advice for the newlyweds?


Thank you so much - I really think that this could make the beautiful ceremony even more special!

Tony
 

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Advise for newlyweds that came from my late parents...we are now on our 53rd year of marriage, so I guess it worked for us.

"Never go to bed mad" My mom and dad would talk it out or fight it out all night long if needed but would never go to bed mad. They were married over 50 years until my dad passed away in 1990

Cameron family we are 72
 
hollydolly said:
Why are people's names and ages required ?..you want a little bit of advice..you don't need to know personal details...
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Not required, thought it would make it more personal in the speech. I edited the name and age part out, thank you for that advice. I didnt mean to sound weird...I'm just a 26 year old guy who is writing a speech for his older brothers wedding. Sorry if i offended anyone..
 
Timewise 60+ said:
Advise for newlyweds that came from my late parents...we are now on our 53rd year of marriage, so I guess it worked for us.

"Never go to bed mad" My mom and dad would talk it out or fight it out all night long if needed but would never go to bed mad. They were married over 50 years until my dad passed away in 1990

Cameron family we are 72
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thank you :)
 
I think you would be further ahead reviewing this info & applying what you learn from it.
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a32019433/reasons-for-divorce/

Married over 60 years some thoughts.

1 Don't lie.
2. Don't abuse either mentally or physically
3. Accept that the challenges of life change be ready to adapt as a couple
4. Don't have his & hers money. All income to be used for common good in marriage.
5. Understand the difference between needs & wants.
6. Never lose the respect you have for your partner.

As for love that takes time to understand what that means to each individual.
 
Officiant1000 said:
Not required, thought it would make it more personal in the speech. I edited the name and age part out, thank you for that advice. I didnt mean to sound weird...I'm just a 26 year old guy who is writing a speech for his older brothers wedding. Sorry if i offended anyone..
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You can make fun of love, as in. "What is love?" It's zero in a tennis match.

You can quote the bible, as in. St. Paul's letter to The Corinthians 13: 4-7. Love is patient; love is kind. It does not envy; it does not boast, it is not inflated. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered or quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury. Love does not delight over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, perseveres through all things. Love never fails.

Or you can show love as romantic, look up Nat King Cole's song: "Nature Boy." The chorus goes:
The greatest thing you'll ever learn
Is just to love and be loved in return

It's your speech so you must put it together. Why don't you come back after the wedding and tell us how it went.
 
horseless carriage said:
You can make fun of love, as in. "What is love?" It's zero in a tennis match.

You can quote the bible, as in. St. Paul's letter to The Corinthians 13: 4-7. Love is patient; love is kind. It does not envy; it does not boast, it is not inflated. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered or quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury. Love does not delight over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, perseveres through all things. Love never fails.

Or you can show love as romantic, look up Nat King Cole's song: "Nature Boy." The chorus goes:
The greatest thing you'll ever learn
Is just to love and be loved in return

It's your speech so you must put it together. Why don't you come back after the wedding and tell us how it went.
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I will do just that. Thank you for your replies!!
 
Knight said:
I think you would be further ahead reviewing this info & applying what you learn from it.
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a32019433/reasons-for-divorce/

Married over 60 years some thoughts.

1 Don't lie.
2. Don't abuse either mentally or physically
3. Accept that the challenges of life change be ready to adapt as a couple
4. Don't have his & hers money. All income to be used for common good in marriage.
5. Understand the difference between needs & wants.
6. Never lose the respect you have for your partner.

As for love that takes time to understand what that means to each individual.
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My DH and I have been married 65 years, and that advise sounds perfect!
 
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