These two are never more than a few feet apart, so while they're getting into things there's a lot of jockeying for position, which involves pushing, which ends in falling, and then there's crying and apologizing and hugging, and we're good to go get into more stuffI remember when my girls were that age and I thought I would lose my mind! So cute but got into everything!
Tara (their mom) is so good at lying. So good, she does it all the time cuz it pays off. Plus, it's obvious that Tara (the caseworker) is naive or inexperienced or maybe just stupid, because Tara (mom) has pulled the wool over her eyes twice now; first time is when she closed the case two months early because the house was clean and mom passed a drug screening, and secondly, now, even after mom tested positive for meth, the father gave testimony against her, it's the second CPS case within a year, and these pictures prove she either abuses Paxton or allows Landon to abuse him or both. Even after all that. It blows me away, seriously.I'm so sad for you Frank. My second job was in adoption/foster care and the focus, the big push, is always for reunification. You, Mike, and Melody may be with your kids again. Tara still may be in no position to care for them.
My heart goes out to you guys, but it's too early to give up hope. Sorry, real sorry.
It hasn't so far. These kids are gonna grow up *knowing* that no one has their backs, no one gives a crap, and they're on their own.The system appears to be very screwed up. I'm hanging on to the hope that the worst doesn't happen. Someone (other than you) needs to put these kids first. That doesn't seem to be happening.
Tara has failed, imo....as a mother. And it's not just the drugs; I'm absolutely convinced she has mental illness. My wish for Tara is that she get really good professional help. She's not a bad person, but she does bad things and I don't think she can help it. And that's not gonna change unless she gets professional help. But I'm talking years of therapy, because her mental health issues go way back, and meanwhile her kids need to be out of the picture so they won't be victims of her mental instability.It's not just the caseworker. They only report what they think they have seen. They have supervisors, and the supervisors have a supervisor. That's the way it was where I worked, a million years ago I know but I doubt if things changed much. I worked for a very famous adoption agency (one file I found was for Sammy Davis, Jr. & May Britt); when abortion came around they were all cursing "There's no WHITE BABIES Anymore!" Anyway, they contracted with the city to take on foster care.
They desperately try to reunify; so many times the kids wound up back in the same foster home that they came from, and often the kids were adopted by the foster parents. Adoption is where I came in.
I'm not hoping for Tara to fail, but it happened more often than not, no matter how many times the kids were reunified with their "Natural Parents."
I think I'm doing all I can but I haven't contacted an ombudsman yet. That'll be my next step if the kids' CPS attorney isn't helpful. She's supposed to call me this week. She's NOT in favor of reunification. In fact, the only person who is in favor is the kids' old caseworker, and she's been replaced.So sorry to hear this. There has to be something you can do.