OMG, I'm retired!!!!

Denisel

Denisel

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Hi there fellow retirees. I didn't plan to retire when I did but here I am, retired n completely unprepared! Living a good quality of life is important to me.now more than ever. I worked from home for many years n had a few good friends I would see from time to time. In the past several years I've lost family n friends, too many. My children are all in their 40s n busy w their own lives. I'm admitting here for the first time that I'm LONELY! I can keep busy only so long each day to block out the feeling but it's always there. Having friendships n interesting conversations with ppl who can relate is just as important as food n water to ppl like me. I offer my time n attention to anyone who can relate to any of this. Let's chat.
 

Hi @Denisel, congratulations on your retirement!

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Welcome @Denisel! I also retired early due to Covid when my company called me in May 2020 and advised they would be terminating my position in June 2020. I also worked from home for 14 years and managed a group of salespeople. I'll admit I was ready to leave because the stress and the 24/7 emails had affected my quality of life. I haven't missed it.

Many say that you need hobbies to fall back on but I find myself spending more time at the gym, more time walking outside and just being in the moment. I never heard birds chirping before and I was always the one at the grocery store wringing my hands because the line wasn't moving fast enough. That no longer happens. I was worried about how I would fill up my days, but they seem to go by pretty quickly. I did read a lot of self-help books at the beginning of my retirement to just make me a better person. I think establishing a routing helps as well. I am in my home office in the morning watching the news and having my coffee, lunch at home, then going to the gym and running errands. It makes me feel like I still have a "schedule".

Re: your loneliness, I was in Sales and managed a group of salespeople so I had constant interactions with people. Where I live in Dallas, people are very friendly so I frequently strike up conversations with strangers. I also find this forum a great outlet for that. There are such great members here with incredible life experiences that they are happy to share. I participated in a Coffee Klatch earlier today where I had the chance to Zoom with other forum members. I felt like they were friends I've known forever because we have been posting back and forth for months. It was great.

I hope that you will find a sense of solace and belonging here, as I have.
 
welcome aboard, @Denisel, from rural Kentucky...

SF is both active and friendly with a global membership.

post and participate. you're sure to find others with threads of commonality here.
 
Welcome, Denisel. We retired a few years ago. I'm not on my own but having DH (dear husband) home ALL the time turned out to be more stressful than I anticipated. Thus, I managed to find several groups to attend and stayed busy all week! Also, we moved upon retiring, so we didn't know anyone in our new home. The groups were a great way to meet new friends - and I have. Even one couple that we now socialize with - rarely, & with masks! Since I do knitting, embroidery and other fabric/fiber crafts, I found a lot of groups and projects - try the library, your town's Recreation Dept, a national guild - with local groups, a place to volunteer..... oh the list goes on. Since we've been at home for the Covid duration, it's going to be hard to get back to all of that - we've gotten too lazy - but I've stayed in touch with new friends by phone. Best wishes - find something you ENJOY!!
 

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2ac426f4-216f-4cfc-87a1-3f35edebc1c7.jpeg @Denisel Congrats on your retirement. Sorry to hear that you ended up to be startled with all the time you have. Everyone settles into it differently. I do understand your loneliness. I think you'll find a lot of comfort here. SF is a great place to share, learn, for friendships and support. Get comfy, look forward to your posts. ENJOY.
 
Hi Denisel,welcome aboard, congrats on your recent retirement.
You'll meet wonderful group of members here at SF from around the world which makes it a cool place to hangout every day which I do .You'll meet new online friends here as well
I took early retirement in March 2011,have no idea where the years have gone but I do stay busy
I have no immediate family who live here,my older sister lives 'across the pond' in England, my younger brother lives in CT I have group of friends I consider my 'Buffalo family"
Enjoy your time here
Sue in Buffalo,NY
 
dseag2 said:
Welcome @Denisel! I also retired early due to Covid when my company called me in May 2020 and advised they would be terminating my position in June 2020. I also worked from home for 14 years and managed a group of salespeople. I'll admit I was ready to leave because the stress and the 24/7 emails had affected my quality of life. I haven't missed it.

Many say that you need hobbies to fall back on but I find myself spending more time at the gym, more time walking outside and just being in the moment. I never heard birds chirping before and I was always the one at the grocery store wringing my hands because the line wasn't moving fast enough. That no longer happens. I was worried about how I would fill up my days, but they seem to go by pretty quickly. I did read a lot of self-help books at the beginning of my retirement to just make me a better person. I think establishing a routing helps as well. I am in my home office in the morning watching the news and having my coffee, lunch at home, then going to the gym and running errands. It makes me feel like I still have a "schedule".

Re: your loneliness, I was in Sales and managed a group of salespeople so I had constant interactions with people. Where I live in Dallas, people are very friendly so I frequently strike up conversations with strangers. I also find this forum a great outlet for that. There are such great members here with incredible life experiences that they are happy to share. I participated in a Coffee Klatch earlier today where I had the chance to Zoom with other forum members. I felt like they were friends I've known forever because we have been posting back and forth for months. It was great.

I hope that you will find a sense of solace and belonging here, as I have.
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Thank u so much for sharing ur story w me. I already feel uplifted n inspired. Was just what I needed n hoped for...something to look forward to.šŸ˜Š
 
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