People With Few Or No Friends Share These Rare Psychological Traits
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Been There
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That was a good video for those that have few or no friends. I was in the military for 30 years. When you stay on the job that long, you are bound to make a lot of friends. My closest friend was my Colonel, which has since become a Brigadier General and has also retired. He lives in California where he originated from and I live in Florida, but we still keep in touch every Monday morning via FaceTime. I loved him and had total respect for him and still do. While in the military, he really guided me and gave me strength.
I think people who have no friends would get a lot from watching this video. They will hear and learn that they are stronger than they imagined. There is some amazing things in there that I never gave thought to.
I think most everyone that has been in the military had made “buddies,” which some have become life long friends.
I think people who have no friends would get a lot from watching this video. They will hear and learn that they are stronger than they imagined. There is some amazing things in there that I never gave thought to.
I think most everyone that has been in the military had made “buddies,” which some have become life long friends.
Nathan
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I like people and having friends, but I keep my own counsel, I can't entrust my view to that of the noisy world.
MarciKS
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people have never understood me and have always been very dismissive of my views. i am perfectly content by myself. i like the quiet space to just be.
Bretrick
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I was nodding my head all through this video.
I have never done or said those "expected things" and people look askance at me.
I have always kept people at a distance and abhor "chit chat".
I understand who I am and why I am who I am and am at peace with that.
You hear the phrase - "No man is an island"
Wrong, I could willingly live alone in the wilderness and never speak to another human being.
Does that make me weird?
I have never done or said those "expected things" and people look askance at me.
I have always kept people at a distance and abhor "chit chat".
I understand who I am and why I am who I am and am at peace with that.
You hear the phrase - "No man is an island"
Wrong, I could willingly live alone in the wilderness and never speak to another human being.
Does that make me weird?
RambleTamble
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Jung had an alternate theory based on shame.
When someone prefers to be alone because of shame, he posited, the cause isn’t true introversion or a healthy desire for solitude. A shame complex forms when painful experiences around appearance, status, family, or self-worth become emotionally charged and semi-autonomous. Being around other people triggers this complex, so the person withdraws to avoid the internal pain, not the people themselves.
Jung would link this to the Shadow, the part of the psyche that holds everything we reject or fear about ourselves. Other people act like mirrors, activating Shadow material the person doesn’t want to face. Solitude, in this case, becomes a defense mechanism: an escape from the aspects of the self that feel unacceptable.
He would also say this reflects a conflict between the Persona (the social mask) and the Shadow. The Persona feels too weak or inadequate to present to others, so the person hides to avoid being exposed. This is what Jung called “negative introversion” — not chosen solitude, but a retreat driven by fear and wounded self-worth.
Ultimately, Jung would see shame-based withdrawal as an inner split. The individual hasn’t integrated the parts of themselves they feel ashamed of, so they avoid situations that might bring those feelings up. Healing, for Jung, comes from confronting and integrating the Shadow, not from shrinking life to avoid triggering it.
When someone prefers to be alone because of shame, he posited, the cause isn’t true introversion or a healthy desire for solitude. A shame complex forms when painful experiences around appearance, status, family, or self-worth become emotionally charged and semi-autonomous. Being around other people triggers this complex, so the person withdraws to avoid the internal pain, not the people themselves.
Jung would link this to the Shadow, the part of the psyche that holds everything we reject or fear about ourselves. Other people act like mirrors, activating Shadow material the person doesn’t want to face. Solitude, in this case, becomes a defense mechanism: an escape from the aspects of the self that feel unacceptable.
He would also say this reflects a conflict between the Persona (the social mask) and the Shadow. The Persona feels too weak or inadequate to present to others, so the person hides to avoid being exposed. This is what Jung called “negative introversion” — not chosen solitude, but a retreat driven by fear and wounded self-worth.
Ultimately, Jung would see shame-based withdrawal as an inner split. The individual hasn’t integrated the parts of themselves they feel ashamed of, so they avoid situations that might bring those feelings up. Healing, for Jung, comes from confronting and integrating the Shadow, not from shrinking life to avoid triggering it.
David777
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The YouTube channel person "Carl Jung Insights" immediately raises flags with this person because they tend to overstate conclusions from their arguments that while they do have some truth to them are relative and much "it depends". So just not to the extent "Carl Jung Insights" claims or so rigidly so. Modern human lives are complex, especially groups within human civilization.
He talks about people that meet the criteria of doing so alone without friends, like that is shared by all those without friends, that is a black and white over-statment that reduces the believability of the rest of his discourse. It also reflects the same small brain play book style of, more of an audience will believe whatever if one speaks with authority and certainty. A favorite with all too many religious and philosophical authorities.
He talks about people that meet the criteria of doing so alone without friends, like that is shared by all those without friends, that is a black and white over-statment that reduces the believability of the rest of his discourse. It also reflects the same small brain play book style of, more of an audience will believe whatever if one speaks with authority and certainty. A favorite with all too many religious and philosophical authorities.
Naturally
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Always been a loner and even today have few if any friends.
In the real, I tend to push people away rather than embrace camaraderie.
That said, I could only watch like the first minute of that video.
I don't need a "pat on the back" for my lifestyle choices.
In the real, I tend to push people away rather than embrace camaraderie.
That said, I could only watch like the first minute of that video.
I don't need a "pat on the back" for my lifestyle choices.
AnneTeak
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introvert vs extrovert
I am an introvert. i enjoy being alone and having a small group of "good friends".
I am coming off a friendship with a narcissist. i had to turn my back on her and our friends but i am a better person for it. I hope now i am stronger to recognize those who take advantage of nice people.
I am an introvert. i enjoy being alone and having a small group of "good friends".
I am coming off a friendship with a narcissist. i had to turn my back on her and our friends but i am a better person for it. I hope now i am stronger to recognize those who take advantage of nice people.
