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I am71 retired with some medical issues but wife 67 still works full time . As result we cant go to florida for the winter, travel and just do things together monday to friday, go to shows together, ect. . So i am bord during the week doing everything by myself. go to gym movie , pool summer, shop eat at dinner during week by myself, not same as going as couple

Are you retired but spouse works full time you are in your 70s and bord and find it difficult to find things to do by yourself. think is is difficult on retired person while spouse still works
 
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i dont play golf play some pool, but most my friends moved away , some died so monday to friday i do everything by myself while my wife works from home, so cant do things together during week . since in ny winter cold weather. Have some back issues cervical disk issues . so much easier people retire together oe same age
 
Welcome back, @martys! Sounds like you are having a pity party. This is the price one pays for having a younger Wife. Support her all you can, it's up to you to figure out how to keep busy at home. Be glad she is working from home and in good health. Couples the same age do not always retire together!
 
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Hi @martys . I'm single, and also bored. I wish I could travel too, but it's not in the cards right now.

I often think my life would be better if I had "someone to do things for." As in, a spouse. Could you spend some of your free time doing things for your wife? Cooking a nice supper or lightening her load in some way. Planning nice activities for the weekend.

Ideally of course, she would quit work and join you in the carefree life. But maybe she has her reasons, and that's for the two of you to figure out. Best wishes.
 
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I am71 retired with some medical issues but wife 67 still works full time . As result we cant go to florida for the winter, travel and just do things together monday to friday, go to shows together, ect. . So i am bord during the week doing everything by myself. go to gym movie , pool summer, shop eat at dinner during week by myself, not same as going as couple

Are you retired but spouse works full time you are in your 70s and bord and find it difficult to find things to do by yourself. think is is difficult on retired person while spouse still works
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One womans husband retired, but she still works from home, he's begun nitpicking at small stuff.

Find a hobby, volunteer, learn to do taxes, go back to school. Don't sit and rot away
 
martys said:
I am71 retired with some medical issues but wife 67 still works full time . As result we cant go to florida for the winter, travel and just do things together monday to friday, go to shows together, ect. . So i am bord during the week doing everything by myself. go to gym movie , pool summer, shop eat at dinner during week by myself, not same as going as couple

Are you retired but spouse works full time you are in your 70s and bord and find it difficult to find things to do by yourself. think is is difficult on retired person while spouse still works
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Enjoy your freedom! Be thankful you can spend the day the way you want, when she retires that will change...
 
Take up bridge. It's a full time activity for some people I know.

Volunteering is good. Learn something new, like painting or programming. My retired friends are into everything from yoga to Bible study to working at food banks. My wife takes French classes at a local center.

Do your medical issues prevent you from working part time? You could clerk at a store.

There is a Kiwanis Club here that meets every week, great for making friends. Until your wife retires you have to make your own path. Even then you should be able to entertain yourself independently. She will like you better for it.
 
I totally understand how you might feel the big mortality clock ticking somewhere and perceive her working as wasting precious time. I do not know an answer…perhaps you could make her set a date?
 
as hubby is 12 years older than me , he decided to retire aged 50 ..( me being 38 )...as we started our 2nd marriage together ,and travelled the world together.......
thankgod he did, as when he should and would of retired , was when he had his stroke.....
 
Learn to enjoy your own company for awhile. I'm sure she'll be retiring some time.

You don't have to be joined at the hip. Find some male friends to do some things with.

There are people with no spouse who manage well on their own. At least she is available when she's off work.
 
My husband retired in 1998 while I continued to work. From that time, until he became ill in 2010, he did many things that he liked to do. Aside from us traveling during my vacation time, he joined a senior center and went there most mornings.

He took on most of the household cleaning and also found out that he liked to cook!! He watched cooking shows and videos and tried out the recipes he thought he could make. Each evening I came home to a nice, hot meal. His brother retired around the same time and became interested in gardening, potted plants really.

You need to search and find that you like to do, or you would like to learn. There are many adult education classes around, sketching/painting/jewelry making/art appreciation/bird watching,
think out of the box. You may make new friends and have something interesting to discuss with your wife over dinner.
I wish you the best.
 
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