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Magna-Carta

Magna-Carta

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I'm sure many of us would love to hear your thoughts, experiences, and advice. Whether you're currently dating, have dated in the past, or are considering getting back into the dating scene, your insights can be valuable to all of us. Are you glad to be out of it, never to engage in 'dating' again?

Have you been dating recently? What has your experience been like? Any surprises or challenges along the way? For those who have dated in the past, how do you look back on those experiences now? Are there any lessons or wisdom you've gained that you'd like to share? Does the whole thing seem like a 'game' at times?

Have you viewed other people's dating advice, as helpful or not?

How might you consider British dating advice for men:

 

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Frankly, I am not quite sure what 'dating' means at various times in life. As a young twenty something I had stopped sampling the many flavors of women and was looking for a life time wife. Thus the old term of courting was very much what dating was then. I never found a wife. Maybe I was just too serious about it or measured and careful.

The fast fling of love of my teenage years just did not fit the sense of love of my 20's. Stopped dating in my 30's and thereafter, preferring to put all my energy in my work since I found it so much fun and enjoyable. Kept me very occupied.

I'd suppose dating now in my 70's would be little more than casual companionship rather than formal courtship as I last remember it. Finding someone to 'date' would be nearly impossible since just finding people to be friends with seems so challenging. Senior isolation seems too prevalent and common the older you get. It would be nice just to have a few friends with some common interests. But, most at my age are and beyond seem more occupied with remembering the past or good old days rather than what tomorrow could be or promises.
 
Magna-Carta said:
I'm sure many of us would love to hear your thoughts, experiences, and advice. Whether you're currently dating, have dated in the past, or are considering getting back into the dating scene, your insights can be valuable to all of us. Are you glad to be out of it, never to engage in 'dating' again?

Have you been dating recently? What has your experience been like? Any surprises or challenges along the way? For those who have dated in the past, how do you look back on those experiences now? Are there any lessons or wisdom you've gained that you'd like to share? Does the whole thing seem like a 'game' at times?

Have you viewed other people's dating advice, as helpful or not?

How might you consider British dating advice for men:

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Very funny video btw ..... I do go out dancing, and such, but no one in that scene as yet that I would really want to get better acquainted with. For me, personality is a big deal. I find it's extremely hard to find someone you just click with (They just seem to get you, and vise versa). It's pretty uncommon, but when you find it, I think it's a beautiful thing.

The challenges seem to be how, or where can you meet that someone (Unless you join a dating site, and that generally isn't a pleasant thought), next, finding someone roughly in your age range, then finding someone you have similar interests with, then that person being someone you have great chemistry with, and lastly that they live somewhere in your vicinity.

Since you can't change your age, and the chemistry is either there or it's not, and it's rather unrewarding to change your interests, it seems the only things you have the ability to change is how or where to meet, or finding a solution to the distance problem, which is doable when the desire is there.

I suppose if a person was very lonely or lonesome, they may be a little less particular, but I'm happy living alone now, so I don't feel all that compelled. If it happens that I find that right person, I'm interested in pursuing it, but if not, it's fine. Other than that, it would just be casual meetups for the social aspect of it, and nothing more.
 

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Very funny video btw ..... I do go out dancing, and such, but no one in that scene as yet that I would really want to get better acquainted with. For me, personality is a big deal. I find it's extremely hard to find someone you just click with (They just seem to get you, and vise versa). It's pretty uncommon, but when you find it, I think it's a beautiful thing.

The challenges seem to be how, or where can you meet that someone (Unless you join a dating site, and that generally isn't a pleasant thought), next, finding someone roughly in your age range, then finding someone you have similar interests with, then that person being someone you have great chemistry with, and lastly that they live somewhere in your vicinity.

Since you can't change your age, and the chemistry is either there or it's not, and it's rather unrewarding to change your interests, it seems the only things you have the ability to change is how or where to meet, or finding a solution to the distance problem, which is doable when the desire is there.

I suppose if a person was very lonely or lonesome, they may be a little less particular, but I'm happy living alone now, so I don't feel all that compelled. If it happens that I find that right person, I'm interested in pursuing it, but if not, it's fine. Other than that, it would just be casual meetups for the social aspect of it, and nothing more.
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I agree with your formula as stated in your first paragraph. And, that does seem an awful lot for older people to meet. I would so much be happiest with just friendly companionship within a group. Too hard to find an individual that meets the formula as you made it. But, a variety of people would or could work together well in a group.

In my late 20's to mid 30's I was in a group called an Extended Family. It was a program created by my church which cobbled together people into groups of 15 to 20, singles and couples, that created sort of a 'family' which it was named as, and which we as members unashamedly strove to create and maintain between us. No one was trying to 'bed' anyone. The group I was in lasted about 13 years.

Eventually, like all families we eventually drifted apart due to deaths, marriages, and job transfers. But, we found amongst ourselves enough differences to make it interesting for all and enough similarity to keep us coming back. I guess that would be a 'dating' of sorts. Sort of a courtship of the many, by the many, for the many. A very different thing than just pairing up. Creating something like this may be better to attempt than 'dating' to the purpose of pairing.
 
The first time I met my wife in person, I felt like I was 15 again, At that time I had not dated in 40 years.
I had met her on line in a grief recovery chat room, as we had both lost our spouses at about the same time. We had people from all over in the chat room, but she asked me where in the world I was. I found out we lived 40 miles apart!
I suggested we meet half way, and the rest is history. We were married on the island of Santorini, and will be celebrating our 16th anniversary next month.
 

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