debbie in seattle
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- Seattle
When my husband retired, he decided he had sleep apnea (he retired 3 years ago). For 20+ years his work hours were such that he'd go to bed at 5pm and get up at 1:30am. His family (10 siblings) are a bunch or nervous nellies, worry about everything, him included. Exhausting when they are all together. Anyway, my husband tried every imaginable product he could find on Amazon to help him sleep. Finally went to the doc, was tested and dx'd with mild apnea and recently was rx'd a cpap machine. He looks like he's got a giant condom on his face with a vacuum hose attached. He hates it, claims the mask doesn't fit right, water leaks all over, doesn't help at all. That being said, any time we've snorkeled, he's complained the mask was defective and leaked water, just like this cpap mask. I suggested he at least TRY meds to see if he could get back to a decent sleep routine, he claimed he's no druggie. His (our) quality of life sucks. He sits in our family room and sleeps all the time. We have an open concept area that has our family room, door to the deck and backyard, dining area and kitchen in this area. I'm stuck in the living room and have access to the bedrooms and (thank god) bathroom), that's it. He becomes angry if I go in the area he's in and wake him up. Daily, his routine is to get up, sit on his computer, go for an hour and half walk, come home, eat lunch, sit down in the recliner, turn on the tv and sleep until dinner, eat dinner, sit down and sleep until bedtime and then toss and turn all night when he goes to bed. Yes, I've discussed with him the sleeping all day and then unable to sleep at night. If something needs to be done around the house, it's only an hour of labor, between lunch and sitting in his recliner, never more.
We're leaving Sunday for Maui for two weeks, and I'm really not looking forward to this trip, he'll sit and sleep and I am basically on my own. He eats dinner and goes to bed, I'm again, on my own from about 6pm on.
I don't mean to be unsympathetic, but this is no life for anyone. Has anyone else experienced this? Yes, he's been to the doctor and is as healthy as a horse, no issues, besides this. He just turned 70, is this how 70 year olds act? We've been married 43 years.
We're leaving Sunday for Maui for two weeks, and I'm really not looking forward to this trip, he'll sit and sleep and I am basically on my own. He eats dinner and goes to bed, I'm again, on my own from about 6pm on.
I don't mean to be unsympathetic, but this is no life for anyone. Has anyone else experienced this? Yes, he's been to the doctor and is as healthy as a horse, no issues, besides this. He just turned 70, is this how 70 year olds act? We've been married 43 years.