Jazzy1
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Is sleeping in separate rooms bad for marriage? (Why/Why Not)
Sleeping in separate bedrooms
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Aunt Bea
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Ain’t nobody’s business. 
Oldeagle66
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My ex smoked in the bedroom so much it smelled terrible. She wouldn't even empty the ashtrays, just got more. She had to move into the spare bedroom. It was a good start to end that marriage of one year.
Ronni
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- Nashville TN
It depends on the reasons a couple are sleeping separately. If they can’t stand to be that close, then the marriage had problems long before they chose separate beds.
Ron and I slept separately for months after his accident. The huge boot he was wearing and need to adjust his position frequently, plus getting up and down numerous times in the night and needing to turn on the light to navigate with his scooter meant that my sleep was disturbed numerous times.
Within a week of him coming home and trying to deal with all that, we decided better for me to sleep in the guest room so I could get sleep and he wasn’t constrained trying to do everything without waking me!
I still sleep In the guest room frequently because his nights continue to be restless…he ices his foot more nights than not, sleeps with his foot elevated, has to arrange the covers just so, and sleeps restlessly, and it makes uninterrupted sleep difficult for me.
The sleeping arrangement hasn’t been bad for our marriage. It didn’t estrange us, it was done with love, out of consideration for each of us and our well being.
Ron and I slept separately for months after his accident. The huge boot he was wearing and need to adjust his position frequently, plus getting up and down numerous times in the night and needing to turn on the light to navigate with his scooter meant that my sleep was disturbed numerous times.
Within a week of him coming home and trying to deal with all that, we decided better for me to sleep in the guest room so I could get sleep and he wasn’t constrained trying to do everything without waking me!
I still sleep In the guest room frequently because his nights continue to be restless…he ices his foot more nights than not, sleeps with his foot elevated, has to arrange the covers just so, and sleeps restlessly, and it makes uninterrupted sleep difficult for me.
The sleeping arrangement hasn’t been bad for our marriage. It didn’t estrange us, it was done with love, out of consideration for each of us and our well being.
MACKTEXAS
Senior Member
If others want or need to do that, it's fine for them, but that was never my choice.
When my wife was in the last few weeks of life, she could only sleep upright in her recliner to breathe well enough to get through the night. Sleeping alone was hard, and just emphasized how little time she had left at that point in time.
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When my wife was in the last few weeks of life, she could only sleep upright in her recliner to breathe well enough to get through the night. Sleeping alone was hard, and just emphasized how little time she had left at that point in time.
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