Survived my first major holiday without my husband~and survived!

debbie in seattle

debbie in seattle

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My husband passed in May and I’ve been dreading this holiday season. Well, surprisingly, I survived and liked it! One of my daughters flew in on Tuesday and we took off Wednesday for a drive to Vancouver, B.C. (only live about 100 miles away). Had a fun time despite the wet, cold miserable rain. We hit some wonderful restaurants and just walking through town to sightsee and on Thursday she signed us up for a ‘food tour’. Had never heard of one nor been on one. We visited four restaurants and ate in each (samples, not a full meal) and got to know our tour mates. Fun, fun time. Most of the folks had been doing this in cities they visit for a long time. There was even a family with 2 young kids in our group, boy are they going to be foodies when they get older!
We learned a lot of history along the way and in general, had a lot of fun. Highly recommend.
Next up, surviving Christmas.
 

Hi, Debbie. The first holidays are always the most difficult. Glad your Thanksgiving went well. Sounds like you had a great time. The food tour idea sounds interesting. Maybe you can tell us more in another post.
in 1980 my mom died at the beginning of December...a week before her 67th birthday, and just before Christmas. THAT was a hard month. But, we knew she would not have wanted us to be sad for long.
Christmas will be a difficult one for you, but having friends and family around will be great for you.
 

Debbie, hang in there, you'll make it. The first year was the worst for me. What helped me my first years was family and friends. I had friends that had been through this before me and they told me to call them if I needed to talk. I would call them and that did me so much good and they were so sweet and supportive! Family also helped but just having someone that I could talk to that understood what it is like seemed to help the most! Maybe you will find someone like that! If I can help, just let me know!
 
Oh I'm very pleased for you Debbie, sounds like your family made sure you were going to have a fun time... it must have been strange at first without him, but thank goodness you've got through without too many tears
 
Glad you had fun and happy you have loving support from your family and a good Thanksgiving, been thinking about you. :sentimental:
 
debbie in seattle said:
My husband passed in May and I’ve been dreading this holiday season. Well, surprisingly, I survived and liked it! One of my daughters flew in on Tuesday and we took off Wednesday for a drive to Vancouver, B.C. (only live about 100 miles away). Had a fun time despite the wet, cold miserable rain. We hit some wonderful restaurants and just walking through town to sightsee and on Thursday she signed us up for a ‘food tour’. Had never heard of one nor been on one. We visited four restaurants and ate in each (samples, not a full meal) and got to know our tour mates. Fun, fun time. Most of the folks had been doing this in cities they visit for a long time. There was even a family with 2 young kids in our group, boy are they going to be foodies when they get older!
We learned a lot of history along the way and in general, had a lot of fun. Highly recommend.
Next up, surviving Christmas.
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Good for you Debbie. I'm happy for you....:)
 
Debbie, pleased you had an enjoyable time with your daughter over the Thanksgiving holiday. Vancouver is a great city (despite the rain) .. but then, so is Seattle (despite the rain) :playful: Having new experiences and making new friends is always a good way to move forward in life. It sounds as though you have a good network of family and friends.
 
Good for you Deb. My mom died many years ago suddenly at the age of 59 in the middle of December. Christmas has not been the same since. I always made it fun for the grands and I enjoy it to a certain extent but I find myself thinking more of her around this time of year. We were going to her house to have an early Christmas with her as she and her oldest sister were going to spend Christmas together for the first time since they were kids. The minister talked about that during her funeral. He said she decided to spend Christmas with our dad who had died several years before. I try to look at it like that knowing they are together. Man did she love him. She married him at 17 and loved him to the day she died.
 
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