Take Friends' Invites seriously?

[CinnamonSugar]

I have a couple people I know from the places I've worked as a travel nurse who've said in the past, "Any time you're in the area, come and stay with me."

Now, I'm looking at being in both their areas in the next few months. The question is--given these comments were made pre-pandemic and I'm sure things in their lives have changed-- do I even take them seriously (you know how folks will say, "We must get together..." and they don't really mean it)?

I've thought about saying, "I'll be in your area in June or October and would love to see you..." hoping they restate the invite-- but that seems pretty passive-aggressive.

Maybe I should just plan on touching base with them while there (lunch, day in town, etc) and have paid accommodations in place.

Thoughts?

 

[Jace]

I think it best..to 'touch base' with them..ahead of time...
Casually.. E-mail
See what their situation is...to 'see' what they say.
Proceed..from there..
What you think best.
Good Luck!

 

[Bella]

I have a couple people I know from the places I've worked as a travel nurse who've said in the past, "Any time you're in the area, come and stay with me."

Now, I'm looking at being in both their areas in the next few months. The question is--given these comments were made pre-pandemic and I'm sure things in their lives have changed-- do I even take them seriously (you know how folks will say, "We must get together..." and they don't really mean it)?

I've thought about saying, "I'll be in your area in June or October and would love to see you..." hoping they restate the invite-- but that seems pretty passive-aggressive.

Maybe I should just plan on touching base with them while there (lunch, day in town, etc) and have paid accommodations in place.

Thoughts?

Since the pandemic, I wouldn't be comfortable staying with them. I'd make plans to stay elsewhere but contact them and let them know you'll be in the area and would love to see them.

 

[Remy]

I don't think your approach is passive aggressive at all.

What would you really prefer? I wouldn't want to stay with anyone. I'd want my space. But I think your approach does leave open the invite if you would want that. And if no invite is given, I'd let that go and perhaps just see them for lunch or something.

 

[NorthernLight]

I understand your hesitation, @CinnamonSugar . Viewing it objectively though, I don't think it's passive aggressive -- if you truly want to see them and aren't just looking for free lodging.

 

[hollydolly]

Good idea to let them know you'll be in the area... say something like now the Pandemic is over, I thought I'd come and visit your area, and wondered if you might want to meet up for dinner.. . If you say you're thinking of coming to the area.. rather than you've made plans to visit.. then it leaves them open to inviting you to stay if the invitation is still open..