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AZ Jim

AZ Jim

R.I.P. With Us In Spirit Only
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Since losing my sweet wife this forum and you,my friends, have become even more important. I'm not quite myself yet but I am trying. It isn't easy after 47 years with my honey to suddenly be alone, but put me down as trying. You guys are helping me limp back into life.
 

I'm glad to see you visiting here Jim, your love was deep and I know your heart is broken, but you're wise to be strong, move on with your life as best you can, Detta would have wanted it that way. Don't give up and keep your positive attitude. :sentimental:
 
SeaBreeze said:
I'm glad to see you visiting here Jim, your love was deep and I know your heart is broken, but you're wise to be strong, move on with your life as best you can, Detta would have wanted it that way. Don't give up and keep your positive attitude. :sentimental:
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Thank you, I always appreciate you and your thoughts. *Cyber HUG*....
 
Jim, I admire the way you are working to get into life on your own. I know that losing a spouse, especially after so many years, is surely one of the hardest things any of us will ever have to face. I'm so glad you are sharing with us as you go along; we all value your friendship. I'm sending you a big hug.

PS: On another thread you mentioned your forays into cooking. A neighbor of mine found himself in the same position and found a class through a local senior center about suddenly having to cook for yourself and how to do it. He really enjoyed it and learned a lot. You might see if there's anything like that near you.
 
Butterfly said:
Jim, I admire the way you are working to get into life on your own. I know that losing a spouse, especially after so many years, is surely one of the hardest things any of us will ever have to face. I'm so glad you are sharing with us as you go along; we all value your friendship. I'm sending you a big hug.

PS: On another thread you mentioned your forays into cooking. A neighbor of mine found himself in the same position and found a class through a local senior center about suddenly having to cook for yourself and how to do it. He really enjoyed it and learned a lot. You might see if there's anything like that near you.
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Thank you! Good idea I'll check that out here. I hope that my sharing my thoughts as I go along doesn't become a "Oh no! Here he is again" kind of thing. I'll try to not overdo my sharing.
 
Hi Jim don't know you too well but my sentiments too - I lost a younger brother a couple of years ago so that hurt at the start but less now. We are all entitled to a grieving time and I hope you have a few buddies who will listen to your grieving. If not try to get some professional support perhaps? All I can say next is there will be a time in the future when you should feel lighter and able to look at some future plans - but that comes later. Pity there's no chat rooms on here - we could have a few yarns!

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Hang in there, Jim. It's been three years since I lost a very special friend and I treasure the time I had with him. We were not married but at times it felt like we were. We spent most of our time together and I will probably never have a relationship like that again. Take your time and slowly ease back into life. There are places I still have not ventured as we had shared them together. But eventually I will as I know he would want me to. I also know he is without pain now and he can dance to his heart's content. Baby steps for awhile.
 
AZ Jim said:
Thank you! Good idea I'll check that out here. I hope that my sharing my thoughts as I go along doesn't become a "Oh no! Here he is again" kind of thing. I'll try to not overdo my sharing.
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Hang in there Jim, we will always be here for you..
 
I agree with all the others' Jim, , it's such early days for you and your grief, only a minute really, so don't be hard on yourself, you're doing a wonderful job, and I know you have health issues yourself ... but we're all here, just call out when you need us ..if one of us doesn't answer the other ones will.. :D
 
Hi Jim,I'm happy you are still posting here where so many of us care about your well being during this difficult time
We're here for you,don't forget that Sue
 
AZ Jim said:
Thank you! Good idea I'll check that out here. I hope that my sharing my thoughts as I go along doesn't become a "Oh no! Here he is again" kind of thing. I'll try to not overdo my sharing.
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Don't you even worry about that!!!! You post all you want Jim! This is a "take what you want and leave the rest" kind of forum, so there will always be readers, no matter who's posting what, and some will respond and some will move on. That's just how these kind of forums work!

And I think it's really important right now that you communicate what's on your mind, no matter what it is and no matter how often you need to talk! Just do it! We're not going anywhere! :love_heart:
 
Jim, get into cooking as was mentioned. Go to your senior center for movies, lunch, cards and other activities.

Do you have a dog or cat?

Sometimes large grocery chains have coffee counters with a few tables and chairs. I've seen seniors gathering there in the mornings.

I'm glad you're keeping up with our forum! :)
 
AZ Jim said:
Since losing my sweet wife this forum and you,my friends, have become even more important. I'm not quite myself yet but I am trying. It isn't easy after 47 years with my honey to suddenly be alone, but put me down as trying. You guys are helping me limp back into life.
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I certainly understand, I lost a special person and it was not easy to accept. I have a picture on the wall and say good morning to that person every day if not verbally a mental thought is in my mind. The person I am with now accepts me for for what is considered unorthodox, but my way.
 
Hi Jim: Try to keep busy. Easy to say for me but it really helps. Just hang in there . I can't imagine what it is like to lose the love of your life but life goes on. All the best from us. Don't forget to keep posting.....That helps, I'm sure...
 
If you don't have a dog or a cat and you like them, they sure do help especially with the loneliness. I lost my spouse and have a pet and it has been a lot of company for me.
 
Jim... I am really sorry for your loss, but maybe joining a support group with other people that are in your situation and have just lost a close loved one would help you by being able to discuss your feelings with other people that have also lost a close loved one. Generally, people do find some relief by being able to talk about their feelings to others that are understanding and who would be more understanding that someone in the same situation? Just a suggestion.
 

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