This is an issue for many. I don't have a problem with it for many of the same reasons you mentioned. It's a life choice for me. Sometimes I wish I had another person around, usually to share a wonderful experience, but NOT being alone comes with it's share of problems too. Being alone can be a wonderful experience. Here's an extreme example: Years ago, after leaving Chicago for good, I found myself in the mountains of Montana. I loved hiking the wilderness trails and high lakes. I was new to the area, and was yet to meet friends. So here I was by myself at a high lake with no one around for miles on a two day over night-er, and I became hyper sensitive to that magical feeling of being alone. I was filled with gratitude. I know that experience is special, relying on a certain context of a perfect kind of "alone," but I naturally gravitate to that.I'm alone now and quite happy to converse with others in the same situation. However, I enjoy being alone so you won't get any whingeing from me. I am now able to spend time on the things I enjoy without having to explain myself to anyone. I can watch the afternoon movie and not have to get up before it's finished, because I have to make a meal. I can sit there until it's ended and then get something to eat. I can re-arrange my furniture as often as I wish.
In other words, living with other people causes a lot of hassle. Being alone gives you freedom to please yourself.
As I write this at my computer, my new puppy, which became part of my home three weeks ago, is under the desk, lying on my feet. It's a wonderful experience, but not less than 10 minutes ago we were having an altercation over him jumping on me scratching and biting with his puppy teeth, and the little bugger had the audacity to argue with me about it. Yes, puppies argue in their own insistent puppy way, and before that, he peed on the floor.Dog walking ?
Yes, there are many wonderful experiences that can only happen when you are alone.'That magical feeling of being alone'.....I can so relate to that. I can't get into a spiritual feeling while there are other people around me. I can go into the woods and feel connected to nature but, as soon as people arrive on the scene, the feeling vanishes. Humans give off coarse energy, which affects the atmosphere around them.
Yes there certainly are good things about being alone I don't have to answer to anybody.I'm alone now and quite happy to converse with others in the same situation. However, I enjoy being alone so you won't get any whingeing from me. I am now able to spend time on the things I enjoy without having to explain myself to anyone. I can watch the afternoon movie and not have to get up before it's finished, because I have to make a meal. I can sit there until it's ended and then get something to eat. I can re-arrange my furniture as often as I wish.
In other words, living with other people causes a lot of hassle. Being alone gives you freedom to please yourself.
I enjoy my alone time too. Welcome to our threadI enjoy my alone time. I find one needs to be comfortable with ones own company to feel OK with alone time..
There are times when I get a bit lonely..not feeling sorry for myself, just needing company. That is when shooting down to the community room to visit friends helps.
Glad you're here hd.
Sounds like you use your time very wisely. You are an inspiration to me. I was really into art many years ago. I need to give myself a good kick to get back to itWell, Sure I miss intimacy, laughter, sharing incredible moments with a big, hunky man. But, I look at being alone at this time of my life as a growth period. I have a lot more time for spiritual communication, for creating. I love solitude for writing poetry, articles, stories., books. I enjoy sculpting, painting, and many ideas come forth in one's aloneness.
Time and how it's spent is dictated only by me. I can listen to Roy Orbison at 3:00 A.M., eat beef stroganoff for breakfast, take a bubble bath in the middle of the afternoon. I can stick my dog in the car and take off to some mountain stream, or go watch the Sun come up.
I guess solitude has good aspects and bad, but I'm adjusting. I don't really have friends or family here.
Self-indulgence is a strange feeling.
Good luck with itI have exhausted, several times, my efforts to find something I can do, will do, and like to do that is a 4 or so an hour a day job- mainly covid isolated--seems like I could find something.-I have a loooonnnngggg list of stuff I wont do, don't want to do-namely phones personal contact with public dealing with angry demanding people - and typing---not going to do it.....period..what is left....that pretty much eliminates all c/s and online jobs......
there might might be something somewhere that would involve mac's and supporting a one or two person shop- as an minimal typing assisting support type-
someone on here may say the magic word that will tweak an idea that I have not yet researched.....likely it will generate the inevitable opportunity for repeated and unproductive criticism --go for it.I am good with it.....and have a nice day-
I agree. I lived all of my life with others, much of the time as a care giver and I am totally at peace with living alone. I don't believe I would ever want to live with anyone again. I am at a place in my life where I can do what I want. I have quite a few years of work left so much of my time is spent working but I enjoy the peace and quiet of being alone.I'm alone now and quite happy to converse with others in the same situation. However, I enjoy being alone so you won't get any whingeing from me. I am now able to spend time on the things I enjoy without having to explain myself to anyone. I can watch the afternoon movie and not have to get up before it's finished, because I have to make a meal. I can sit there until it's ended and then get something to eat. I can re-arrange my furniture as often as I wish.
In other words, living with other people causes a lot of hassle. Being alone gives you freedom to please yourself.
I think the usual assumption is that people who live alone are lonely. However, the responses on here have been positive ones from people who actually appreciate the benefits of not sharing your life with someone. I think perhaps Ruthanne intended this to be a sort of 'therapy' thread for those who ARE lonely and need sympathy and comfort. The thread doesn't seem to have attracted the lonesome ones yet.I did. I posted my "concerns" for others who live alone by sharing some ideas of things I do that help me.
And "I talked about anything". So what is your point?
Okay, guess I won't join your "Alone Club" It's okay...I just found your critique of my post to be a bit odd and exclusive.
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