The wearing of a wedding ring still as significant nowadays?

grahamg

grahamg

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Another thread put this thought in my head, (I'll let you guess which one):
"Do we believe the wearing of a wedding ring has the same significance today"?

This is addressed at all those who marry obviously, whether others choose to alter their behaviour when they notice a wedding ring on the finger of a man or woman, (mostly women still I guess?)?

I do know a woman who was unable to remove her wedding ring long after her husband left her, and married again, (probably still loving her husband/ex. husband), so attached to it did she feel.
 

A bit of research on thread topic:

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"........I watch as the couple nervously place the rings on each other’s hands and stare at them with a look that says, “I’m NEVER taking this off!”

It saddens me that so many couples do take them off. Sometimes it happens because of very practical reasons like skin conditions or work environments that aren’t conducive to jewelry, but most of the time, a person simply prefers not to wear it and invents justifications for why it’s not really important."
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".... wearing a wedding ring is more important than you might think for the following six reasons (in no particular order)…"

1. Whether or not you’re wearing a ring is one of the FIRST things people notice when they meet you and they’ll often make assumptions about your availability and your commitment to your marriage based on the ring’s presence or absence.

2. Your ring is a daily reminder to you that every decision you make will impact your spouse in some way.

3. Your ring is a symbol of RESPECT for your spouse.

4. Your ring is a first line of defense against infidelity.

5. Your ring is a visible symbol to your kids that your marriage matters.

6. There aren’t really any good reasons for NOT wearing it!

https://marriagetoday.com/marriagehelp/why-wedding-rings-matter-more-than-you-think/
 
Widowed mom wore hers.

I stopped when wife died and inadvertently shipped mine and my late wife's to one of her sisters when sending her my wife's pearls. She returned the rings which I keep in wife's office.

I think my wife wore hers all the time, even when undergoing her many medical operations. I didn't wear mine when working outside, mowing, etc. given that I'm such a klutz and afraid of losing or damaging it.
 
My mother said when the widow is ready she wears the ring on her right hand. As for me, I couldn't wear a ring and I play with rings & they end up irritating my skin. My husband never wore a ring, nor did my dad.
 
I love my wedding and engagement rings!! It helps that I love jewelry, period, and my rings are some of my prettiest jewelry. I have my engagement ring, and two other diamond encrusted rings I wear on each side of my engagement ring. I never take them off except to clean them.

Ron's wedding ring is inlaid with koa wood and abalone, and he never takes his off either.
 
A lot of people are wearing those silicone rings at work now so that folks know they're married but the silicone rings are safer. There's a gal I work with who has one tattooed on her finger and so does the husband. That way they're still wearing it at work. Most of the folks I know that are married still sport their wedding rings.
 
At the end of work day, my rings came off when my work clothes did. They weren’t uncomfortable, just habit because they’d get dirty while cooking. Until Covid, I only wore them when out of the house. Now, they’re only on when I’m not going to be in a store touching anything. DH never takes his off.
 
grahamg said:
A bit of research on thread topic:

Quote:
"........I watch as the couple nervously place the rings on each other’s hands and stare at them with a look that says, “I’m NEVER taking this off!”

It saddens me that so many couples do take them off. Sometimes it happens because of very practical reasons like skin conditions or work environments that aren’t conducive to jewelry, but most of the time, a person simply prefers not to wear it and invents justifications for why it’s not really important."
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".... wearing a wedding ring is more important than you might think for the following six reasons (in no particular order)…"

1. Whether or not you’re wearing a ring is one of the FIRST things people notice when they meet you and they’ll often make assumptions about your availability and your commitment to your marriage based on the ring’s presence or absence.

2. Your ring is a daily reminder to you that every decision you make will impact your spouse in some way.

3. Your ring is a symbol of RESPECT for your spouse.

4. Your ring is a first line of defense against infidelity.

5. Your ring is a visible symbol to your kids that your marriage matters.

6. There aren’t really any good reasons for NOT wearing it!

https://marriagetoday.com/marriagehelp/why-wedding-rings-matter-more-than-you-think/
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I would have to disagree with some of this list. my husband works with machinery as mentioned can be dangerous if jewelry is caught. I met a co-worker who lost his ring finger not heeding that danger.

#1) perhaps I am different ......I seldom notice rings on others ever. I work with a few people and quite frankly have no idea about their marital status. next time I see them I will look......... and see if they have a ring.... just never thought about it.

#2) that is a good thought but not sure how many use that reminder .... I would think that should be on your mind anyway.

#3) I would agree as some people are more attached to symbols then others....

#4) I think that has little difference ... some wanting a fling etc look for a ring.
If you have seen some sitcoms where a character puts on one to go out that had a reason based in it happens.

#5) The behavior towards each other says much more to kids about your marriage then a ring..... actions speak much louder to kids then hollow words or a ring would.

#6) some work places want you to wear the silicone band instead of a ring... not sure if it is about safety as some settings poke up higher then others or a health thing worried about bacteria etc in settings
I also knew a few ladies that perhaps the setting was not well done ........ that but they lost diamonds etc and chose to not wear ring where it could be damaged.
 
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MarciKS said:
A lot of people are wearing those silicone rings at work now so that folks know they're married but the silicone rings are safer. There's a gal I work with who has one tattooed on her finger and so does the husband. That way they're still wearing it at work. Most of the folks I know that are married still sport their wedding rings.
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Tattooed wedding rings have become very popular according to the gal who does my ink. I think it'd be bit problematic if you decided to get a divorce, you can't just simply take a tattooed ring off. 🤦‍♀️ I know two couples who've had rings tattooed, but also wear traditional wedding bands and the women also an engagement ring, and when they're on the fingers they hide the ink.

Also, more and more with the younger generation, the woman's engagement is also her wedding ring. She wears the engagement ring through her engagement, takes it off so the man can put it on her finger, and that's that.
 
grahamg said:
Another thread put this thought in my head, (I'll let you guess which one):
"Do we believe the wearing of a wedding ring has the same significance today"?

This is addressed at all those who marry obviously, whether others choose to alter their behaviour when they notice a wedding ring on the finger of a man or woman, (mostly women still I guess?)?

I do know a woman who was unable to remove her wedding ring long after her husband left her, and married again, (probably still loving her husband/ex. husband), so attached to it did she feel.
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For traditional, old-fashioned folks like myself, rings have meaning.

Both dear husband and I have worn our rings from day one.

I like to think that people, especially men, notice mine, because in my books that means "I'm taken".
 
Wedding rings are a symbol of commitment to your significant other. The ring signifies that you are in a committed relationship and having the ring on you at all times goes to show that you are open about this and that you are willing to show it off. Seeing the ring on your finger on a daily basis can also serve as a reminder to your partner about how much they mean to you and that it is them out of everyone else that you chose to spend the rest of your life with.
 
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I don't wear mine around the house, but I always wear it when I go out in public. It does not feel right if it is not on my finger. On the rare occasion when I did drive off without it, I always turn around and go home to get it.

Wearing that ring is a statement that I love this woman who shares my life.

I have noticed that my wife does the same thing and I appreciate that.
 
grahamg said:
A bit of research on thread topic:

Quote:
"........I watch as the couple nervously place the rings on each other’s hands and stare at them with a look that says, “I’m NEVER taking this off!”

It saddens me that so many couples do take them off. Sometimes it happens because of very practical reasons like skin conditions or work environments that aren’t conducive to jewelry, but most of the time, a person simply prefers not to wear it and invents justifications for why it’s not really important."
Break
".... wearing a wedding ring is more important than you might think for the following six reasons (in no particular order)…"

1. Whether or not you’re wearing a ring is one of the FIRST things people notice when they meet you and they’ll often make assumptions about your availability and your commitment to your marriage based on the ring’s presence or absence.

2. Your ring is a daily reminder to you that every decision you make will impact your spouse in some way.

3. Your ring is a symbol of RESPECT for your spouse.

4. Your ring is a first line of defense against infidelity.

5. Your ring is a visible symbol to your kids that your marriage matters.

6. There aren’t really any good reasons for NOT wearing it!

https://marriagetoday.com/marriagehelp/why-wedding-rings-matter-more-than-you-think/
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My wedding ring comes off at night, as you said, skin conditions can effect the wearing of rings. In the early days I used to get psoriasis under the wedding ring. Having said that, I won't go out of the house without my wedding ring on.

The list of reasons for not wearing a wedding ring is not to my liking, it comes across as dictatorial. The wedding ring, like the marriage certificate, are both symbols of an oath. Some take that oath seriously others think that a marriage certificate is no more that a piece of paper. My answer to that is, a bank note is no more than a piece of paper. It's what it represents that matters, everything that I vowed at the altar when I married my wife, is as important today as was fifty-two years ago. It's an outward sign that I am so very proud to say, I'm married. Fidelity has stayed strong in our relationship.
 
I have worn my mother's since the moment that she died,
I didn't let it go cold.

Does that make me creepy?

Mike.
 

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