Those Ol' School Mates

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CallMeKate

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Anyone keep in touch with old school mates? About 6-7 years ago, my class started a Facebook group and I thought that was so great to see what became of everyone. Only there wasn't much "regular talk" going on at the time... and NOW it's like I see a notification from the group and my thought is "oh no, who died now?" Not even kidding... the only group postings are obits. Kind of creepy, come to think of it.

Anyhow, over last weekend I got a FB friend request from a gal in the class. And then a private message to confirm I am who she thought I am. I didn't answer either because well my goodness, I don't think I ever said more than a dozen words to her in those 12 years of school so... well she's very nice, but I just think that's kind of silly. That said, I *do* have four people connected as friends from my class, but they were actually friends. We rarely even talk, though.
 

Stayed in contact with no one from school. My name is common enough that if I was searched on facebook, many with my name come up and I don't have my home town listed or the town I live in now. Cats are my profile picture. I don't think people would find me, not that I have a delusion that anyone would want to.
 
When our class reunion was being planned the coordinator connected on Facebook. That led to friend requests.
At first I was adding friends but quickly realized there were very few I really wanted to connect with. Over some years I have quietly dropped most and kept a few.
 

hearlady said:
When our class reunion was being planned the coordinator connected on Facebook. That led to friend requests.
At first I was adding friends but quickly realized there were very few I really wanted to connect with. Over some years I have quietly dropped most and kept a few.
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That's how it was for me, too. I kept the four that I actually considered friends and hit the delete friend button after a while from the eight or so people I'd connected to concerning the reunion. I've never attended a reunion and haven't regretted it. It was an eye-opener to realize how many classmates I never actually interacted with at all at school.
 
Remy said:
Stayed in contact with no one from school. My name is common enough that if I was searched on facebook, many with my name come up and I don't have my home town listed or the town I live in now. Cats are my profile picture. I don't think people would find me, not that I have a delusion that anyone would want to.
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Same here. I did get curious a few years ago about what had become of the popular guys from my high school, looked 'em up on linkedin.com and my guess was correct: most had become corporate lawyers or CEOs.
 
Yes, I have reconnected with many old classmates through facebook. It's interesting to see them and how we have changed, and not changed :ROFLMAO:, and what they are doing now.
 
I am friends with many classmates from three different schools I attended. We do talk a lot and probably if I ever traveled to FL I would visit them all. My classmates from the NY school I attended I knew as a child only. Since we moved to FL when I was going into the fifth grade in 1962. In fact, my boyfriend was in my NY class from kindergarten through fourth grade but we were not friends then. Every morning I post a good morning on fakebook and have more than a few of my classmates reply back.
 
I will have to say that old school mates, some early childhood friends broke my heart. There were many that came to my husband's viewing just looking to have a highschool reunion. We had not spoken to or see each other in 30 years but they felt this was an appropriate time to just show up. It made me want to vomit, I had to keep my composure in the worst time of my life. What would make a person do such a thing?

Same thing happened when our best family friend passed. He did not have a service or funeral after being there first hand at my husband's funeral. They were all calling, this and that, what was going to happen to his house, all his tools etc. He never married or had children and was not close with his family. He made all his own arrangements and took me with him, then handed all the paperwork to me. This was 10 years after my husband died. His ashes now sit in my china cabinet with my husband's. He also made a will and left everything to my husbands and my child, since he did not have his own, that was a schock.

My son let the brothers come to his home to take what ever they wanted. No they did not want photos, things their brother cherished, even his much loved dog. His brother's did not contest, they knew we were really his family. They took a few tools, an air compressor etc. Lord God, why did they even come, just to show how much they didn't care. I am not shocked by a lot but this really shook me. By the way, I have the dog, the Bear Bear, picture attached.
 

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I've recently reconnected with my best friend from high school. Though I rarely look in Facebook, I saw
her brother's profile there, and left him a message to say "hi" to her, for me. We've exchanged a few
email's so far. Whether our correspondence will continue, is anyone's guess. I just wanted her to know
how grateful I was for her mother and her family's kindness to me, and how they seemed to know how lost I was back then.
 
I didn't attend any school long enough to acquire childhood friends......but I am still in contact with one I made when I returned age 30...50 years now.
 
I had only 23 kids in my graduating class. We had 8 guys and 15 girls. I'm 76, and I know 4 of the guys have passed. The girls married, and changed their names. So, for me, a high school FaceBook page wouldn't be about climbing Mt Everest.
 
I attended a farm-type school, that is very small and local...
Turns out i had some "mental" issues that sorta kept people
from getting close to me....so I never heard from any of my
school mates after graduation, went to Navy and on return
was just ignored, so stayed in navy awhile longer...couple yrs ago I happened to get on the city facebook of my home town
and the few that are left from class of '57 acted like i was
a long lost love !!!!! BS.....after a few days on the city site I left it and then later lost access to fakebook,,,,, ,so there it is......
 
I had an unusual situation. I stared school in a small mountain town and went to that school through 8th grade. That summer I was preparing to be a freshman in the town High School. Were my sister had graduated a few years earlier.

But that summer we picked up and moved to a larger town and I had to go to 9th grade in a local Jr. High School, as 9th grade was still Jr. High. That was a bummer! Then next year I am going to a very large core city high school one of 5 high schools in that town. Although, I really missed all the kids I grew up with, it turned out that I made a lot of new friends in the new larger schools and the transition was not bad at all.

But 50 years later I get invitations to go to both class reunions. They are scheduled a weekend a part. I ended up going to both and it was an absolute blast. I saw lots of old friends some I had not seen since 8th grade. One sad thing is I found out my very best friend from my small town, who was my #1 friend from 1st grade thru 8th grade had been killed a year after graduation. He was in a car accident up in Alaska where he was working.

But it was great to see all my old friends. I had only been in touch with a couple of old friends from high school over the years, so seeing the others was really fun...!
 
hawkdon said:
acted like i was
a long lost love !!!!! BS.....after a few days on the city site I left it and then later lost access to fakebook,,,,, ,so there it is......
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Yes, this! The snooty girls, the witchy girls, the mean girls, the overly confident boys, the sports jocks who never said a single word to me during our school years suddenly wanted to be "friends" on Facebook. I got over that real fast. (But I'll have to say that it was kinda fun seeing how far some of those haughty people had fallen.) šŸ„³
 
There were only 15 of us, all guys, in my graduating class. 5 have passed on, 3 have lost touch, and the other 7 of us talk on the phone, message, go for lunch, a few times a year, not always as a group, but we are definitely a family. Next year is our 50th anniversary.
 
I quit school on my 16th birthday and wasn't interested in seeing any of those people again. Of course they weren't all bad. I did run into a couple of them some years later, but nothing came of it.

Then a couple of years ago, my sister asked me if I remembered a certain male classmate. I said yes, I didn't know him well, but he seemed like a nice person. Turns out he had contacted my sister on Facebook, saying he looked forward to reconnecting. She (rather rudely, I thought) told him she had no idea who he was. My sister's first name and mine are somewhat similar, so I guess he thought she was me.

I looked him up online, and he seems like a nice person who has had an interesting life. We would have had a lot to talk about!

So much for my old schoolmates.
 

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