Tomorrow would have been my 50th Wedding Anniversary....

jujube

jujube

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……...and I can't get my head around the fact that I'll be "celebrating" it with someone other than the handsome young soldier I stood up with at the altar and promised to love, honor (but not "obey"). He's been gone for over 13 years.

I'm not sure what to do tomorrow. I could dig my wedding dress and veil out of the trunk and blubber over it a little. I can't put it on 'cause only my left leg would fit into it these days. My mother and sisters will call me and I don't know if it's going to be comforting or upsetting. I can look at the wedding pictures and wonder at those "kids" getting married. We were 21 and 23 and barely knew each other.

It was a good marriage. It wasn't a "perfect" marriage.....we were pretty different people and we clashed often but we always kissed the emotional bruises and mustered on....but it was a good marriage and it was definitely one that would have gone the distance.

But....I've moved forward and almost ten years ago found new love. It's not the same; it can't be, but we're making it work. We'll never marry....once was enough for me, twice was enough for him.

Tomorrow's going to be a bumpy ride.
 

Jujube, I know it must be very hard to think about what might have been and that it would have been your 50th anniversary. I'm sorry for your loss and I know there will always be a part of your heart that will always hurt, especially when these sentimental dates come around. Will be thinking of you tomorrow, hugs.
 
It's hard, but maybe try to make it a day of celebration
for all the good memories you were blessed to have
and that some never experience. We're here for you.



 
Try to enjoy a quiet day of reflection focusing on the good years you both shared.

Sometimes service to others is a source of solace, maybe you can find another handsome young soldier or a worthy organization that could help put your time to good use on this difficult day.

Stop in and see us, maybe share a memory or two.
 
Oh dear jujube, I feel your bewilderment, but you sound
like a very strong person, so think about the past and
if you feel like weeping, think about something silly that
happened and you will be laughing instead of crying.

I wish you a peaceful day tomorrow.

Mike.
 
Hugs Jujube❣️

My 50th anniversary would have been next year. Although it’s been 15 years since he died I still get jealous of older couples.

MY marriage also sounds similar to yours....we were very different but it worked.

I’ll be thinking of you, and I’m sure you’ll spend the day doing what feels right.
 
Oh honey, I'm so sorry. :(

I know a couple of folks who lost husbands too soon. Married right out of high school or shortly thereafter. Expected to be together forever, but fate stepped in and took the husbands away, shockingly and unexpectedly. It can't be easy, though it's hard for me to relate, honestly. I was so incredibly grateful to finally escape my wretched marriage after feeling trapped for 30 years.

But I'm envious too. Envious of people like you, and like my friends, who can look back on happy, meaningful marriages, and though there's the pain of the loss, there is only joy for the union, the togetherness and partnership. While I cannot imagine the pain of your loss, I do envy you your wonderful memories.

I found this the other day. I kept it because I'll share it when the time is right, with my grandkids who lost their Mom, and their other Grandmother who lost her daughter. Perhaps it will help you. <3
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I can only imagine your sadness, jujube. My wife and I almost mirrored your meeting. We were 17 and 19, me in my uniform and she a junior in high school. We married at 20 and 22 and here we are still strolling along together. Been together now for 66 years, 63 of them married. I hope that you have family and friends nearby that can help share your grief. Best wishes!
 
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