Truth or Fiction: the very thing that attracted you, will likely be what ends you
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That Lady in PA
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I haven't heard that, and I don't know it to be true (for myself or for my friends).
MACKTEXAS
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From my observation, couples do best when they share common traits, core values and beliefs. We did not, and I take the blame. I was too immature and unprepared to settle down at the time we got married. And so, the early years were a struggle that could have ended our relationship, but thankfully we finally got on the same page and made it through.
I will explain the relationship I referred to. A co-worker and I began to date and stated he admired very much
my relationship with my sons. He never had a close one with his parents and he commented on it all the time.
He wanted to have the same with his daughters. But he didn't consider he was not me and a very different person.
He became jealous eventually of the close relationship of my sons and I then in so many words told me to choose.
So , I did. I had enough love for all but he wanted it all basically.
my relationship with my sons. He never had a close one with his parents and he commented on it all the time.
He wanted to have the same with his daughters. But he didn't consider he was not me and a very different person.
He became jealous eventually of the close relationship of my sons and I then in so many words told me to choose.
So , I did. I had enough love for all but he wanted it all basically.
Aunt Bea
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Similar beliefs go back to biblical times.
IMO it’s just a simple way of explaining something that we do not understand or care to admit to ourselves about ourselves.
IMO it’s just a simple way of explaining something that we do not understand or care to admit to ourselves about ourselves.
CaliS
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@Aunt Bea ... I was the moth! lol .....
I was married to my first husband for 20 years and had 2 children together. It was a roller coaster relationship, and in the end -- it did not work out.
@IrishEyes Several things that initially attracted me to him turned out to be very bad things for us in the long run!
For young girls, Bad Boys can be very attractive --- but in the long run, not so much.
I think @MACKTEXAS is very correct --- "couples do best when they share common traits, core values and beliefs."
I was married to my first husband for 20 years and had 2 children together. It was a roller coaster relationship, and in the end -- it did not work out.
@IrishEyes Several things that initially attracted me to him turned out to be very bad things for us in the long run!
For young girls, Bad Boys can be very attractive --- but in the long run, not so much.
I think @MACKTEXAS is very correct --- "couples do best when they share common traits, core values and beliefs."
George1959
Senior Member
Yes, this is almost a truism. But this will go on and on. The girls don't learn from the experience of their older sisters, mothers or aunts.
You can't persuade another person that he/she is wrong. They won't believe it. They must try it and fail. And not even then they learn from it. No, they do it again. I know several examples.
CaliS
girl next door
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Well, George - I did learn from my mistake.
I was lucky to meet a very nice man later in life and we are very happy together. He is NOTHING like my first husband. We have a lot in common and share the same core values. And, while he is kind, honest, hard working and a good person - he is in NO way boring!!
I agree that many young girls are unable to learn from other's and have to make their own mistakes. That is true for almost everyone. Also true, that some folks seem to make the same mistakes over and over. Thankfully, not me.
